So I have 2 Dates today

[Winchester]

And I just did it again.. f**k!!! I called "Sherri" "Terri". She wasn't as cool about it this time but did make a date to play tennis with me Sunday night.

If she asks me about Terri, I'll just tell her not to worry, I'll tell Sherri that Terri is not near as attractive or interesting

At least Sherri still wants to see me after my calling her the wrong name twice doh

This is not going to end well. :2razz:

If she asks why not just say you met Terri through POF on the same day you met her and confess your mistake? That being said please take any dating advice from me with a big grain of salt as the last time I was dating was during the 80s.

 

[lurchadams]

re-read that portion of your post and see whether that approach/statement is really a good idea

It was a joke, but c'est' la vis

 

[lurchadams]

Time to put a note on your phone,Lurch..That helps me remember what to do and not do.

Yeah, I use google voice to txt them, so I just created contact names so I'll have their names in front of me on my phone from now on.

 

[lurchadams]

This is not going to end well. :2razz:

If she asks why not just say you met Terri through POF on the same day you met her and confess your mistake? That being said please take any dating advice from me with a big grain of salt as the last time I was dating was during the 80s.

No, I don't think that conversation will ever happen.

 

[justabubba]

It was a joke, but c'est' la vis

good to hear

sorry i failed to 'get' it

 

[JANFU]

What are you going to do if the first “date” is going well?

Hopefully not premature.

 

[lurchadams]

Hopefully not premature.

I have such a problem with premature ... that I finish during dinner.

 

[Bucky]

that's a LOT of vaseline

I like to stike with the massage parlors although I want something more. I am definitely looking for the experience rather than just the deed. Sometimes I like to think I am in a movie, playing a role.

 

[lurchadams]

I like to stike with the massage parlors although I want something more. I am definitely looking for the experience rather than just the deed. Sometimes I like to think I am in a movie, playing a role.

Get some qualified MALE professional counseling help, man! Seriously!!

 

[Bucky]

Get some qualified MALE professional counseling help, man! Seriously!!

The problem is a lot of males hit on me as well. I am not gay but I have an aura about me that makes me magnetic.

 

[lurchadams]

The problem is a lot of males hit on me as well. I am not gay but I have an aura about me that makes me magnetic.

If your counselor is a professional, like most are, he's not going to hit on you - if he does - you report him and he'll lose his license. No more excuses. Get help.

 

[JANFU]

I have such a problem with premature ... that I finish during dinner.

Never noted this was an older thread- hope all is well & going your way
Check the sig

 

[lurchadams]

Never noted this was an older thread- hope all is well & going your way
Check the sig

All is ok. Trying to keep 2 girls interested in me right now. It's going ok.

LOVE YOUR SIG!

 

[PleasantValley]

Yep, I hear ya! After about a month I finally found a few real women. They're out there, like anything else, you get out of POF what you put into it.

Best of luck on your quest for companionship.

No longer looking. I found her on Plenty of Fish and married her.

 

[lurchadams]

No longer looking. I found her on Plenty of Fish and married her.

Oh! I missed that! Sorry!

Congratulations that's wonderful. So there is hope for me!

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[SDET]

My last and first kinda real gf I met was on POF. She unfortunately cared more about stalking celebrities than me. Flatly said she didn't want to have sex with me after two months of dating and broke it off She moved to Hollywood to do the celeb stalking full time. I live in NJ. We are both in our late 20s. I usually get flakes or scams online.

• Last date I went on: Girl faked a sister's dying baby to get away from me halfway through dinner
• went on date where this nanny type only complained about her dying mom most of the time. Said she was gonna move back to brazil. I guess i didn't make enough money to be her sugar daddy that she was looking for.
• Went on a date three times with this girl last summer. One weekend she wanted to meet up at an art show in NYC. I live in NJ. She never showed up, called, or texted, and I wasted the whole day.

I'm either really ugly. Girls are really shallow. Or I suck at making the romantic connection b/c I've never had it.

