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How much time with your spouse/SO is too much?
I'm a serious introvert. I like my "alone time". My wife is a serious extrovert.
Our current situation is like this:
- I recently got transferred to another office and my commute was cut in half from 45 minutes to 20 minutes.
- My wife works 45 minutes away.
- My wife works on a rotating schedule, meaning she gets one full weekend and one other Saturday off each month.
- We spend evening together and honestly do enjoy each other's company.
- She is pushing her work for all weekends off so we can spend all our free time together.
:neutral:
Don't get me wrong. I love my wife dearly. But, I spend all day at work with people. I then spend all evenings with my wife. I spend 3 weekend says a months with her as well. I'd be fine if she got two full weekends off, that'd be cool, but to be brutally honest, I value my 4-5 days a month where I get to be alone for most of the day. I feel like that's what keeps me sane.
Then there's another rub, and this one actually has me somewhat anxious. A good friend of ours, who works less than a block away from where I work now, is pushing hard for my wife to get a job there. :doh
*sigh* So then, I would have virtually no alone time throughout the month whatsoever. I'd be around other people at work. When not at work I'd be with my wife during all evenings, during all weekends, and even during the drive to work.
I seriously don't know what to do. I have thought of texting our friend and asking her to stop pushing for the job there. If I express my concerns to me wife I can almost guarantee I'd hurt her feelings, and I don't want to do that. But, I am who I am. I don't need or want constant interaction with people 24/7.
I honestly don't understand how some people can live AND work together all the fricken time with never a break.
Thoughts?
I'm a serious introvert. I like my "alone time". My wife is a serious extrovert.
Our current situation is like this:
- I recently got transferred to another office and my commute was cut in half from 45 minutes to 20 minutes.
- My wife works 45 minutes away.
- My wife works on a rotating schedule, meaning she gets one full weekend and one other Saturday off each month.
- We spend evening together and honestly do enjoy each other's company.
- She is pushing her work for all weekends off so we can spend all our free time together.
:neutral:
Don't get me wrong. I love my wife dearly. But, I spend all day at work with people. I then spend all evenings with my wife. I spend 3 weekend says a months with her as well. I'd be fine if she got two full weekends off, that'd be cool, but to be brutally honest, I value my 4-5 days a month where I get to be alone for most of the day. I feel like that's what keeps me sane.
Then there's another rub, and this one actually has me somewhat anxious. A good friend of ours, who works less than a block away from where I work now, is pushing hard for my wife to get a job there. :doh
*sigh* So then, I would have virtually no alone time throughout the month whatsoever. I'd be around other people at work. When not at work I'd be with my wife during all evenings, during all weekends, and even during the drive to work.
I seriously don't know what to do. I have thought of texting our friend and asking her to stop pushing for the job there. If I express my concerns to me wife I can almost guarantee I'd hurt her feelings, and I don't want to do that. But, I am who I am. I don't need or want constant interaction with people 24/7.
I honestly don't understand how some people can live AND work together all the fricken time with never a break.
Thoughts?