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17 is still considered a child, the age of majority in Florida is 18 years old.
If you have proof TM has not reached puberty, present it.
17 is still considered a child, the age of majority in Florida is 18 years old.
No, I don't buy the logic of "child" and I do think it a serious lose of discussion concerning parents who go on the ATTACK blaming EVERYONE ELSE - when the fact is their son was into drugs (fact), vandalism (fact), theft (highly indicated), and on his THIRD suspension, currently out of school for TWO WEEKS on suspension -
... for which their response, or at least the fathers', was to give him $50 to go wander the street with and then having him look after his younger sibling while the father went of to party in with Masons hours away leaving his 2 sons alone - supervised by his pothead out-of-control 17 year old.
The directly TM was rapidly going was a crime wave waiting to happen.
By the "child" logic, then everyone agrees we should express no sympathy to parents of soldiers seriously and permanent crippled in battle - because they lived and are no longer under age 18. We should have no sympathy for anyone imprisoned for years falsely - being over age 17. As long as someone is over age 17 and alive, we should never express any sympathy if still alive.
THAT is what is being claimed - after everyone agrees that total lack of any parental supervision, discipline and control for their child is 100% entirely acceptable.
Where is the sympathy for GZ's parents? I have not seen one word on the forum or media. Their son was violently attacked and harmed. He has been jailed for self defense. His reputation totally trashed by politicians and many others.Death threats against him. His future destroyed regardless. His parents, just for being his parents, had to also leave their homes, go into hiding and even death threats against them.
I would like to see ANYONE post ANY link of sympathy for them. There aren't any, are there?
The parenting of TM didn't begin the night his father gave him $50 to go wander the streets with while on his 3rd and 2 week long being suspended fom school. It was a lifetime of failed parenting leading to where TM was at in his increasingly troubled and defiant life also increasingly into crime.
And I do not agree it is impossible to keep a 17 year old at home when he/she didn't want to be. I did it all the time. The punishment/sanctions for breaking curfew, for not being home when required to be so, was known and absolute. The rules alway were absolute and this became so routine that by age 17 there were so expected there was disappoint if that supervision wasn't there - such as MY 17 year calling to ask us why hadn't we called yet to ask where she was and who she was with. She came to appreciate this level of attention and focus by her (adoptive) parents.
NOR do I think this is irrelevant. It is known that TM was into drugs, vandalism, theft, truancy, and repeatedly suspended from school. To give him some martyre/hero status - and her parents as heros for champion accusing others - is a terrible mistake particularly within the African-American community given how most already have fathers who are absent and don't give a damn like his father, and do have higher problems on average in school, with violent, and with police.
If TM had even half assed parents in his life, I do not believe this would have happened. Once those rotten parents decided they had all the time in the world for their son was only AFTER his death and when they believed they could get a pile of money by suing their neighbors. When they did that, I think they cashed in their sympathy chips. Their failures as parents is more responsible for TM's death than are their neighbors or the property association - which have NO responsibility whatsoever.
Where is the sympathy for GZ's parents?
If you have proof TM has not reached puberty, present it.
If you have proof TM has not reached puberty, present it.
Well, first, you never asked me if I felt sympathy for Zimmerman's parents. Of course I do -- what a nightmare this must be for them. Not only has their child killed someone, but he's on trial for murder. In their shoes, I'd be ALMOST as distraught as Martin's parents must be.
But all this trashing of Martin and his parents is disturbing, joko. I've known plenty of parents whose teenagers were a holy terror and I've joined them in their dark days of praying that kid will make it 21 without a felony record.
It bothers me that, out of bias towards Martin, you'd withhold from ANY parent the decency of compassion at the time of their child's death.
According to PlannedParenthood.org, puberty in Males does not end until the age of 20. Trayvon was 17.
