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Young transgender regret

Renae

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'Hundreds' of young trans people seeking help to return to original sex | UK News | Sky News
The number of young people seeking gender transition is at an all-time high but we hear very little, if anything, about those who may come to regret their decision.
There is currently no data to reflect the number who may be unhappy in their new gender or who may opt to detransition to their biological sex.
I, am not surprised at this. Transitioning is serious business and I think there are too many "cheerleader" therapists out there. I ran into quite a few who on first session were ready to put me on HRT. Granted I did decide to take this journey, no regrets, my experience made me realize how... easy? It would be for someone to start transitioning when one isn't ready.
 
'Hundreds' of young trans people seeking help to return to original sex | UK News | Sky News
I, am not surprised at this. Transitioning is serious business and I think there are too many "cheerleader" therapists out there. I ran into quite a few who on first session were ready to put me on HRT. Granted I did decide to take this journey, no regrets, my experience made me realize how... easy? It would be for someone to start transitioning when one isn't ready.

I went on a few dates with a fellow that was transitioning, and then decided to stop. I didn't want to pry to into his personal business. But he was up front with me about it and I wasn't judgy. He said he was worried about permanent damage. He was just going to learn to be happy with who he was. I'm sorry I didn't keep up with him. He was a very friendly guy we just didn't click. I wonder how common that is.
 
'Hundreds' of young trans people seeking help to return to original sex | UK News | Sky News
I, am not surprised at this. Transitioning is serious business and I think there are too many "cheerleader" therapists out there. I ran into quite a few who on first session were ready to put me on HRT. Granted I did decide to take this journey, no regrets, my experience made me realize how... easy? It would be for someone to start transitioning when one isn't ready.

I can't speak for the UK, but in America it can be exceedingly difficult to get hormone treatments for gender dysphoria approved. It takes multiple visits with multiple physicians, therapists, and specialists, and even then you might be denied. It is pretty unlikely that someone who isn't genuinely transgender would be committed enough to go through this process, not to mentioning having to pay for the hormone treatments. But I suppose it is possible.
 
You're in the last half of your life, right? I presume that would mean that there's almost no chance that you would regret HRT.

'Hundreds' of young trans people seeking help to return to original sex | UK News | Sky News
I, am not surprised at this. Transitioning is serious business and I think there are too many "cheerleader" therapists out there. I ran into quite a few who on first session were ready to put me on HRT. Granted I did decide to take this journey, no regrets, my experience made me realize how... easy? It would be for someone to start transitioning when one isn't ready.
 
I can't speak for the UK, but in America it can be exceedingly difficult to get hormone treatments for gender dysphoria approved. It takes multiple visits with multiple physicians, therapists, and specialists, and even then you might be denied. It is pretty unlikely that someone who isn't genuinely transgender would be committed enough to go through this process, not to mentioning having to pay for the hormone treatments. But I suppose it is possible.

I am trans, in the USA. Yes it takes several visits, BUT therapists can say Oh you need hormones, three visits... and costs? Its 30 bucks for my estrogen and t blockers for 90 days.
 
'Hundreds' of young trans people seeking help to return to original sex | UK News | Sky News
I, am not surprised at this. Transitioning is a serious business and I think there are too many "cheerleader" therapists out there. I ran into quite a few who on first session were ready to put me on HRT. Granted I did decide to take this journey, no regrets, my experience made me realize how... easy? It would be for someone to start transitioning when one isn't ready.

The therapist failed to do their job. They are to do a very detailed background and then probe the reasons why the patient is seeking to transition. It used to be 6 months of therapy 3 times a month before hormones were started. That therapy lasted until after surgery and it could be stopped if the therapist felt like the patient was not ready or wasn't transgendered. Any prior psychologist problems needed to be examined and addressed before going further. Most trans candidates have depression or anxiety and that must be treated effectively.
 
The therapist failed to do their job. They are to do a very detailed background and then probe the reasons why the patient is seeking to transition. It used to be 6 months of therapy 3 times a month before hormones were started. That therapy lasted until after surgery and it could be stopped if the therapist felt like the patient was not ready or wasn't transgendered. Any prior psychologist problems needed to be examined and addressed before going further. Most trans candidates have depression or anxiety and that must be treated effectively.

I just know what I have seen myself.
 
'Hundreds' of young trans people seeking help to return to original sex | UK News | Sky News
I, am not surprised at this. Transitioning is serious business and I think there are too many "cheerleader" therapists out there. I ran into quite a few who on first session were ready to put me on HRT. Granted I did decide to take this journey, no regrets, my experience made me realize how... easy? It would be for someone to start transitioning when one isn't ready.

