You don't know me very well, but I have said before on this site that I have been friends with people I view as having bigoted views. For the longest time, I have been pretty close to certain people. For example, my one friend was hosting a mutual friend from Australia. I was hanging out with the Aussie one day, and he kept asking me if the young black people everywhere were working or if they were loitering. I thought it was a really strange question until he started talking more.
Turns out, it was our friend's bigotry of black people and staying with her, causing all of his confusion. She constantly complains about black people in America. She talks like they are all lazy, they don't want to work, they get welfare, and go downtown while everybody else works to hang out, beg for money, party, drink, etc., and they just don't take for their kids or families, and on top of all that, she says that she feels like they want her to apologize to them for slavery.
We live in a big city, so we see a lot of African Americans, and I told the Aussie that a lot of black people work, have respectable jobs, go to college, etc.
I have known this person for close to five years. I know other people with bigoted attitudes and prejudices, many such people that I know, I can say have said things to me that I found offense and prejudice. In the past, I always tried to look past such attitudes as mere flaws in their personalities and have tried to set examples to them in conversation, but overall, I felt sorry for them because they didn't know how they embarrassed themselves with their prejudices.
All of these people I know, voted for Trump. I know other Trump voters, who voted for Trump saying they felt concerned or uncomfortable with Trump's rhetoric, some even thought Trump was bigoted but voted for him, and they relied on believing the courts and people around him would hold him in check. All of this bothers me, and I will explain, but the day Trump got elected, my views of bigoted people drastically changed. It was like getting punched in the face hard by reality. I used to think they were decent people despite their prejudices, and felt sorry for their prejudice attitudes, but Trump's election made me realize, that when bigoted people coalesce and take power, they actually become threatening to other people like myself and have no concern about it.
My friend above has said many offensive things to me and my husband, and she voted for Trump... She voted for a man who said he wanted to ban and register Muslims. She was ok with that rhetoric, because she agrees with the policies. It opened my eyes, because a lot of people around me who I always viewed as somewhat prejudice but ok people, are is reality distrustful and fearful people who may need to see my husband's immigration halted and a registry of American muslims to feel safe.
I went from the "I am okay with you" category to the "I don't know if I should trust you" category. I asked somebody what was enough to decide if a person was actually Muslim or not. I go to a mosque sometimes, should I register? They told me that I should feel comfortable registering, because the government would lose interest in me. That offended me, and I could go on and on about this conversation.
Now that I know that you are Muslim, I can understand your position better. Not that I need to reply to your statement, but I will. I think some people feel that Muslims themselves aren't doing enough to stop those that are being radicalized. Some non Muslim people feel that way. They shouldn't, but I think they do. The Oklahoma City bomber, who pulled off a major attack, was white. Nobody knew what he was up to. But, for some reason, these people just think that Muslims would be able to determine who is being radicalized and stop them before they pull off an attack. I think we can both agree, that as Americans, we should all be watching out for terrorists no matter what ethnic or religion people are. It's not just foreigners doing terrorist attacks. Trump might say something that we both might take two different ways. That's O.K. It's just a difference of opinion. Like I said, I think Trump should chose his words more carefully. I also think the media should do the same. Dividing the people of this country is not the way to go.