What does sex mean to a hooker?

[MisterLogical]

I not saying they are not human or anything but does it mean less with them? In normal relationships you reserve some privileges for only your lover. With hookers they have sex for money. So like lets say they get a BF/GF and stop hooking or whatever. What does sex mean to them? Is it just a meaningless act or does it mean more to them when its someone they love, and they are just being with since its a date? I know hookers have to have sex to earn a living and many are very accepting of that fact. Like "Yeah you know its just sex, and I get money for it. Its fine by me". Like they honestly dont feel bad about it or see it as anything its simply sex. So how do they see relationships.

 

[brothern]

In normal relationships you reserve some privileges for only your lover.

Many human cultures are not monogamous ... and even in cultures where monogamy is encouraged, non-monogamy is extremely common. Sexual exclusivity is surprising abnormal.

A quick Google search tells me that in the United States it's est. 50 to 70% of married individuals engage in infidelity at least once during their marriage.

Like they honestly dont feel bad about it or see it as anything its simply sex. So how do they see relationships.

Well I've never been a hooker, nor have I ever solicited sex work, but it's just a service job.
You clock in, put your customer-service hat on, make sure your clientele is happy, clock out and then go about your normal life.

I mean the fact that I sit at a desk all day working in Excel and problem solving doesn't ruin sitting or problem-solving for me.
Probably goes the same for other service jobs: stylists, masseuses, salon workers and the like.
A masseuse doesn't stop giving his/her partner a backrub just because they do it as a job. Sure, they might get tired of it, but I don't think it ruins the relationship or intimacy.

 

[Gardener]

I not saying they are not human or anything but does it mean less with them? In normal relationships you reserve some privileges for only your lover. With hookers they have sex for money. So like lets say they get a BF/GF and stop hooking or whatever. What does sex mean to them? Is it just a meaningless act or does it mean more to them when its someone they love, and they are just being with since its a date? I know hookers have to have sex to earn a living and many are very accepting of that fact. Like "Yeah you know its just sex, and I get money for it. Its fine by me". Like they honestly dont feel bad about it or see it as anything its simply sex. So how do they see relationships.

I sincerely doubt too many people here are hookers, so it might be better to find some and ask them.

With so many groomed by others to become prostitutes, and some doing it out of desperation, it would probably be difficult to find an answer that isn't buried under various degrees of pain.

 

[Mark F]

Income

 

[dimensionallava]

I not saying they are not human or anything but does it mean less with them? In normal relationships you reserve some privileges for only your lover. With hookers they have sex for money. So like lets say they get a BF/GF and stop hooking or whatever. What does sex mean to them? Is it just a meaningless act or does it mean more to them when its someone they love, and they are just being with since its a date? I know hookers have to have sex to earn a living and many are very accepting of that fact. Like "Yeah you know its just sex, and I get money for it. Its fine by me". Like they honestly dont feel bad about it or see it as anything its simply sex. So how do they see relationships.

are you thinking about becoming a hooker? is that why your asking?

 

[KevinKohler]

A paycheck.

 

[MisterLogical]

are you thinking about becoming a hooker? is that why your asking?

Yes, I am sure that someone wondering how another person views life means they are probably part of that lifestyle. Just like I am sure every cop wants to know why a criminal killed or where the body is at is because they want tips on how to become murderers themselves. What a brilliant deduction. You sir deserve a prize for genius of the year! Well done! How can anyone argue with that train of thought? Gee, what a high IQ you must have.

 

[Robbie Loucks]

A job that may or may not enjoy.

OP, how do you feel about people who have sex, or "hook-up", with people they are not in a relationship with for free? (Whether they are strangers or friends)

 

[dimensionallava]

Yes, I am sure that someone wondering how another person views life means they are probably part of that lifestyle.

whats wrong with that lifestyle? are you saying you think your a better person then every hooker on earth?

 

[MisterLogical]

whats wrong with that lifestyle? are you saying you think your a better person then every hooker on earth?

I guess there is no point in talking to you since that clearly went over your head. I am trying to not be insulting but that is proving challenging. You might not realize this but some people do wonder and do care about someone besides themselves. You might be too stuck on yourself to realize it but it does not mean every single human on this planet is the same exact way. Understanding how another person views things helps you better understand that persons perspective and the overall picture of the situation before you. If you know John feels and react one way, and Sarah feels and reacts one way and what they have in common its easier to understand how situations are going to happen. These studies are known as the study of Sociology and Psychology. You should try reading a book on one of these two things before you ask anymore silly questions. It might surprise you to learn you are not the only human on earth. As amazing at that sounds.

A job that may or may not enjoy.

