I think there are a lot of gay people who just want to be part of normal civil society, have normal monogamous relationships, socialise with regular society and want to be defined by their character and achievements, as opposed to their sexuality.
The loud and proud gay pride movement is damaging to these people because it creates a false image of what gay is. Let these people have their pride parties but they shouldn't be calling them gay pride because many gay people do not identify with this sort of behaviour.
I agree with this.
As a parallel, how many married women enjoy having a husband's friend around, who brags about how he is free to have sex with as many women as he wants? On the one hand, the friend has pride in his straight sexuality. He expresses his pride, openly, telling us of all his conquests. But on the other hand, this type of pride, to the wife, can also send a wrong message to her husband, which could undermine her family. It is not about the friend's sexuality, but about how his constant need to reinforce his pride, impacts other people. Is this over compensation to overcome inner doubt? Or is it a means to an end, which is to get the husband back into the game, as his partner in crime. It is not normal but stinks of pathology or hidden motivation.
In the case of flamboyant gay pride, it is not so much being gay that bothers most people. Once you know someone, you judge based on character. Rather the in your face style, can leads to unwanted visualizations, one does not wish to see that can create doubt or mixed feelings.
As a neutral analogy, we all may love our grandparents, and see(saw) them as kind people, who spent time with us. If your grandparents started to talk to you about old people sex, between your grandparents, this is not a visualization, that everyone is comfortable with. You may know that older people have sex, but old people sex between your grandparents is not what you wish to see in your imagination. This image can spoil your memories of youth; mixed bag of feelings.
This in your face style, to induce an unrequested visualization, can cause people to visualized things that sours their emotions. Once this is triggered, it can overlap even the innocent person, who did not do this. A young person may average sex, one hour per day, to use a high number. This is about 4% of the minutes of a 24 hour day. In this example, we are 4% sexuality and 96% regular Joe. A sour visualization, can make 4% appear like 50%, which is not natural. This con crete an instinctive backlash, on top of a personal sour taste for former clean memories.