Dood, we are all primarily self-interested, and you are no exception.
That's just it, you view the world as binary choices, you fear nuance based on evidence and reason.
Are people self-interested? Of course, but can the same person see the value in shared mandatory sacrifice? Yes.
That's why I ask you extreme questions, because it exposes the absurdity of your arguments. Not that nothing you've said has any merit, it's that
any ideology that might appear to have merit, if it admits to no exceptions ends up causing as much harm as good.
There is no Utopia, Socialist, Liberal, Conservative or Libertarian. The best nation we can create is one in which we can look at the positives and negatives of each and throw away the parts that don't work and empisize the ones that do.
That is the hardest society to create, but it's also the strongest.
There's not a lot of room here, but here are some examples in a generallyAmerican context.
Socialism
Good: Social Safety Nets (e.g., Social Security, Medicare). These programs, while debated, are often seen as providing a crucial safety net and preventing widespread poverty, aligning with a desire for societal well-being and collective responsibility.
Bad: Centralized Economic Planning/State Control over Industry. This is often viewed with skepticism due to concerns about efficiency, innovation, individual liberty, and potential for government overreach, clashing with American ideals of free markets and limited government.
Capitalism
Good: Innovation and Economic Growth. Capitalism is widely credited with fostering competition, technological advancement, and a high standard of living due to its emphasis on individual initiative and free markets. This aligns strongly with the "American Dream" and upward mobility.
Bad: Wealth Inequality and Economic Instability (e.g., recessions, Great Depression). Critics argue that unfettered capitalism can lead to significant disparities in wealth and income, and can be prone to boom-and-bust cycles that negatively impact many citizens.
Liberalism
Generally Perceived Good: Civil Rights and Social Justice Movements (e.g., desegregation, LGBTQ+ rights). Liberalism's emphasis on individual rights, equality, and social progress has been instrumental in expanding protections and opportunities for marginalized groups, aligning with core American principles of freedom and equality.
Conservatism
Generally Perceived Good: Emphasis on Traditional Values and Strong Institutions (e.g., family, rule of law, national defense). Conservatism often champions stability, order, and the preservation of long-standing American institutions, seen as vital for a cohesive and secure society.
Capitalist Libertarianism
Generally Perceived Good: Individual Liberty and Limited Government Intervention. Libertarianism's strong advocacy for individual freedom, free markets, and minimal government interference resonates with foundational American ideals of self-reliance and liberty from governmental control.
Now that's some real off-the-cuff ideas, so don't delve to deep, and yes, some of those ideas might come into conflict, but that's as American as apple pie, the secret sauce of America is pluralism, the capacity to resolve our differences and use what works. To tolerate differences even if we cannot accept them. To be motivated by logic and reason, not fear.