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What would it take to have TWO long-term partners?

SDET

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Since women are more demanding when it comes to attention, might it work out better for a man to have two long term partners? Girls like to engage in "girl talk" and seem to enjoy each other's company more with only occasional input from the man. Is there any scenario where having two opposite sex intimate partners might be a positive experience for you? It's an outcome that I have been thinking about. I just wonder if it would work.
 
SDET said:
Since women are more demanding when it comes to attention, might it work out better for a man to have two long term partners? Girls like to engage in "girl talk" and seem to enjoy each other's company more with only occasional input from the man. Is there any scenario where having two opposite sex intimate partners might be a positive experience for you? It's an outcome that I have been thinking about. I just wonder if it would work.
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That's stupid. It wouldn't work for me. Imagine having two women telling you you forgot to put the toilet seat down.

Nah, man. I'm lucky as hell to be happy with the one woman who puts up with my ****. No way I'd mess with the good thing I got.
 
SDET said:
Since women are more demanding when it comes to attention, might it work out better for a man to have two long term partners? Girls like to engage in "girl talk" and seem to enjoy each other's company more with only occasional input from the man. Is there any scenario where having two opposite sex intimate partners might be a positive experience for you? It's an outcome that I have been thinking about. I just wonder if it would work.
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There's a new show called "in search of sister wives" You could audition.
 
SDET said:
Since women are more demanding when it comes to attention, might it work out better for a man to have two long term partners? Girls like to engage in "girl talk" and seem to enjoy each other's company more with only occasional input from the man. Is there any scenario where having two opposite sex intimate partners might be a positive experience for you? It's an outcome that I have been thinking about. I just wonder if it would work.
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You make a case for two men and one woman. Women are "more demanding" so it takes two men.

How do you think that would work out?

Talk to the "poly" member trying to always to shift sexual and relationship topics to that. The two you will probably get along great trading fantasy stories back and forth.
 
Two people really clicking intimately long term isn't something that happens all that frequently. I can do the math on adding a third - good luck if you try it.
 
SDET said:
Since women are more demanding when it comes to attention, might it work out better for a man to have two long term partners?
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Step 1: Get rid of stupid beliefs such as this. We'll talk about step 2 once you complete this.
 
A lot of money, not a lot of common sense, two opportunistic gold diggers ought to do the trick (s ).
 
SDET said:
Since women are more demanding when it comes to attention, might it work out better for a man to have two long term partners? Girls like to engage in "girl talk" and seem to enjoy each other's company more with only occasional input from the man. Is there any scenario where having two opposite sex intimate partners might be a positive experience for you? It's an outcome that I have been thinking about. I just wonder if it would work.
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In my opinion, what makes intimate relationships work is "give and take". Whether it's a one on one relationship or a three on three relationship, that give and take mentality is what will make it work.

I'm thinking achieving that give and take between three people will be much harder and more complicated than with just two people. I'm not sure it's worth the effort.
 
SDET said:
Since women are more demanding when it comes to attention, might it work out better for a man to have two long term partners? Girls like to engage in "girl talk" and seem to enjoy each other's company more with only occasional input from the man. Is there any scenario where having two opposite sex intimate partners might be a positive experience for you? It's an outcome that I have been thinking about. I just wonder if it would work.
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i suspect a number of mormon men and women would agree with your disposition
 
It simply requires a very secure man to happily cohabit with one very secure woman.
 
SDET said:
Since women are more demanding when it comes to attention, might it work out better for a man to have two long term partners? Girls like to engage in "girl talk" and seem to enjoy each other's company more with only occasional input from the man. Is there any scenario where having two opposite sex intimate partners might be a positive experience for you? It's an outcome that I have been thinking about. I just wonder if it would work.
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Kinda sad assumptions in there, esp. about talking with your partner. Might want to think about that more.

And the post is obviously self-serving in the end...we all know how sex is the #1 priority in your life. You have proudly defended that many times.

What's stopping you from trying it?
 
joko104 said:
You make a case for two men and one woman. Women are "more demanding" so it takes two men.

How do you think that would work out?

Talk to the "poly" member trying to always to shift sexual and relationship topics to that. The two you will probably get along great trading fantasy stories back and forth.
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I have a half-brother that has had that exact arrangement since 1964. I haven't spoken to him in years, but I know the three of them had been together at least 50 years. One of them might even be dead by now.
 
Lursa said:
Kinda sad assumptions in there, esp. about talking with your partner. Might want to think about that more.

And the post is obviously self-serving in the end...we all know how sex is the #1 priority in your life. You have proudly defended that many times.

