I don't really see how it's possible to argue that in a society that provides such fertile ground for such behavior. I have known quite a number of young men who handle their testosterone in ways other than being idiots or douchebags -- even those who seem to have an insane amount of it to all appearances.
This is a society that has plenty of self-hating women who will reward that behavior. That alone is a good enough reason why these people exist, at least to the extent that they do. Not everyplace has this kind of culture, and thus these kinds of guys, in the way we do.
People who are idiots are simply idiots. You are arguing that people who endanger their own lives simply because of ego with no purpose are leaders. No, they're teachable moments and Darwin Awards, and they are doing it because they are so insecure they can't stand when people aren't looking at them. Don't be ridiculous.
People who are douchebags are usually insecure and not very successful in society as a whole, at least not unless they are simultaneously extremely intelligent and selective about how and when they're douchebags, and when they are, they do it to the max. But that's a rare combination, and those people are called sociopaths, not "alpha males," while the former less intelligent variant is just a garden variety loser.
There are asshole men, or, at the very least, men with a penchant for asshole behavior, pretty much everywhere. Our society is not in any sense unique in that regard.
As far as the "Darwinian" implications are concerned, you have to keep in mind that humanity's current circumstances are not the same as what would have existed for the vast majority of our history.
Today, being an impulsive and fearless hyper-aggressive jerk is generally a liability. When looking through the lens of our evolutionary past, however, it would not have been.
Those kinds of men would have been valuable, as they were willing to take risks, and therefore reap rewards, that other men would not. Likewise, this would have made them more attractive as potential mates, therefore increasing the probability that they would pass on their genes.
It simply happens to be the case that our species' mating instincts haven't quite caught up with its circumstances just yet.
This problem is further compounded by the rather "law of the jungle" approach to mating and courtship that has come to be adopted in our society in recent decades. While you are correct in pointing out that "douchebags" tend not to go very far in life, that generally is not apparent in their High School or College years, where women usually aren't looking to "settle down" anyway.
At that point in their lives, these kinds of men are basically at their peak. They tend to get positively absurd amounts of action as such.
You haven't the faintest idea what dominance even is, for how much you talk about it. It doesn't really seem to compute with you, which I guess is expected -- the people who obsess over it most are those who don't get it. But even if you were actually right about that, then what you would be talking about is dominant people who are simultaneously screwed up in some way. So, same conclusion: screwed up people hang out with other screwed up people.
You also don't seem to grasp that people are not like cats who are in their mating cycle, even when it's been presented to you on a platter. People who've looked into this conclude that PUA's, who are really just a formalized type of "bad boy," which we have seen some form of in every generation, only attract people like themselves: people with issues.
That reflects my own experience in non-formal douchebaggery as well. "Bad boys" are men with issues, and they wind up with women with issues.
So, I don't know who on earth you hang out with, but if you actually see "women" as a whole attracted to (acting on it or not) losers and idiots as a rule, I think you ought to take a look at how you wound up in that kind of crowd.
But I don't actually think you see that. I think that's just the narrative of people you like to have in your head for your own comfort. Life is much simpler if you erase 90% of what makes people tick and try to simplify it down to a point where there's no longer stuff you can't answer.
Yeesh, calm down. :lol:
First off, as I pointed out before, a lot of this depends upon how one defines "losers," "bad boys," and "douchebags" in the first place.
We may not even have the same definition.
Secondly, I'm not questioning the assumption that like tends to attract like. I actually said otherwise. I'm simply pointing out that there are factors at play here beyond the simply psychological.
Honestly, the biggest among them is whether a person tends to favor a more long term mating strategy utilizing just a few partners, or the short term variety utilizing many.
Young women, and women who favor the more short term strategy in general, tend to be inclined to favor "bad boys." Older women, and women who favor the long term strategy - while they probably do still find many aspects of the bad boy persona appealing on a superficial level - will generally avoid them, as they smell all the other trouble entanglement with that type of man tends to entail.