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how many have cheated?

have you had an afair?

  • Yes

    Votes: 17 19.5%

  • No

    Votes: 70 80.5%
  • Total voters
    87
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DeeJayH said:
I would disagree, if i understand you correctly
a person who has sex with a cheater is also cheating
ones failure to acknowledge and respect anothers relationship is no better than the cheating spouse IMO
while i could not care less that a woman is a hooker
a hooker is no better than teh john she sleeps with if the john is involved in an exclusive relationship, but the hooker would have to be knowingly violating the bond
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If I sleep with someone's husband, I'm not violating ****. I sure as hell didn't make any promises or commitments to anyone. His bad relationship with his wife doesn't have anything to do with me and is something I couldn't care less about.
 
rivrrat said:
If I sleep with someone's husband, I'm not violating ****. I sure as hell didn't make any promises or commitments to anyone. His bad relationship with his wife doesn't have anything to do with me and is something I couldn't care less about.
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If you did so knowingly, you sure as hell did violate ****.
C'mon, get real.
 
I think rivrrat is correct on this one. Two reasons, as she points out, she has no committment to the cheater's spouse/SO; secondly she may not even be aware the cheater has a SO, many cheaters don't announce this fact.

That being said, I personally would never get involved with someone I knew was cheating. Not because of any committment of his or mine, but because I wouldn't lower myself to admitting that a cheater was the best I could do for myself.
 
I don't think very highly of people that choose to betray the love and trust of a spouse. If you're sleeping around, and not telling your significant other...
 
DeeJayH said:
I would disagree, if i understand you correctly
a person who has sex with a cheater is also cheating
ones failure to acknowledge and respect anothers relationship is no better than the cheating spouse IMO
while i could not care less that a woman is a hooker
a hooker is no better than teh john she sleeps with if the john is involved in an exclusive relationship, but the hooker would have to be knowingly violating the bond
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I dont think hookers can afford to be that picky.
 
No but I've been in situations where one could easily assume I have and I wouldn't have much of an argument to defend myself.
 
Hatuey said:
No but I've been in situations where one could easily assume I have and I wouldn't have much of an argument to defend myself.
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c'mon
every guy knows once you get married you dont play twister naked without the misses
 
I think I am cheating. It sorta depends on how 'cheating' is defined. I know it seems punk, but I could use some advice.
 
Paladin said:
I think I am cheating. It sorta depends on how 'cheating' is defined. I know it seems punk, but I could use some advice.
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Could you do whatever you are doing with your mother without vomiting? If so, then it is not cheating. Everything else is.
 
Tucker Case said:
Could you do whatever you are doing with your mother without vomiting? If so, then it is not cheating. Everything else is.
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I'm sorry, I really don't understand that.

And, Dan, it's not just a temporary thrill. I'm not sure what it is.

I've been married for 30 years (yea, I'm an old f***), but for the last year or so I've been teaching with a young lady 23 years my junior. And for whatever reason, she seems to like me. Go figger. We text late at night. We go places together. We go out for drinks and lunch. And I don't drink. Nothing sexual. But we do pat and hug each other.
Christ, I sound like a 6th grade flame.
 
Paladin said:
I'm sorry, I really don't understand that.

And, Dan, it's not just a temporary thrill. I'm not sure what it is.

I've been married for 30 years (yea, I'm an old f***), but for the last year or so I've been teaching with a young lady 23 years my junior. And for whatever reason, she seems to like me. Go figger. We text late at night. We go places together. We go out for drinks and lunch. And I don't drink. Nothing sexual. But we do pat and hug each other.
Christ, I sound like a 6th grade flame.
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If your wife is not aware of these interactions, then you are cheating.
It is about trust and intent not simply about actual sex.
 
Paladin said:
I'm sorry, I really don't understand that.

And, Dan, it's not just a temporary thrill. I'm not sure what it is.

I've been married for 30 years (yea, I'm an old f***), but for the last year or so I've been teaching with a young lady 23 years my junior. And for whatever reason, she seems to like me. Go figger. We text late at night. We go places together. We go out for drinks and lunch. And I don't drink. Nothing sexual. But we do pat and hug each other.
Christ, I sound like a 6th grade flame.
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Well, if she tried to kiss you would you push her away?

If she rubbed your leg under the table would you move your leg?

Would you act the same way with her if your wife were with you?

Al rhetorical, of course. ;)
 
Bodhisattva said:
Yes, you are.
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excuses are all I have, and I'm not sure what to do short of quitting a job I love.

We work together. We see ourselves as the only teachers who accept kids as kids. With proof. Our administration expects us to work together. They sign us up to attend seminars and conferences together. It may end at the end of this school year. She is a helluva lot better teacher than I. She will probably move on.

I want no sympathy. This bugs me already.

But I never dated. Girls scared me and still scare the s**t out of me. A young lady, a good looking young lady, pays me attention. It's flattering, you know? And I don't know what to do.
 
Paladin said:
excuses are all I have, and I'm not sure what to do short of quitting a job I love.

We work together. We see ourselves as the only teachers who accept kids as kids. With proof. Our administration expects us to work together. They sign us up to attend seminars and conferences together. It may end at the end of this school year. She is a helluva lot better teacher than I. She will probably move on.

I want no sympathy. This bugs me already.

But I never dated. Girls scared me and still scare the s**t out of me. A young lady, a good looking young lady, pays me attention. It's flattering, you know? And I don't know what to do.
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one word

Weakness

commit to your wife, or leave your wife
I like you ted, but i can not respect this
nor would the students you are supposedly inspiring
imagine the drama and scandal when this gets out
and it will get out
it always does
 
Paladin said:
...................... And I don't know what to do.
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RUN

....back to your wife before you cross more lines that will harm you, your wife, and your marriage.

Really, just stop. Put your energy into the relationship you already committed to.
 
Never have and never will. I divorced my ex because she "cheated" - it was more of a financial proposition to her by someone else than lust but we didn't need the money anyway so I asked her to leave.

She got the last laugh by making me spend £7000 on legal bills to make sure I could see my kids though. :(

I couldn't cheat on any new partners now or ever because whenever I faced my kids they would want to know why I kicked their mother out and then went and did the very same thing myself.
 
Damn, Paladin, that's like some movie script type romantisizing. I can feel the sexual tension coming through my computer screen. Whew...it's getting hot in here.
 
rivrrat said:
I've been with a number of guys who were cheating on their partners, though.
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Was that in your working capacity:lol:

Paul
 
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