Again, when one walks into a room and see's another human being you have to make assumptions on outward appearances. That person may identify as whatever they like but the reality is that the outward appearance is impossible to ignore.
We can accept an explanation by the individual and respect their point of view. I have no arguments against an individuals choice to identify how ever they please. But there is no rational reason that I must accept that the man dressed in womens clothing is actually a real women. You can pretend to be a women or even believe that you are women, but the body that I see says otherwise. There is no slight or anything wrong with seeing what you see. At best you can accept that the person who looks like a guy wants to be thought of as a gal. In most cases you would need the person to explain their position since there exists many examples of people who's plumbing matches their gender identity, that chose to wear socially opposite clothing for whatever reason. There just isnt any real way to know how person identifies unless they tell you. And once they tell you, you will categorize them based on your own outlook and opinions. Right or wrong those opinions cannot be forced onto the other individual in either direction, that is to say if my opinions differ from yours, you need not accept my opinions, though you could tolerate them.
Personally I accept and respect however a person identifies them self. My opinion that, that person may look like a guy, even though they tell me they are a women does not change anything. It would be rude for me to tell them that, but I can think it without any harm as long as I do not treat them any differently than any other person there is no problem. I just cannot lie to myself and pretend that what I see isnt what I see. I mean a person is called transgender for a reason, there is no rational reason that I must pretend that they are not transgender, and asserting that one must accept that a person is a women rather than a transgender women seems a bit delusional. And much confusion could be avoided if transgender people used transgender in front of the gender that they identify with. Take Bruce Jenner for example, he now identifies as a transgender women and thus changed his name and wants to be referred to as a her. In person I would just avoid using words like him and her or whatever to not hurt him and respect his wishes. But no matter how much Jenner tries to convince everyone that he is now a her, the reality is that Jenner is transgender. The proper way to categorize Jenner is as a transgender women. A male that chose to be identified as female for personal reasons. Lets not insult peoples intelligence and pretend that transgenderism does not exist, either you are transgender or not. You cannot magically become the opposite sex, but you can identify as the opposite sex. You can have reconstructive surgery to look like the opposite sex but that is not going to magically make one the opposite sex either. Identity is the key to being transgender, someone who's gender identity matches their plumbing cannot be transgender. So it should be rational for me to identify transgender people as transgender. Rather than pretending that they are not transgender.
