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But how do you change how you feel or don't feel? All you can do is examine your feelings and perhaps talk about it. She is specifically asking help from others in how they have dealt with such things. I'm not sure what else she can do, other than bottle it up or lie about it, which certainly isn't going to help her be the person she is trying to be.
The outcome is the key. She didn't change her thinking or feelings or beliefs. She just feels bad about it.
Plus, you don't publically air your innermost psychological struggles.
In the south, we have a saying that fits here very well - "Damn buddy, I don't believe I'd-a tol' 'at one!?!?"