OP, how do you feel about people who have sex, or "hook-up", with people they are not in a relationship with for free? (Whether they are strangers or friends)

I honestly do not care. People get paid to do it on camera and no one bats an eye, yet do it off camera and suddenly its a crime. I dont understand that kind of logic. If people are okay with porn, why is hooking suddenly EVIL!!!! I dont see why that is relevant though. As the question was how do they view sex, not how I view them. The point is that they are willing to have sex with everyone. It does not matter if its a stranger, a friend or a lover. So what do they view Sex as? Does it mean more when its with a partner, or does it just become meaningless at some point. Do they enjoy it more with someone they love vs a stranger and just kind of going through the motions? Since they do not follow the typical standard, its not as easy to figure out how they view it.

 

[SmokeAndMirrors]

Really depends.

Most of the hookers I've talked to are the legal sort -- they're generally more together than the illegal sort, who often get into the business as troubled minors or through drug addiction. There's a good argument to be made a lot of them are repeatedly raped more than that they necessary chose sex work. Pimp-style prostitution can be pretty brutal. I wouldn't be surprised if the girls stuck in that kind of ring don't really see sex as something enjoyable.

Things seem to be better for the legal sort. Some of them are in relationships or married. Some of them actually enjoy what they do. For some it's just a paycheck, but nothing wrong with that. It seems most do have things they save for their partner -- most often, kissing.

I saw a documentary with one who thought of herself as a councillor of sorts. She specialized in disabled and older virgin men. Sometimes, sex just didn't happen, sometimes it did -- it was more about making men feel more comfortable being sexual human beings. She seemed pretty enthusiastic about what she did.

So it really depends.

 

[foadi]

Prostitutes would rather have sex with their boyfriends or husbands than with their customers. Obviously, having sex with their SO's is more meaningful to them, I don't even understand how you could question that. I am not a prostitute, but I have slept with a crapton of them. Tend to enjoy sex more with regulars who I have developed a connection with. I'd imagine it is the same with them. Pretty sure this is universal for everyone.

 

[joG]

I not saying they are not human or anything but does it mean less with them? In normal relationships you reserve some privileges for only your lover. With hookers they have sex for money. So like lets say they get a BF/GF and stop hooking or whatever. What does sex mean to them? Is it just a meaningless act or does it mean more to them when its someone they love, and they are just being with since its a date? I know hookers have to have sex to earn a living and many are very accepting of that fact. Like "Yeah you know its just sex, and I get money for it. Its fine by me". Like they honestly dont feel bad about it or see it as anything its simply sex. So how do they see relationships.

I have always wondered how much "meaning" some people see in sex. Sex is more or less fun and it depends on the chemistry between the people engaging in it together.

 

[Gathomas88]

I imagine it'd be similar to being a stripper in this regard. Some enjoy the job more than others, depending on their reason for being in the profession in the first place.

Being a young single male in the military, I've had more than my share of lap dances over the years. It's generally pretty easy to tell when a dancer is bored and just going through the motions, vs. actually enjoying herself and getting into it. I actually got pretty decent at picking them out for those qualities ahead of time when my friends and I were going to these establishments with any degree of regularity (though, of course, being a generally polite and non-hideous looking young man in a job in which these women are regularly inundated with leering middle aged creeps and weirdos probably helped in that regard as well lol).

They obviously must save at least a little bit of something "special" for their S.O.s - though if their definition of "special" fits that of the rest of the general population, God only knows. That being said, however, there isn't any particular reason why they can't at least somewhat enjoy what they do in spite of holding a little bit of something back as well. It's not like women are immune to petty lust, after all.

If you're basically flirting with and dry-humping (or regular humping) the opposite sex for a living, I imagine that some degree of genuine arousal probably comes with the territory whether you want it or not. :lol:

 

[Cameron]

I not saying they are not human or anything but does it mean less with them? In normal relationships you reserve some privileges for only your lover. With hookers they have sex for money. So like lets say they get a BF/GF and stop hooking or whatever. What does sex mean to them? Is it just a meaningless act or does it mean more to them when its someone they love, and they are just being with since its a date? I know hookers have to have sex to earn a living and many are very accepting of that fact. Like "Yeah you know its just sex, and I get money for it. Its fine by me". Like they honestly dont feel bad about it or see it as anything its simply sex. So how do they see relationships.

Do you also think that it's a meaningless act for a nanny to have and raise his or her own child? If your job is reading news articles or legal cases all day long, do you find reading fiction pointless? I'm not a hooker, but I would imagine that sex with someone they love has special meaning, just as doing just about anything, no matter how trivial, is more meaningful with someone you love.

