Hey guys. Still around. Sad. Feel like there is a big empty spot in my chest, where my heart used to be, but the girls and I are managing.
I just wanted to say something to you guys – some of you, I have known for many years, and some I have only known for a very short time, but you were a big help to me during this process.
To those who have been private messaging me, I cannot thank you enough. Even simple “how you doing today?” messages help me push through.
I love you guys. I do. And for that reason, I want to share something with you. I know that some of you are not strong people of faith as I am, and I swear I’m not one of the “parking my bike on your lawn, walking up in a white shirt, talking to you about Jesus” kind of things. Anybody who knows anything about me knows that I am a strong woman of faith, and I just – I don’t know. Let me explain what has happened. Bear with me.
Several, several months ago, my son-in-law and I were up late one evening, watching TV, and something just came to me, how cool it would be to have like a “family compound.” We had talked about my selling our house, taking the equity and buying 30 or 40 acres, starting out with mobile homes and then building houses. That way, we’d always be together, close by, but far enough apart that we wouldn’t get on each other’s nerves.
I told my husband the next morning, and he got angry and said that he would appreciate it if I didn’t plan his life while he wasn’t there to be a part of it. He was right, of course, but the seed was planted. We had talked before about selling the house a couple of years ago, but it wasn’t the right time. The girls weren’t ready. This time, though, seemed different.
He said that he wasn’t thrilled about spending his “golden years” in a mobile home, but he would be agreeable to an older fixer-upper, if that would make me happy. I started looking at older homes. I googled something similar to “old houses under about $50,000,” and a website literally popped up called
Old Houses Under $50K. Seriously. I went on and looked and found tons of houses that I loved. We found a great old house – a historic house that was once owned by the mayor of the town, if I remember correctly. It needed a lot of work, but it was only like $25,000. I dug a little deeper, and found out that it was under contingency contract, but the location piqued my interest. Amazingly enough, the location was where I grew up. I lived in this area until I was 14. The location had nothing to do with anything, but I thought it was cool. The website that I “dug deeper” on the house had other older fixer-uppers, and I looked through them, and found the perfect house. I showed it to my husband, and he loved it. It was a grand old Victorian house, and it was filled with antiques. I told y’all about this place.
We came here and looked at the house and loved it. It was everything we thought it would be. We had other houses to look at, and only looked at a couple of them, because we knew that this house was right. The house sat here for a year, empty. It was on the market for 5 months, and there was not a single nibble on the house. The house is a very large, almost 4,000 sf house in a commercial district. We are surrounded by doctors and lawyers, who have taken older houses and turned them into offices. Our house is very well known, and everyone who asks which house we bought, knows the house, and almost every single one said, “Oh yeah – I was going to make an offer on that house, but I never got around to it.” We got here, made an offer of much less than the selling price, and it was accepted immediately. We listed our old house, and it sold in 14 days (faster than any other house had ever sold in our neighborhood) for more than any other house had ever sold in our neighborhood. We had enough out of our equity in our old house to pay cash for this new place. I think God knew. I didn't have the money to make a $1,000 a month mortgage payment with my husband's income gone, so that part was taken care of.
So to recap thus far, the house we sold went through very quickly, without a hitch. The house we bought went through very quickly, without a hitch.
We get here, and within a few weeks, my husband got sick. He went into the hospital on May 20th, and never came out. But – the hospital he went into seemed to be taking very good care of him. Also, the hospital was 1 mile from my house. I got there in 2 minutes. So that was helpful.
I am 2 hours from my mom and my sister, and that is helpful as well.
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