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Re: Parents have to face the music
You say when birth control fails implied consent goes out the window yet the law does not accept that when a man claims the condom broke or the pill failed. How do you square that with forcing men to be responsible for accidents. When I bring up the argument you just made I'm told men were aware of the risks that birth control isnt 100% reliable and they should of practiced abstinence if they wanted a guarantee.
Child support is a complex term and topic that I could start an entirely independent thread on. I'm gonna take a pass on this portion of your post because my response will derail the current theme.
She has choices. Men have none. Men are expected to deal with the consequences of her choices. Men are told the only option they get is to have sex or dont after that all his options evaporate and his consequences rest on the whichever options the woman chooses to excercise.
This comment is something I find frustrating in this debate. I readily acknowledge that because of biological differences men and women have different concerns but I dont dismiss a womans consequences because men dont share them. Why do you think its appropriate to dismiss mens consequences because women dont share theirs?
In answer to your question, I do not nor have I argued that they are.
Question for you
Do you believe women are entitled to be held less accountable for their choices than men are for theirs?
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Were they using birth control when they had sex? If so, any specified 'intention' hoping for a child goes out the window. There would be no grounds.
You say when birth control fails implied consent goes out the window yet the law does not accept that when a man claims the condom broke or the pill failed. How do you square that with forcing men to be responsible for accidents. When I bring up the argument you just made I'm told men were aware of the risks that birth control isnt 100% reliable and they should of practiced abstinence if they wanted a guarantee.
Child support is completely a long-term mainstream law that all adults know about...so there is no 'unwritten contract' or anything else people are not aware of before they decide to have sex. That's not an 'excuse' to get out of it.
Child support is a complex term and topic that I could start an entirely independent thread on. I'm gonna take a pass on this portion of your post because my response will derail the current theme.
I'm not sure how biology is a reasonable argument to limit a mans autonomy. Why should not having a uterus limit a persons preventive to be uninvolved in being a parent?Which standard, that is not controlled by biology, is not the same?
If a woman decides to have sex, she *must* accept the the consequences of her decision to have sex. If there is a pregnancy, there is no escape from consequences...none. She must face a childbirth/parenthood, death, miscarriage, or abortion. Every consequence even carries the risk of death or permanent damage.
She has choices. Men have none. Men are expected to deal with the consequences of her choices. Men are told the only option they get is to have sex or dont after that all his options evaporate and his consequences rest on the whichever options the woman chooses to excercise.
So then why is a man not obligated to accept the consequences of his decision to have sex? *THAT* would be equal.
This comment is something I find frustrating in this debate. I readily acknowledge that because of biological differences men and women have different concerns but I dont dismiss a womans consequences because men dont share them. Why do you think its appropriate to dismiss mens consequences because women dont share theirs?
If you dont agree, then fine but do not continue to complain that it's 'not equal.' You need some other reason to allow men to escape their consequences.
Yet both are not treat the same and you or anyone here has made a coherent rational argument to justify itTHen, which solution proposed (if you have any others) does not place additional, unnecessary burdens on the taxpayers? Society does indeed value children being supported and also values holding people personally responsible for their decisions. The reasons for child support in the first place have not changed. In this case, TODAY, both parents are subject to the exact same laws. Equal. It's changed in favor of men actually, with men getting more say in custody and joint custody (which reduces child support $$)
Another question: do you believe that men are entitled to sex without consequences?
In answer to your question, I do not nor have I argued that they are.
Question for you
Do you believe women are entitled to be held less accountable for their choices than men are for theirs?
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