 

[MisterLogical]

Do you also think that it's a meaningless act for a nanny to have and raise his or her own child? If your job is reading news articles or legal cases all day long, do you find reading fiction pointless? I'm not a hooker, but I would imagine that sex with someone they love has special meaning, just as doing just about anything, no matter how trivial, is more meaningful with someone you love.

Well okay that is assuming that most hookers are simply hookers since they love sex. A lot of people who get into being a nanny/babysitting love children.

 

[CriticalThought]

I actually know a prostitute. She says she does not even really enjoy sex anymore. It is just a means to make money.

 

[Goshin]

I actually know a prostitute. She says she does not even really enjoy sex anymore. It is just a means to make money.

I read this thread thinking "I don't have the faintest clue", but I imagined it would be like that after a while.

 

[MisterLogical]

I guess there is no point in talking to you since that clearly went over your head. I am trying to not be insulting but that is proving challenging. You might not realize this but some people do wonder and do care about someone besides themselves. You might be too stuck on yourself to realize it but it does not mean every single human on this planet is the same exact way. Understanding how another person views things helps you better understand that persons perspective and the overall picture of the situation before you. If you know John feels and react one way, and Sarah feels and reacts one way and what they have in common its easier to understand how situations are going to happen. These studies are known as the study of Sociology and Psychology. You should try reading a book on one of these two things before you ask anymore silly questions. It might surprise you to learn you are not the only human on earth. As amazing at that sounds.



I honestly do not care. People get paid to do it on camera and no one bats an eye, yet do it off camera and suddenly its a crime. I dont understand that kind of logic. If people are okay with porn, why is hooking suddenly EVIL!!!! I dont see why that is relevant though. As the question was how do they view sex, not how I view them. The point is that they are willing to have sex with everyone. It does not matter if its a stranger, a friend or a lover. So what do they view Sex as? Does it mean more when its with a partner, or does it just become meaningless at some point. Do they enjoy it more with someone they love vs a stranger and just kind of going through the motions? Since they do not follow the typical standard, its not as easy to figure out how they view it.

Do you live in a Cave? You never watched the news? Or heard about the stuff going on in the schools? Or how they made schools debate on it? or the fact he was supporting gay marriage. That Nick had a voting for who the kids wanting to win, That he went on Colbert report? Seriously you didnt know any of this? Im shocked.. I guess its possible for some people to ignore everything that is happening around them but I guess some of us are just more aware than others. I cant expect everyone to notice whats happening in the community. You never even heard of all the people accusing him of being a Muslim and asking why he wont show his certificate? I just dont understand how someone can miss it... Its amazing.

https://www.whitehouse.gov/blog/2011/04/27/president-obamas-long-form-birth-certificate
Report: 1.8M dead registered to vote - POLITICO
https://youtu.be/95KTrtzOY-g
Valley high school students say Obama won second debate - Bellarmine College Preparatory
Florida Man Commits Suicide Over Obama Re-Election, Wrote ?F**k Obama? In Will | Mediaite
http://usatoday30.usatoday.com/news/religion/2008-04-01-obama-muslim_N.htm
Since you are so blind. Here is the stuff explaining all of this. Its amazing isnt it? All the stuff that happens in the world you blissfully ignore. I guess liberals are not the most observant people in the world.

 

[Skeptic Bob]

I remember seeing an interview with some porn stars talking about the differences in work sex and personal sex. They said sex with people they cared about was much different. More intimate but would make for a boring porno.

 

[CrabCake]

I would imagine it's the same as the difference between casual sex and sex with someone you are in love with. Which is to say that the difference is night and day.

 

[Northern Light]

Depends on what you mean by a hooker. A sex worker? Because there are many kinds.

There are sex workers who are erotic healers, who have made it their life mission to help their clients with sexual healing. To them, it's meaningful work. This work is illegal in North America, but it's legal in some European countries. IMO those services should be available as part of the health care system. The systems here neglect sexual health so much, out of shame and denigration.

 

[MisterLogical]

Depends on what you mean by a hooker. A sex worker? Because there are many kinds.

There are sex workers who are erotic healers, who have made it their life mission to help their clients with sexual healing. To them, it's meaningful work. This work is illegal in North America, but it's legal in some European countries. IMO those services should be available as part of the health care system. The systems here neglect sexual health so much, out of shame and denigration.

Well that is a little odd.. I never heard of such a thing.

 

[joG]

Well that is a little odd.. I never heard of such a thing.

It is astounding how inhibited behavior related to sexuality is and how emotional people tend to become discussing related topics.

 

[joG]

I would imagine it's the same as the difference between casual sex and sex with someone you are in love with. Which is to say that the difference is night and day.

You mean less complicated but more dangerous?