I see nothing unusual in a Deaf person not learning the speak and read lips to an advanced level,
OK, you made many good points. I'm more inclined to believe in this aspect of your story, now. Still, the part that troubles me, is how, in your very long, complex, and rich descriptions above, there were so many details about her inner states of mind, while apparently you've never met her, and only had access to her in some forum where she wrote primitive English as a third grader.
I was more bothered by the richness in details, than by the parts I thought didn't add up.
Sure, OK, if born Deaf, and being French, her language skills or lack thereof in English are to be excused.
Still, how do you know so much about how she thinks and feels? A person you never met, who can barely express herself in English?
By the way, just FYI, it's spelled
savant, and the complete expression is
idiot savant. And she doesn't sound like one. Those are actually quite handicapped, while other than for being deaf, she doesn't appear all that handicapped, intellectually. An
idiot savant is someone who is in all other aspects, intellectually disabled (what used to be called mentally retarded, now it's not PC to call them MR, so they're called IDD) but able to recite the entire phone book by heart, for example. See, reciting the entire phone book doesn't require intelligence... only requires prodigious memory, and the memory centers in the brain are not the same as the ones responsible for abstract advanced thinking.
Anyway, that's not important.
I don't want to doubt you... you've been a valuable member here, with interesting posts and topics.
But maybe the whole thing about this woman is a bit on the fantasy side... you know, people add more details to her basic story, and maybe in that forum they did too... It becomes this huge elaborated thing, when maybe in real life, all that she is, is a pretty woman who is deaf and who has a rich husband who praises her looks and fashion sense more than her smarts. There are plenty of examples of this situation, but this particular example, sorry, does sound quite embellished.
Still, it's a compelling read, and again, you have good writing skills. You do know how to make things interesting; so, like I said, you could earn money by being a writer. I like reading your posts. But do I believe 100% in what you are saying? No. But maybe it's a story that was embellished before it got to you; not really your doing.
See what I'm doing? I'm giving you a face-saving way out, here.
That's your opportunity to say: "OK, it was pretty embellished, sorry. I got carried away. I heard this story probably already quite embellished, and I added some more to it. Anyway, let's drop it. Forget about this story and let's focus again on the debate about legalization of prostitution."