Puberty in Males, Planned Parenthood
When do boys start puberty?Boys usually start puberty when they're around 10 or 12 years old, though some start a little sooner and others a little later. (Boys start a little later than girls do.) The changes happen because our bodies release several different hormones. Hormones are chemicals that cause changes in our bodies. An early change is that our testicles begin to get bigger. Sometime after that, our penises begin to get bigger too, and pubic hair starts to grow on our testicles and above our penises.
I don't think this is the time to criticize their parenting, joko. Any more than it is the time to criticize Zimmerman's parents.
I know plenty of fine people with terrible kids. To a large degree, how a kid turns out is a crap shoot and if yours did well, it's partially due to luck.
None of us likes to admit this, but it's true.
When do boys start puberty?Boys usually start puberty when they're around 10 or 12 years old, though some start a little sooner and others a little later. (Boys start a little later than girls do.) The changes happen because our bodies release several different hormones. Hormones are chemicals that cause changes in our bodies. An early change is that our testicles begin to get bigger. Sometime after that, our penises begin to get bigger too, and pubic hair starts to grow on our testicles and above our penises.
Puberty is a process and it does not end until about 20 years old, Trayvon was 17, he was in the middle of that process and he was below the age of completion for that specific process. Do you consider 13 year old children adults?
I don't care to argue a bandy over words with you.
No, I don't buy the logic of "child" and I do think it a serious lose of discussion concerning parents who go on the ATTACK blaming EVERYONE ELSE - when the fact is their son was into drugs (fact), vandalism (fact), theft (highly indicated), and on his THIRD suspension, currently out of school for TWO WEEKS on suspension -
... for which their response, or at least the fathers', was to give him $50 to go wander the street with and then having him look after his younger sibling while the father went of to party in with Masons hours away leaving his 2 sons alone - supervised by his pothead out-of-control 17 year old.
The directly TM was rapidly going was a crime wave waiting to happen.
By the "child" logic, then everyone agrees we should express no sympathy to parents of soldiers seriously and permanent crippled in battle - because they lived and are no longer under age 18. We should have no sympathy for anyone imprisoned for years falsely - being over age 17. As long as someone is over age 17 and alive, we should never express any sympathy if still alive.
THAT is what is being claimed - after everyone agrees that total lack of any parental supervision, discipline and control for their child is 100% entirely acceptable.
Where is the sympathy for GZ's parents? I have not seen one word on the forum or media. Their son was violently attacked and harmed. He has been jailed for self defense. His reputation totally trashed by politicians and many others.Death threats against him. His future destroyed regardless. His parents, just for being his parents, had to also leave their homes, go into hiding and even death threats against them.
I would like to see ANYONE post ANY link of sympathy for them. There aren't any, are there?
The parenting of TM didn't begin the night his father gave him $50 to go wander the streets with while on his 3rd and 2 week long being suspended fom school. It was a lifetime of failed parenting leading to where TM was at in his increasingly troubled and defiant life also increasingly into crime.
And I do not agree it is impossible to keep a 17 year old at home when he/she didn't want to be. I did it all the time. The punishment/sanctions for breaking curfew, for not being home when required to be so, was known and absolute. The rules alway were absolute and this became so routine that by age 17 they were so expected there was disappoint if that supervision wasn't there - such as MY 17 year calling to ask us why hadn't we called yet to ask where she was and who she was with. She came to appreciate this level of attention and focus by her (adoptive) parents.
A parent should try to be their child's best friend, but the child should know that exactly NO ONE is more interested in them than their parents. And more than ever when the child is in trouble or misbehaving. TM's mother dumped in on his father and his father dumped him on the street with $50, planning to totally abandon him the remainder of the weekend.
NOR do I think this is irrelevant. It is known that TM was into drugs, vandalism, theft, truancy, and repeatedly suspended from school. To give him some martyre/hero status - and her parents as heros for champion accusing others - is a terrible mistake particularly within the African-American community given how most already have fathers who are absent and don't give a damn like his father, and do have higher problems on average in school, with violent, and with police.