There are some details in this story that raise red flags for me. 1) She didn't undergo full transitioning ..2) She's starting a charity,.. i.e looking for people to give her money 3) and she claims to have been contacted by hundreds. While it could be true, it seems to me this particular story has too many financial interests involved with too little information to take it entirely seriously.

I do think that too many psychologists are more interested in making money than looking out for their clients interests though.
 
I'm not that familiar with the subject, but I hope the transgendering process is not allowed to be done before the legal age of consent (18). If you aren't mature enough to consent to sex, how can you be mature enough to know your sexual identity?

Straight-up, and not speaking sexually, I can see I didn't gain full maturity until around thirty. Maybe it's different for women.
 
'Hundreds' of young trans people seeking help to return to original sex | UK News | Sky News
I, am not surprised at this. Transitioning is serious business and I think there are too many "cheerleader" therapists out there. I ran into quite a few who on first session were ready to put me on HRT. Granted I did decide to take this journey, no regrets, my experience made me realize how... easy? It would be for someone to start transitioning when one isn't ready.

There is a HUGE difference between a cross-dresser, a drag queen, transgender, transsexual and those for which it really more is a sexual fantasy temporarily driven my libido. Even strong supporters of SRS in the medical and psychiatry field have expressed increasing concern of the huge suicide and attempted suicide rates of those who actually do go thru full SRS.

In some young people circles, being transgender is super cool and in a sense requires people at least at first to like and not bother you. They also fantasize in non-reality how wonderful life overall will become if the switch sexes. Young people are extremely influenced by peer pressure and desire to be unique and noticed. Young people dye their hair purple and green to be unique and for attention. But all that wears off after a while. 50 years olds don't.

"Born that way" for transgender doesn't really work, as there are also many other possible reasons - valid or not - a person may go that route. I MAY be because they were born that way - or it may not. Might be other reasons. Psychology of a person, maybe particularly young people, can be confused and it can change.

Any person, like Bruce Jenner, can change their mind back and forth all they want to for any or no reason as a mater of personal freedom - UNTIL they have SRS surgery done. There is no real way back fully from that physical mutilation.
 
I'm not that familiar with the subject, but I hope the transgendering process is not allowed to be done before the legal age of consent (18). If you aren't mature enough to consent to sex, how can you be mature enough to know your sexual identity?

Straight-up, and not speaking sexually, I can see I didn't gain full maturity until around thirty. Maybe it's different for women.
You are confusing sexual orientation with their psychological gender identity.


The transition can happen in elementary school for young patients because they never lived in the opposite gender ole and they have nothing to transition from, but the process is much slower. IIRC hormones arent administered until 14m, but hormones blockers may be started when puberty begins at 10-12. reassignment surgery seldom occurs before the age of 16-18.

Your gender identity is known to the parent at 2-4 years old and t is when these feelings start because they feel like they are living in the wrong physical body for the physiological gender. . A patient's sexual orientation is irrelevant to them being trans' because there are heterosexual, bi and gay trans people.
 
'Hundreds' of young trans people seeking help to return to original sex | UK News | Sky News
I, am not surprised at this. Transitioning is serious business and I think there are too many "cheerleader" therapists out there. I ran into quite a few who on first session were ready to put me on HRT. Granted I did decide to take this journey, no regrets, my experience made me realize how... easy? It would be for someone to start transitioning when one isn't ready.

Therapists and much of society are "cheerleading" and I imagine that could influence one's eagerness to begin the process.
Thanks for sharing.
 
I'm not that familiar with the subject, but I hope the transgendering process is not allowed to be done before the legal age of consent (18). If you aren't mature enough to consent to sex, how can you be mature enough to know your sexual identity?

Straight-up, and not speaking sexually, I can see I didn't gain full maturity until around thirty. Maybe it's different for women.

Transgender and transsexual are not the same, just like "sex" and "gender" are not the same. However, many LGBT advocates try to claim there is no difference. The topic is usually just reduced by all sides to a single-line talking advocacy talking point. But people are not all clones and any topic of sexuality is both complex and unique to each person.

In my opinion, up until age 18 parents have final say over what a kid may wear - clothing and makeup. After 18 it's up to that young adult to decide. In my opinion, unless due a birth defect, NO SRS surgery should ever been allowed done to anyone under 18 and it should be a major crime for any medical personnel to do such surgery to a minor.
 
'Hundreds' of young trans people seeking help to return to original sex | UK News | Sky News
I, am not surprised at this. Transitioning is serious business and I think there are too many "cheerleader" therapists out there. I ran into quite a few who on first session were ready to put me on HRT. Granted I did decide to take this journey, no regrets, my experience made me realize how... easy? It would be for someone to start transitioning when one isn't ready.

