So I have 2 Dates today

[calamity]

My last and first kinda real gf I met was on POF. She unfortunately cared more about stalking celebrities than me. Flatly said she didn't want to have sex with me after two months of dating and broke it off She moved to Hollywood to do the celeb stalking full time. I live in NJ. We are both in our late 20s. I usually get flakes or scams online.

• Last date I went on: Girl faked a sister's dying baby to get away from me halfway through dinner
• went on date where this nanny type only complained about her dying mom most of the time. Said she was gonna move back to brazil. I guess i didn't make enough money to be her sugar daddy that she was looking for.
• Went on a date three times with this girl last summer. One weekend she wanted to meet up at an art show in NYC. I live in NJ. She never showed up, called, or texted, and I wasted the whole day.

I'm either really ugly. Girls are really shallow. Or I suck at making the romantic connection b/c I've never had it.

It’s hard enough to have a date work out when you already met the person once and spoke on the phone a few times. A computer hook up is like a blind date that your Internet personality set you up with.

 

[NeverTrump]

It’s hard enough to have a date work out when you already met the person once and spoke on the phone a few times. A computer hook up is like a blind date that your Internet personality set you up with.

Yeah except on dating apps your personality is limited to headlines and pictures.

 

[Spartacus FPV]

[*]Last date I went on: Girl faked a sister's dying baby to get away from me halfway through dinner

Let me guess, you called her a nazi before the appetizers even arrived?

 

[NeverTrump]

Let me guess, you called her a nazi before the appetizers even arrived?

She was an indian. So no.

 

[PleasantValley]

So I joined a dating site called "Plenty of Fish" a month ago. It's been a strange experience. It's been 2 years since my divorce and I figured it was time to get back out there. For about a month I've been chatting back and forth with a few women. It's weird that women from really far away reach out because they've got to know I'm not going to drive to Canada or Cenrtal Oregon to meet them. Over the past month I've gotten the courage up to ask a couple of women out, but their response has been either, "No, we've got to chat more first", or, "Send me more pictures".

Up until last week I started thinking the female population was just married or attached women, bored and wanting to flirt. Anyway, last week two women have agreed to meet me today. I'm taking a nice lady to lunch, and tonight another lady wants just to hang out at her place - wants to cook dinner for us.

So things are looking up in the neverending soap opera that is my life.

I met my lovely and loving wife on Plenty Of Fish (POF).
It is free and it works.
If you pay to be on a site you will see the same people are also on POF.

That being said avoid the "send me more pictures" people.
They are trolls on there just to build up a data base of pictures to sell to catfishers.

Also understand the women who are really beautiful are only on there for free dinners every night and are not serious about any relationship. matters not what they say in their profile. They get dozens of messages a day in their INBOX and pick and choose who is "qualified" to take them to dinner. They are man abusers and internet queens. Avoid them.

Fortunately, all the bad ones are pretty easy to detect. Ignoring them and you are left with really nice and legitimate women looking for a relationship.

 

[lurchadams]

My last and first kinda real gf I met was on POF. She unfortunately cared more about stalking celebrities than me. Flatly said she didn't want to have sex with me after two months of dating and broke it off She moved to Hollywood to do the celeb stalking full time. I live in NJ. We are both in our late 20s. I usually get flakes or scams online.

• Last date I went on: Girl faked a sister's dying baby to get away from me halfway through dinner
• went on date where this nanny type only complained about her dying mom most of the time. Said she was gonna move back to brazil. I guess i didn't make enough money to be her sugar daddy that she was looking for.
• Went on a date three times with this girl last summer. One weekend she wanted to meet up at an art show in NYC. I live in NJ. She never showed up, called, or texted, and I wasted the whole day.

I'm either really ugly. Girls are really shallow. Or I suck at making the romantic connection b/c I've never had it.

No, there are game players on POF. It's not you - it's just a numbers game. You have to navigate through the rotten tomatoes to get to the plums!

Don't give up.

 

[lurchadams]

I met my lovely and loving wife on Plenty Of Fish (POF).
It is free and it works.
If you pay to be on a site you will see the same people are also on POF.

That being said avoid the "send me more pictures" people.
They are trolls on there just to build up a data base of pictures to sell to catfishers.

Also understand the women who are really beautiful are only on there for free dinners every night and are not serious about any relationship. matters not what they say in their profile. They get dozens of messages a day in their INBOX and pick and choose who is "qualified" to take them to dinner. They are man abusers and internet queens. Avoid them.