If TM had even half assed parents in his life, I do not believe this would have happened. Once those rotten parents decided they had all the time in the world for their son was only AFTER his death and when they believed they could get a pile of money by suing their neighbors. When they did that, I think they cashed in their sympathy chips. Their failures as parents is more responsible for TM's death than are their neighbors or the property association - which have NO responsibility whatsoever.
Where is the sympathy for GZ's parents?
You asked me to present evidence, it seemed like you did.
I don't give a damn how Planned Parenthood defines puberty or anything else.
A 5' 10" 158 pound male out alone and engaging in a fight with an adult - rather than calling 911 or exiting the sceme - is not a "child" for any normal usages of the word, and whether that word is accurate is also irrelevant. At 15 I was on my own with a child and could have beat 3 GZs to death quickly and easily.
Let me try a softer approach.
Given the HUGE publicity and focus, this COULD have been an opportunity for our society to discuss parenting and reconsider what makes for good and failed parenting. Is it really that the children are happy and secure at home with a friendly relationship with their parents - or is it more than that?
This would seem particularly relevant in relation to African American children, though also all children.
I can provide links but this is well known:
The murder rate of African American males as high at 1 in 8 by age 45. While murder rates continue to fall, they continue to rise among African American teens.
There is a disproportionate black population in prison and with criminal records.
Unemployment among young black males is nearly 50%.
72% of black children do not have a father in their home.
TM was caught with and empty drug bag in school, vandalism, evidence of theft, truancy, vandalism, and on his 3rd suspension - this time 2 weeks of no school. With this, his mother sent him to his worthless father - who gave him $50 to wander the street at night and then to have him be the supervisor of his younger sibling while the father when off to a social club gathering hours away for the rest of the weekend.
Should that parenting be questioned? Is this opportunity to discuss parenting, rather than lamenting THIS particular black teens death ONLY because politicians initially declared it a white on black hate crime?
In my opinion, this was an opportunity to have a REAL discussion on parenting, not joining in with those parents to rage at everyone else being to blame. NOTHING about how this case is being discussed or handled will benefit black teens or anyone.
The shooter was a fat, neurotic pillhead who couldn't finish school or hold a job or pay his own rent.. so let's talk about "parenting".
Let me try a softer approach.
Given the HUGE publicity and focus, this COULD have been an opportunity for our society to discuss parenting and reconsider what makes for good and failed parenting. Is it really that the children are happy and secure at home with a friendly relationship with their parents - or is it more than that?
This would seem particularly relevant in relation to African American children, though also all children.
I can provide links but this is well known:
The murder rate of African American males as high at 1 in 8 by age 45. While murder rates continue to fall, they continue to rise among African American teens.
There is a disproportionate black population in prison and with criminal records.
Unemployment among young black males is nearly 50%.
72% of black children do not have a father in their home.
And still a young adult. Go figure, huh?Under US law. Trayvon was a minor.
If you were doing the same things Trayvon's parents are, then yes, you would be responsible, and I would pass judgment on you for your actions that were wrong.I hate to think anyone would judge me as Excon has judged Martin's parents.
Bs! Anytime is fine.I don't think this is the time to criticize their parenting, joko.
While there is always exceptions, the truth is that you are wrong. It is directly related to how the parents raise their kids.To a large degree, how a kid turns out is a crap shoot and if yours did well, it's partially due to luck.
None of us likes to admit this, but it's true.
Trayvon was a teenager.Trayvon wasn't you. You don't have to like it or agree with it, but he was a child, he was under 18.
Yes it most definitely is.No, this is not the time to pass judgment on the Martins' parenting.
Then you truly have drunk the kool-aid.Tragic facts which have to do with the persistence of racism and the effects of poverty, but not with any black parents' parenting and certainly not with the Martins', as to whom none of these facts apply as far as I know.
Trayvon was a teenager.
Old enough to be emancipated at 16, and then old enough to join the military at 17.
He was a young adult.
iLOLBoth require parental consent.
iLOL
Doesn't matter.
The first one can be done by first requesting an "guardian ad litem" from the court.
Once established, having them sign.
All without parental consent. Go figure, huh?]