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Highly Religious Couples have a better Sex Life, survey finds.

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Couples who are highly religious are more likely to be satisfied with their sex life than those who are less religious or who claim no religion...

While both women and men in highly religious couples reported significantly higher overall relationship quality and satisfaction with their sex life, the results in both cases were strongest for women in these couples. In fact, women in highly religious relationships are about 50% more likely to report that they are strongly satisfied with their sexual relationship than their secular and less religious counterparts...

“Highly religious” couples were defined as those who attend services at least 2-3 times a month. “Less/mixed” religious couples were those who attend services once per month or less, or that include one partner who regularly attends and another partner who rarely or never attends. “Shared secular” couples were those who never attend religious services. “We also found that married couples reported significantly higher levels of relationship quality than cohabiting couples,”...


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There also appears to be a slight J-Curve in overall relationship quality, which is interesting:

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The sad part is that majority in any subgroup are not satisfied with their sexual relationship with their partner.
 
ttwtt78640 said:
The sad part is that majority in any subgroup are not satisfied with their sexual relationship with their partner.
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this comes from lack of communication and being afraid that their partner might not like or be freaked out.

guys are only as freaky as our women allow us to be.
it is important that women communicate what they would like and
not be afraid about what their guy might think.
 
You can basically get whatever kind of confirmation you want in studies like these. The source doesn't seem very reliable either.
 
Churches provide alot of activities that families participate in together, and also have counseling resources. Provides a good support network for couples.

I disagree with degrees of religious being equated with church attendance tho. I know people who attend church more than once a week every week. People who read the Bible all the time. People here on the forum that claim to be very religious. Forget it, they are some of the most 'unChristian' people I can think of. (Sorry, Christianity is where I have my most common shared experience.)
 
More likely to say they are satisfied in a survey =/= in fact got more enjoyment. There's no real way to measure it objectively speaking.

But if your entire belief system is that you serve your husband in all manner including sexually (per monotheistic religions), you're very likely to answer a survey very positively if that is what your relationship is. That's different than actually having a more fulfilling relationship...
 
Mr Person said:
More likely to say they are satisfied in a survey =/= in fact got more enjoyment. There's no real way to measure it objectively speaking.

But if your entire belief system is that you serve your husband in all manner including sexually (per monotheistic religions), you're very likely to answer a survey very positively if that is what your relationship is. That's different than actually having a more fulfilling relationship...
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This likely explains the entire difference. Especially consider many more patriarchal societies such as those in Latin America were also surveyed.
 
Mr Person said:
More likely to say they are satisfied in a survey =/= in fact got more enjoyment. There's no real way to measure it objectively speaking.

But if your entire belief system is that you serve your husband in all manner including sexually (per monotheistic religions), you're very likely to answer a survey very positively if that is what your relationship is. That's different than actually having a more fulfilling relationship...
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I will also point out that the 'study' was done by a group whose reliability is not very well respected. If you go down the rabbit hole and trace the sources, it gets down to the 'Institute for Family Studies', It is rated 'highly conservative' , with a reliability of 'mixed' when it comes to facts. So, you got a high religious group that is reporting on a study whose reliability when it comes to facts is in question.

It might be true, but it does not come from a source that would be considered reliable. Due to that , I would rate it as 'oh, it's a feel good story to make someone who is religious feel good about it'. I personally try to reject sources that are that extreme one way or another, and have a poor reputation.
 
ttwtt78640 said:
The sad part is that majority in any subgroup are not satisfied with their sexual relationship with their partner.
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The measurement used is in the chart I think you are referencing is "Strongly Agree". Presumably there was also an "Agree" option.
 
Mr Person said:
More likely to say they are satisfied in a survey =/= in fact got more enjoyment. There's no real way to measure it objectively speaking.

But if your entire belief system is that you serve your husband in all manner including sexually (per monotheistic religions), you're very likely to answer a survey very positively if that is what your relationship is. That's different than actually having a more fulfilling relationship...
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:lol: I'm guessing you don't know many deeply religious couples? :)
 
Lursa said:
Churches provide alot of activities that families participate in together, and also have counseling resources. Provides a good support network for couples.

I disagree with degrees of religious being equated with church attendance tho. I know people who attend church more than once a week every week. People who read the Bible all the time. People here on the forum that claim to be very religious. Forget it, they are some of the most 'unChristian' people I can think of. (Sorry, Christianity is where I have my most common shared experience.)
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unChristian, by which you mean.... ?
 
cpwill said:
There also appears to be a slight J-Curve in overall relationship quality, which is interesting:

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How about this.

People are more likely to be religious when they have less sexual appetite and are looking for something else in life.

Then when they get sex once a year, they're happy with this. Whereas someone who craves sex all the time needs lots of difference in sex.

It's one of those things that doesn't mean very much at all.
 
Frigidweirdo said:
How about this.

People are more likely to be religious when they have less sexual appetite and are looking for something else in life.


Then when they get sex once a year, they're happy with this. Whereas someone who craves sex all the time needs lots of difference in sex.
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You Definitely do not know any religious couples.
 
cpwill said:
You Definitely do not know any religious couples.
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I'm not really sure you get my point.

