You can't teach those who have no desire to learn, but only to hurl their preconceived preferences.
That being said, the Pro-Life Movement's primary goal is not controlling women - that's paranoid delusion. The Pro-Life Movement's primary goal is saving babies from being killed in the womb. OKGrannie is taking her
motivation (to maintain liberty for women) and projecting opposition to it on those who oppose her means of achieving it (abortion). But Pro-Lifers are no more in it to control women than Pro-Choicers are in it because they love killing children (which is the flipside of OKGrannie's argument, because it takes the Pro-Life movements' motivation and projects opposition to it onto the Pro-Choice movement).
Wave my magic wand?
I would make all parents better parents by having them decide to prioritize their children. I would have men be active fathers, women be caring mothers, and have both work together to benefit their kids. If we could get that right, it would go quite a ways to healing a lot of our brokenness in other areas.