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72% yes is not a great outing.....and it seems to be dropping.
We will spend our time doing one thing or another, what better way is there to spend your time then educating and raising a child of your own?
The money? Ahh, its next to nothing in the long run. Don't get me wrong, there is an expense, but never ever a cost. Every cent I've ever spent on the children in my life I've gotten back with pure joy 10 fold.
The caring, what is more worthy of your caring then a child? I have hobbies, I play guitar, love my stereo and my boat, but I don't care for any of them the way I do for the kids in my life, it's not even close.
I never wanted children, my father was abusive, one day my wife changed her mind and wanted "something more", we couldn't conceive so we went through the foster care route. (If you have doubts I highly recommend it)
After losing the first child we cared for (her maternal grand mother took her in) we received another child at the age of 3 days old. Almost 9 months to the day the adoption was final and we had our daughter, she is now 8 years old and I wouldn't trade 1 second of it ever. Sure it's trying, nerve wracking, and you want to pull your hair out at times, but the love you get back in return for just being there is uncountable.
PM me if you'd like any details, being a parent is the bomb! I went into it thinking I was done, it was only last Friday I thanked my wife for showing me what true love really is.
The Mess, the Poop? When you have a child and that baby poops on you it is the most beautiful thing in the world, what's the big deal? You get up, step into the shower and wash off, it's your child, you love and embrace that child and experience, it's a memory you'll have forever, it's a story you'll share for years to come.
72% yes is not a great outing.....and it seems to be dropping.
72% yes is not a great outing.....and it seems to be dropping.
Interesting... I think.
As we have become more self absorbed and selfish that answer matters more, I picture my grandparents saying "Whether I like it or not is not the point, it is what one does".
Such an attitude of doing something 'out of duty' does not lend itself to good parenting. Seems like the results wont be any better than those that 'accidentally' become parents. Hit or miss.
I waited a few pages...
I voted NO.
As at least one noted it is subjective.
If part of the duty is to be a good parent, as it was back in the day, then you dont have a point.
Also, it is not hit or miss if the parents have community support...the odds of success are much better than the odds of failure....but that is all gone now.
ANd it didnt work to create good parents out of bad ones then either.
Often it did, humans have the ability to get better, and many did.
I wouldnt say the rate then was any different than now so I dont see it as a valid point.
If you see something as your duty, rather than something that you really want...no, I say the odds are lower. But possible of course.
Stuff like honor and duty used to be much more important than it is now and thus a better motivator.
I get the sense that you dont know history.
And again, you have no foundation for that except your belief.
Ah, that nostalgia for the 50's when America *appeared* perfect.
I get the sense that you dont examine history closely.
I have education...and I know that I am right here.
I have done my best to help you.
My children are worth it. Other people’s are not.
Well I hope you one day will feel the joy I have felt in everything my children do. I've been vomited on, pooped on bled on, coughed in the face and never once recoiled.I have two daughters....
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Uhh... no. It is not the most beautiful thing in the world.
Well I hope you one day will feel the joy I have felt in everything my children do. I've been vomited on, pooped on bled on, coughed in the face and never once recoiled.
It effects me not, if anything I hold them closer, it's just natural for this father, for those are the times they need it most.
For the 20% that say it isn't worth it, what makes that statement true? Did your children turn out poorly, was it just not worth the effort, some other reason?
If I should make this into another thread, just kick me.