I say go YOU as well. My best wishes from this day forward.Coincidentally, my 16th wedding anniversary (and 3rd non) ended about seven minutes ago. For the first time since 2008, I didn't sob my way through it. Go, ME!
I don't care if my partner is with someone else, as long as they tell me about it. We practice loving with detachment - that's our agreement. So for me, "cheating" would be my partner sleeping with someone and keeping it a secret. In that scenario, it would be the secrecy that destroys our relationship, not the act of being with someone else.
I say go YOU as well. My best wishes from this day forward.
In 39 years of marriage, I have never had the problem, so honestly I could not say what I would do. It seems to me however, that a person should try not to do anything brash and make the situation worse. I am sure there have been plenty of marriages and relationships that have survived an affair.
Coincidentally, my 16th wedding anniversary (and 3rd non) ended about seven minutes ago. For the first time since 2008, I didn't sob my way through it. Go, ME!
Depends.
Do you have dignity?
Yes, dignty would take a beating, but I hope I would subordinate that to my family's well-being.
Yes, dignty would take a beating, but I hope I would subordinate that to my family's well-being.
I'd end it, for similar reasons as Temporal. I am not someone who is terribly stuck on tradition, and I am open to non-traditional relationships. My relationships typically wind up being monogamous for simplicity's sake more than anything, but there have been exceptions and I am very easy to talk to about that sort of thing.
Someone cheating on me tells me that they are unwilling to talk to me and don't want to be open to me. There is nothing that is taboo to say to me in a relationship, and that becomes very clear very quickly. If they are unwilling to do that, then they are not mature enough to be in a relationship.
The unwillingness to talk to me would end the relationship, not the cheating.
So if your hypothetical boyfriend were to be like, "Hey, I'd like your permission to have semi-regular sex with that girl, even though we'd still be together," then you'd consider entertaining the request? No jealousy at all?