That's where you screwed up, ESPECIALLY with a Brazilian. A guy that doesn't expect a date to put out after paying for dinner loses respect and is considered a patsy. I stole my wife from a guy that insisted on "respecting" her. After insisting she put out on the first date, she was mine for life.

 

[Chomsky]

With my occupation I can't talk politics because I work for all political officials regardless of party or ideology. I've found that if I talk politics at all, I tend to slip when I shouldn't talk politics, so I refrain from it all the time. Well, at least I try very hard to do so - sometimes one of my relatives will get the better of me and get me to comment because they know where my buttons are located. They know I don't like to talk about politics, so they think of it as a challenge and a game to get me to do so. It usually takes a lot of alcohol ( a hell of a lot because I'm pretty disciplined) and bad mouthing the military and the flag at the same time to get me going.

Fair enough, and I can very much respect that. My life runs in quite a few different circles, and in some of them it is also inappropriate to discuss politics. I never thought of DP having a therapeutic value, but so it seems in some cases it does!

 

[Tim the plumber]

Actually I don't drink, smoke or do drugs. Women I meet tend to do one of the three and one of those things seems to be really important to them. So while I am all of the things you listed. That's not good enough apparently.

1, Have you tried getting a social circle that includes women. Some sort of hobby or whatever?

2, What you list is not good enough because they are not important. You being interested in them and relaxed around them. That is more important. And complimentary.

3, It's hard to get started.

 

[Tim the plumber]

The problem is a lot of males hit on me as well. I am not gay but I have an aura about me that makes me magnetic.

I also have that issue. If I had 5% of the unexpected approaches from women as I do from gay men I would be very happy. Just walking through town looking for a pub to eat in and some bloke comes up to me and wants to live in paradise with me.....?????

 

[lurchadams]

So now I'm chatting up this sweet Asian gal (I hope, she says she's too shy to show me her picture). She's 10 years younger than me and we've made a date for dinner.

This is kind of exciting actually - could be an amazing woman - could be a 40 year-old fat guy catfishing me. I'll keep you guys posted.

 

[RAMOSS]

So now I'm chatting up this sweet Asian gal (I hope, she says she's too shy to show me her picture). She's 10 years younger than me and we've made a date for dinner.

This is kind of exciting actually - could be an amazing woman - could be a 40 year-old fat guy catfishing me. I'll keep you guys posted.

The 'not show picture' is a big red flag for catfishing actually. For that matter, it must be skype.. photos can be downloaded from the internets.

 

[lurchadams]

The 'not show picture' is a big red flag for catfishing actually. For that matter, it must be skype.. photos can be downloaded from the internets.

Don't worry. I won't go to a private residence to first meet this lady! The not knowing what she really looks like is kind of exciting.

 

[lwf]

Good luck. I kind of given up on dating period. I haven't had a serious relationship until my child was born.

I have developed a bad problem in the past year and pay 2-5k a month for enjoyment. It is much easier imo. I don't get the rejection and I get what I pay for.

I know this is a problem and I need help. Sometimes I just feel like giving up but I talk to a therapist now. I really hope one day I can find someone but my life at this time has taken to transactional relationships .

If you're serious, you ought to consider volunteering in your spare time. I volunteered at a suicide and domestic violence hotline a while back. I was one of 3 guys among about 20 college age girls and the 2 other guys were gay. I was married at the time and I still had to beat them off with a stick.

 

[Bucky]

If you're serious, you ought to consider volunteering in your spare time. I volunteered at a suicide and domestic violence hotline a while back. I was one of 3 guys among about 20 college age girls and the 2 other guys were gay. I was married at the time and I still had to beat them off with a stick.

Thanks. That just might me a great idea.

 

[lurchadams]

If you're serious, you ought to consider volunteering in your spare time. I volunteered at a suicide and domestic violence hotline a while back. I was one of 3 guys among about 20 college age girls and the 2 other guys were gay. I was married at the time and I still had to beat them off with a stick.

I highly advise against beating things off with a stick. Could cause permanent damage. Plus, explaining what happened to the E.R. intake person could be kind of embarrassing.