The point is that sometimes people see things from the wrong point of view.

Sometimes people get things the wrong way around.

They're trying to prove one thing, and they twist what they write to make it fit without considering that it might be the opposite of what they're saying.
 
I have actually seen a lot of studies where Mormon women are extremely unhappy.
 
Frigidweirdo said:
I'm not really sure you get my point.
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Oh, I get what you were saying. Your supporting assumption was simply, very, very, hilariously, wrong. :) Those married couples are having more sex, not less, and any familiarity whatsoever with religious couples would have (hopefully) kept you from writing the foolish thing you did. ;)

So, no worries :) You just didn't know that you didn't know.
 
cpwill said:
Oh, I get what you were saying. Your supporting assumption was simply, very, very, hilariously, wrong. :) Those married couples are having more sex, not less, and any familiarity whatsoever with religious couples would have (hopefully) kept you from writing the foolish thing you did. ;)

So, no worries :) You just didn't know that you didn't know.
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Firstly, the two charts posted do not say that religious people are having more sex.

It says they're more satisfied with the sex they're getting. And satisfied is a subjective term. It also says that highly religious people claim to be happier in their relationship.

If your point was to prove that religious people are banging like rabbits. You failed.

Nothing you've posted suggests they have more sex. So.... unless you prove it, I'm not buying it. Try again.
 
cpwill said:
Oh, I get what you were saying. Your supporting assumption was simply, very, very, hilariously, wrong. :) Those married couples are having more sex, not less, and any familiarity whatsoever with religious couples would have (hopefully) kept you from writing the foolish thing you did. ;)

So, no worries :) You just didn't know that you didn't know.
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I think you might want to read the story of Fred Phelps, the founder of the Westboro Baptist Church, as written by his son.

While I do not doubt for even one second that highly religious couples have lots of sex, the definition of what the word "satisfied" actually means is bound to be so variable as to defy even the use of the same lexicon from the same planet.

"In fact, Phelps began to spend more and more time in his
bedroom, cut off from his family except when they were needed to run
errands for him; cut off except for his wife, whom he forced to remain
with him in his bedroom for days at a time. Apparently the pastor's
sexual appetites were voracious, and his emotional dependency even
greater: Says Mark, "Mom had to spend the major portion of her day
sitting next to him in bed, trying to say the right things to keep him
calm, while he bitched and moaned and complained and railed and carried
on."
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Hmmmm, let's ask Mrs. Phelps if she "is satisfied" with her sex life. :lamo

And last but not least, the concept of "not satisfied" means different things to different people.
Some men or women "aren't satisfied" because they think that they can be a better partner, even if their sex life is already really good. Some highly religious couples might say they are very satisfied because they've produced a quiverfull of children.

Why on Earth would any secular couple read a report like this and go "Say-y-y, you know what? Maybe if we became really religious we'd have more boom boom time in the sack!"
 
Frigidweirdo said:
Firstly, the two charts posted do not say that religious people are having more sex.

It says they're more satisfied with the sex they're getting. And satisfied is a subjective term. It also says that highly religious people claim to be happier in their relationship.

If your point was to prove that religious people are banging like rabbits. You failed.

Nothing you've posted suggests they have more sex. So.... unless you prove it, I'm not buying it. Try again.
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1. I live, move, and counsel in this community. Your characterisation is inaccurate.

2. The stats are also pretty clear that married couples (which would disproportionately include the religious traditional married couples being discussed) have significantly more sex than unmarried adults.

3. Christian marriage counseling material actually generally encourages regular sex - generally every three or so days is a number I seen thrown out fairly commonly. Usually, given the disparity in sex drives, this is more of a surprise for the women then the men.

3b. But take a look at the sexually satisfied men. You really think they are getting laid once a year, or very rarely? :p

You must not know many, if you know any :)

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cpwill said:
1. I live, move, and counsel in this community. Your characterisation is inaccurate.

2. The stats are also pretty clear that married couples (which would disproportionately include the religious traditional married couples being discussed) have significantly more sex than unmarried adults.

3. Christian marriage counseling material actually generally encourages regular sex - generally every three or so days is a number I seen thrown out fairly commonly. Usually, given the disparity in sex drives, this is more of a surprise for the women then the men.

3b. But take a look at the sexually satisfied men. You really think they are getting laid once a year, or very rarely? :p

You must not know many, if you know any :)

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No, it's not. You're making assumptions of things I didn't say.

Also, you move within Christian circles, does this mean you know how much sex everyone else is getting?

"The stats are pretty clear", what stats would those be then? You haven't posted then. I haven't seen them in this topic at all. Maybe you're just making things up.

Also, there are different types of Christians. I'm assuming you're not a Catholic, a segment of Christianity which certainly does NOT encourage a lot of sex.

Seeing how Catholics make up 23% of the US.....
 
Frigidweirdo said:
Also, there are different types of Christians. I'm assuming you're not a Catholic, a segment of Christianity which certainly does NOT encourage a lot of sex.

Seeing how Catholics make up 23% of the US.....
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Catholics certainly encourage a lot of procreation.
 
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