Fortunately, all the bad ones are pretty easy to detect. Ignoring them and you are left with really nice and legitimate women looking for a relationship.

Yep, I hear ya! After about a month I finally found a few real women. They're out there, like anything else, you get out of POF what you put into it.

Best of luck on your quest for companionship.

 

[NeverTrump]

No, there are game players on POF. It's not you - it's just a numbers game. You have to navigate through the rotten tomatoes to get to the plums!

Don't give up.

Not to put too much personal information out there about yourself, but do you live in a city or a suburb? What age range/mile range to go shoot for? Do you care about body size at all? People say I'm being too shallow, but I can't help being attracted to who I'm attracted too and I can't be impracticable about dating girls in NYC or too far away from me.

 

[lurchadams]

Not to put too much personal information out there about yourself, but do you live in a city or a suburb? What age range/mile range to go shoot for? Do you care about body size at all? People say I'm being too shallow, but I can't help being attracted to who I'm attracted too and I can't be impracticable about dating girls in NYC or too far away from me.

I live in a north suburb of Seattle. I prefer women that are within 10 years of my age. Attractiveness is important, but not critical as I'm just beginning dating again. As far as distance, I don't understand why I get "hit on" by women hundreds of mile away from me. Some must just look at my profile picture and reach out to me without looking at my profile to see where I live. I prefer to date women that live within at the most, a 30 min drive from me.

Again, it's a numbers game. Gotta weed through the losers to get to the winners.

 

[NeverTrump]

I live in a north suburb of Seattle. I prefer women that are within 10 years of my age. Attractiveness is important, but not critical as I'm just beginning dating again. As far as distance, I don't understand why I get "hit on" by women hundreds of mile away from me. Some must just look at my profile picture and reach out to me without looking at my profile to see where I live. I prefer to date women that live within at the most, a 30 min drive from me.

Again, it's a numbers game. Gotta weed through the losers to get to the winners.

Would you date people in Seattle? I am hesitant to date someone in NYC. It's a hassle to get to. I've tried it before. I find NYers stuck up about dating people from NJ even though some NY suburbs are farther away from Manhattan than where I am located in NJ. This also skews my online dating results as well as most websites. At least the apps have more people nearby.

 

[lurchadams]

Would you date people in Seattle? I am hesitant to date someone in NYC. It's a hassle to get to. I've tried it before. I find NYers stuck up about dating people from NJ even though some NY suburbs are farther away from Manhattan than where I am located in NJ. This also skews my online dating results as well as most websites. At least the apps have more people nearby.

Sure I would. I'm only 20 min from downtown. I'm not familiar with the "NY vs. NJ" dynamic, sounds like something pretty unique to your area. Again, my distance criterion is that it just be reasonable. I'm not going to drive hours out of my way to see someone, even for a "sure thing" - remember that John Cusack movie where he traveled thousands of miles to meet a girl? I wouldn't do that. There are plenty of prospects within a 30-40 mile radius of my home.

 

[RAMOSS]

Then get a male therapist!

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So he can think about picturing him naked!

 

[ecofarm]

So he can think about picturing him naked!

To be fair, it's not a sex thing it's a power thing so that probably would happen. It's insecurity driving the fantasy, not sexual virility.

 

[calamity]

I met my lovely and loving wife on Plenty Of Fish (POF).
It is free and it works.
If you pay to be on a site you will see the same people are also on POF.

That being said avoid the "send me more pictures" people.
They are trolls on there just to build up a data base of pictures to sell to catfishers.

Also understand the women who are really beautiful are only on there for free dinners every night and are not serious about any relationship. matters not what they say in their profile. They get dozens of messages a day in their INBOX and pick and choose who is "qualified" to take them to dinner. They are man abusers and internet queens. Avoid them.

Fortunately, all the bad ones are pretty easy to detect. Ignoring them and you are left with really nice and legitimate women looking for a relationship.

I imagine the bold is quite true. Only the "dozens" is probably hundreds.

 

[calamity]

2 to 5000 a month? What are we talking here? Strippers? Prostitutes? If so that is a problem. There are resources out there for people that suffer from sexual addiction. I'm sorry if I misunderstood what you're saying here but I am serious that if you're blowing 5K on sex workers monthly you should see someone about that.

