As a non-American, I'd just like to throw in my two cents (eurocents from Berlin, that is):
I too found that here in the rather "liberal" city of Berlin (where it's really hard to find a genuine conservative who's not at least *somewhat* liberalized), it was very difficult for me to find people who share my values (and I don't even think I'm conservative, I just value trust, commitment and mutual loyalty when it comes to both friendship and relationship), and it wasn't easy to find the right girlfriend/wife here, but I did (and no, she's not a Muslim immigrant, lol).
It seems to me that the atheist-liberal mainstream culture here, although I'm probably part of it too to some extent (I share many liberal ideas), has created a culture of superficiality. People in their late twens who still behave like in their late teens, going to clubs several nights per week, only care about what's "cool" and what's not, judging people by looks and talking bad even about their "friends" the moment they leave the room -- and often only interested in superficial fun, but incapable of starting a serious relationship, even when they want.
However, I don't have the impression that's limited to one gender, and the connection to political leaning is weak at best. It's both guys and girls who behave like that. And many "conservative" people are actually hypocrites and do secretly the same thing.