Nope, no contingencies in marriage. Doesn't matter who's fault or any degree of fault one may incur, it's equitable distribution down the middle, or in most cases, men waive their right to the house and get o run from spousal support, depending of course on how long they've been married.
Add children to the mix, and Mom (nothing short of being caught with a needle in her arm) get the kids because of an out dated doctrine, and unless poor ole Dad lives in the same school district, or in some cases the same bus route, they'll get one day during the week to take the kids to dinner, and every other weekend! THAT is the reality, Sir.
What is the difference legally between a written promise or one that is verbal and witnessed, with accompanying documentary evidence to support the promise? No, no-fault divorce is a sham, and men somehow allowed it to happen. I'm waiting for no-fault to be challenged one day, and the law changed. Yes, it's harder for the courts to resolve these issues without no fault divorce, but so what..
Tim-