Thank you for this message as obviously you aren't trying to trash trangenders with this.
 
Transgender and transsexual are not the same, just like "sex" and "gender" are not the same. However, many LGBT advocates try to claim there is no difference. The topic is usually just reduced by all sides to a single-line talking advocacy talking point. But people are not all clones and any topic of sexuality is both complex and unique to each person.

In my opinion, up until age 18 parents have final say over what a kid may wear - clothing and makeup. After 18 it's up to that young adult to decide. In my opinion, unless due a birth defect, NO SRS surgery should ever be allowed done to anyone under 18 and it should be a major crime for any medical personnel to do such surgery to a minor.

Transexual and transgendered are the same. Transsexual is an older term that isn't much used because many people think it is offensive. Surgery seldom happens before 17-18 years old. The youngest that I have ever heard of is 16, in Germany.

The parents don't get to make the treatment decisions and neither does the patient. It is made by a team of Drs and psychologists after long hours of therapy and testing. If the parents refuse to allow care there have been cases when children's services have removed the child from the home and placed them in a foster family who is supportive when the child's treatment was being denied because of the parent's beliefs.
 
You are confusing sexual orientation with their psychological gender identity.


The transition can happen in elementary school for young patients because they never lived in the opposite gender ole and they have nothing to transition from, but the process is much slower. IIRC hormones arent administered until 14m, but hormones blockers may be started when puberty begins at 10-12. reassignment surgery seldom occurs before the age of 16-18.

Your gender identity is known to the parent at 2-4 years old and t is when these feelings start because they feel like they are living in the wrong physical body for the physiological gender. . A patient's sexual orientation is irrelevant to them being trans' because there are heterosexual, bi and gay trans people.
Alright, fair enough, and thanks for your providing clarification. As I've said, I don't have a great deal of knowledge in this matter.

However, I still do not believe there should be physical medical involvement - whatever that may - before one is of the legal age of consent. Yes, I'm aware that parents are legally able to make decisions for their minor children. But at least for now, I believe medically addressing sexual and gender identities should be a decision made by the individual themselves, and at the appropriate (legal) age.
 
Alright, fair enough, and thanks for your providing clarification. As I've said, I don't have a great deal of knowledge in this matter.

However, I still do not believe there should be physical medical involvement - whatever that may - before one is of the legal age of consent. Yes, I'm aware that parents are legally able to make decisions for their minor children. But at least for now, I believe medically addressing sexual and gender identities should be a decision made by the individual themselves, and at the appropriate (legal) age.

The teams are usually multiple psychiatrists, pediatricians, an endocrinologist but one or more Ph.D. psychologists. The surgical team, is usually a plastic surgeon and a urologist and/or an ObGyn.
 
Like with any medical procedures, treatments and regiments due diligence must be practiced. Just like regrets for not doing it or waiting to long. Luckily things are getting better and so much has been learned hopefully that continues and the medical science community can get together and improve the processes or any later regrets one way or another ..
 
The teams are usually multiple psychiatrists, pediatricians, an endocrinologist but one or more Ph.D. psychologists. The surgical team, is usually a plastic surgeon and a urologist and/or an ObGyn.

For adults I got my surgery, name change letters from one doc. And my second letter in three visits from other.
 
You're in the last half of your life, right? I presume that would mean that there's almost no chance that you would regret HRT.

Last half? Yikes...
 
For adults I got my surgery, name change letters from one doc. And my second letter in three visits from other.

I've never heard of getting a name change letter from a DR. The carry letter was common when someone started hormones and began the transition and the surgery approval letter was the ones that many people were excited to get.
 
I've never heard of getting a name change letter from a DR. The carry letter was common when someone started hormones and began the transition and the surgery approval letter was the ones that many people were excited to get.

Okay... yes you can your name change, but the gendermarker... need a letter.
 
Alright, fair enough, and thanks for your providing clarification. As I've said, I don't have a great deal of knowledge in this matter.

However, I still do not believe there should be physical medical involvement - whatever that may - before one is of the legal age of consent. Yes, I'm aware that parents are legally able to make decisions for their minor children. But at least for now, I believe medically addressing sexual and gender identities should be a decision made by the individual themselves, and at the appropriate (legal) age.


If someone born with a male body believes themself to be female but you won't let them have puberty blocking treatment until age 18, that means they have to go through voice change, growth spurts, adam's apple growth, and more -- things which could make them suicidal and if they live through it would make them want to try to spend thousands of dollars to fix what would have been avoidable changes and they would never be able to fix it all.
 
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