I'm not surprised, given where you live. But you have to keep in mind that the places I tend to be, women actually have choices, and have generally been raised to have some sort of self-esteem as a sex. Neither are particularly true down in your parts. Other things -- often affecting both sexes rather equally -- are not so great in this culture. But the reason why women wind up getting drag-netted by those kinds of guys where you are is fairly plain to see, and it's not because "that's how women are."
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First off, I live in Charleston, South Carolina - a highly,
highly "gentrified" city with like four different colleges, a nationally ranked medical university, one of the most cosmopolitan cultural scenes in the South East, and more money floating around than you can shake a stick at (Bill Murray lives here for a large part of the year, in point of fact, and Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively were actually married on one of our historical plantations) - not some third rate little hick town. I can
assure you, the women here have plenty of "choices." If they want to find some skinny jeans wearing hipster, man bun toting hippie, or some Liberal bleeding heart, there are plenty available.
The simple reality of the situation, however, is that a Hell of a lot of them (and the very good looking ones at that) choose the "Alpha" kinds of men I described anyway. It's not desperation. It is legitimate preference. It might very well be a rather
unwise preference, and it certainly isn't one shared by
all women, but it is ultimately the "preference" of the women who choose to pursue the kinds of men I mentioned all the same. :shrug:
Secondly, I'm not unfamiliar with the tactics you described in your post either. One of the cops I work with actually employs a rather similar technique.
The local PD used to be able to get overtime pay if they would basically "moonlight" as security at the department stores in our facility while in uniform. This fellow - ironically enough, named "Ryan" :lol: - would basically use it as a means of chatting up all the pretty young women working behind the make up, perfume, and jewelry counters.
Over the course of the nine months or so I've been working here, I think he's bagged about four or five of them (and possibly more), all under the pretense of "dating." He just doesn't "date" them for much more than about a week or two at a time. Furthermore, if you do ever happen to get him started on the subject of women, his opinions really aren't all that different from our own Ryan. He'll actually cover about 75% of the same talking points.
That is, in point of truth, exactly why I'm not so quick to dismiss the claims of people like Grim or Ryan on here. I know guys very much like them in real life. In my experience, they're not exactly struggling.
They also tend to keep the rather "politically incorrect" sentiments they're so infamous for on here to themselves in mixed gender company, which is exactly how they sucker so many women in to begin with. lol
Thirdly, the fact that women very often choose to "hook up" with someone working in the same profession as themselves doesn't diminish my claims regarding the importance of perceived male status in female sexual selection. It actually rather handily
reaffirms them. After all, the women in question here are going after journalists, marketing specialists, IT guys, and writers, not the janitors, maintenance men, mail clerk boys, or low rent office peons.
Do you think these men we're discussing would be similarly disinclined to go after an attractive secretary, or barista, when it comes to seeking out female companionship?
In my experience, no. They would not. :lol:
By choosing someone in the same profession as themselves, women are largely simply acting to assure that the man they're going after isn't someone they perceive to be "beneath" themselves. Men, by and large, tend not to have such hangups, especially not when sex is all they're after.
I will grant you, however, that the less
overtly masculine, but more socially attuned "man who acts like he wants a relationship, but is really just after sex instead" is an interesting twist on things, which is probably something legitimately more likely to be found among the somewhat less "rough and tumble" and more "bourgeois" ranks of the young professional class than anywhere else. While I imagine their type was probably a bit more common back in the days when "serial monogamy" was the more obviously "en vogue" cultural expectation, they seem to have adjusted to the "hook up culture" era just fine as well.
It might have actually made things easier for them, all told, given that so many modern young women seem to be rather confused as to whether they
really want a relationship, or just an on-again/off-again **** buddy that they can make time with in the interim, themselves.