Even if he's snorting half the coke that's a lot of coinage for *****.

 

[calamity]

So he can think about picturing him naked!

:lol:

 

[Logician Man]

Even if he's snorting half the coke that's a lot of coinage for *****.

Maybe some of that coinage is going towards 'Golden Showers' ? :lol:

 

[Tim the plumber]

My last and first kinda real gf I met was on POF. She unfortunately cared more about stalking celebrities than me. Flatly said she didn't want to have sex with me after two months of dating and broke it off She moved to Hollywood to do the celeb stalking full time. I live in NJ. We are both in our late 20s. I usually get flakes or scams online.

• Last date I went on: Girl faked a sister's dying baby to get away from me halfway through dinner
• went on date where this nanny type only complained about her dying mom most of the time. Said she was gonna move back to brazil. I guess i didn't make enough money to be her sugar daddy that she was looking for.
• Went on a date three times with this girl last summer. One weekend she wanted to meet up at an art show in NYC. I live in NJ. She never showed up, called, or texted, and I wasted the whole day.

I'm either really ugly. Girls are really shallow. Or I suck at making the romantic connection b/c I've never had it.

For what it's worth;

Waht you are after, in your dreams, is some super model or pop star. But that is not going to happenbecause they have married some super star themselves and you could never keep them in any case...

So back to reality. You are after a nice woman.

It is the same for them. A nice bloke.

You don't need to be a super star. You just need to be nice and interested in them. And not have bad breath. Loads of mouth wash. And have a shower regularly.

Look them in the eye and tell them how beautiful they are and then kiss them. Then arrange another date.

Good luck.

 

[NeverTrump]

You don't need to be a super star. You just need to be nice and interested in them. And not have bad breath. Loads of mouth wash. And have a shower regularly.

Good luck.

Actually I don't drink, smoke or do drugs. Women I meet tend to do one of the three and one of those things seems to be really important to them. So while I am all of the things you listed. That's not good enough apparently.

 

[Logician Man]

Actually I don't drink, smoke or do drugs. Women I meet tend to do one of the three and one of those things seems to be really important to them. So while I am all of the things you listed. That's not good enough apparently.

Patience my friend. It only takes one good one that's looking for another good one with similar likes and interests.She's out there. You're still young...good luck, and take your time.

 

[lurchadams]

And I just did it again.. f**k!!! I called "Sherri" "Terri". She wasn't as cool about it this time but did make a date to play tennis with me Sunday night.

If she asks me about Terri, I'll just tell her not to worry, I'll tell Sherri that Terri is not near as attractive or interesting

At least Sherri still wants to see me after my calling her the wrong name twice doh

 

[NeverTrump]

And I just did it again.. f**k!!! I called "Sherri" "Terri". She wasn't as cool about it this time but did make a date to play tennis with me Sunday night.

If she asks me about Terri, I'll just tell her not to worry, I'll tell Sherri that Terri is not near as attractive or interesting

At least Sherri still wants to see me after my calling her the wrong name twice doh

I don't know if this will end well for you. Better get your fun in with both before they both find out

 

[calamity]

And I just did it again.. f**k!!! I called "Sherri" "Terri". She wasn't as cool about it this time but did make a date to play tennis with me Sunday night.

If she asks me about Terri, I'll just tell her not to worry, I'll tell Sherri that Terri is not near as attractive or interesting

At least Sherri still wants to see me after my calling her the wrong name twice doh

lol...easy to do. If ever we needed proof that Man evolved to be monogamous, that would be it.

 

[justabubba]

And I just did it again.. f**k!!! I called "Sherri" "Terri". She wasn't as cool about it this time but did make a date to play tennis with me Sunday night.

If she asks me about Terri, I'll just tell her not to worry, I'll tell Sherri that Terri is not near as attractive or interesting

At least Sherri still wants to see me after my calling her the wrong name twice doh

re-read that portion of your post and see whether that approach/statement is really a good idea

 

[Logician Man]

And I just did it again.. f**k!!! I called "Sherri" "Terri". She wasn't as cool about it this time but did make a date to play tennis with me Sunday night.

If she asks me about Terri, I'll just tell her not to worry, I'll tell Sherri that Terri is not near as attractive or interesting

At least Sherri still wants to see me after my calling her the wrong name twice doh

Time to put a note on your phone,Lurch..That helps me remember what to do and not do.