What's stopping you from trying it?
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It's not really doable in the USA. The closest I could ever come is for my wife and I to live in one city in South America and have a mistress in another at least 100 miles way. It wouldn't be fair to my wife to bear such a social stigma for the younger partner to live in the same area. I further don't think she could psychologically handle it. Some things just don't work.
 
SDET said:
It's not really doable in the USA. The closest I could ever come is for my wife and I to live in one city in South America and have a mistress in another at least 100 miles way. It wouldn't be fair to my wife to bear such a social stigma for the younger partner to live in the same area. I further don't think she could psychologically handle it. Some things just don't work.
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There's nothing to keep you all from living in that situation. . You actually are making my point with your entire post.
 
Lursa said:
There's nothing to keep you all from living in that situation. . You actually are making my point with your entire post.
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I'm impervious from being stigmatized; she isn't. I realized decades ago that my very best social skills aren't good enough for most of society, so I stopped trying. You can get most of what you need from people on an adversarial basis if you know how.
 
SDET said:
I'm impervious from being stigmatized; she isn't. I realized decades ago that my very best social skills aren't good enough for most of society, so I stopped trying. You can get most of what you need from people on an adversarial basis if you know how.
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Still proving the point I made in my initial post.
 
SDET said:
Since women are more demanding when it comes to attention, might it work out better for a man to have two long term partners? Girls like to engage in "girl talk" and seem to enjoy each other's company more with only occasional input from the man. Is there any scenario where having two opposite sex intimate partners might be a positive experience for you? It's an outcome that I have been thinking about. I just wonder if it would work.
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SDET said:
It's not really doable in the USA. The closest I could ever come is for my wife and I to live in one city in South America and have a mistress in another at least 100 miles way. It wouldn't be fair to my wife to bear such a social stigma for the younger partner to live in the same area. I further don't think she could psychologically handle it. Some things just don't work.
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Congrats, you figured it out yourself in two days. :lol:
 
SDET said:
It's not really doable in the USA.
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Quite doable and done in the USA, as long as you are not worried about all partners having the same legal protections as a spouse.

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SDET said:
Since women are more demanding when it comes to attention, might it work out better for a man to have two long term partners? Girls like to engage in "girl talk" and seem to enjoy each other's company more with only occasional input from the man. Is there any scenario where having two opposite sex intimate partners might be a positive experience for you? It's an outcome that I have been thinking about. I just wonder if it would work.
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At one of the poly meetings I was at in Seattle I met this beautiful triad (a Husband, wife, and girlfriend). All were deeply in love with each other and seemed very happy. They were already raising a two-year old, the biological offspring of the husband and wife and planned to get pregnant with the girlfriend next.
 
lurchadams said:
At one of the poly meetings I was at in Seattle I met this beautiful triad (a Husband, wife, and girlfriend). All were deeply in love with each other and seemed very happy. They were already raising a two-year old, the biological offspring of the husband and wife and planned to get pregnant with the girlfriend next.
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Maybe adding children to the mix is a bridge too far. When one's children are no longer minors, it might be workable AFTER making it impossible to have more children. For me any mistress would be disposable. My permanent relationship is with my wife. I would consider a mistress 18-21 with the understanding that at age 25, she no longer meets my qualifications. In Northern Brazil, they turn a blind eye an 18-20 year old that wants gifts from a patron in exchange for intimacy. By the time she gets well into her 20s, she is expected to settle down.

It is apparently the case in Colombia as well. On our last vacation, my wife and I met a guy in his 60s, traveling with an 18 year old neighbor who was barely dressed. She got to travel in the lap of luxury and he got to enjoy a tight little 18 year old companion.
 
SDET said:
Maybe adding children to the mix is a bridge too far. When one's children are no longer minors, it might be workable AFTER making it impossible to have more children. For me any mistress would be disposable. My permanent relationship is with my wife. I would consider a mistress 18-21 with the understanding that at age 25, she no longer meets my qualifications. In Northern Brazil, they turn a blind eye an 18-20 year old that wants gifts from a patron in exchange for intimacy. By the time she gets well into her 20s, she is expected to settle down.

It is apparently the case in Colombia as well. On our last vacation, my wife and I met a guy in his 60s, traveling with an 18 year old neighbor who was barely dressed. She got to travel in the lap of luxury and he got to enjoy a tight little 18 year old companion.
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I appreciate beauty, I do. The problem is, that when we're lying in each others arms, I like to speak with her. If she can't keep up with me intellectually, things get boring and stale pretty quickly, therefore the women I'm attracted to are much older than the ones you seek.

But hey, it sounds like what you and your Mrs. have going works for you.
 
SDET said:
Maybe adding children to the mix is a bridge too far. When one's children are no longer minors, it might be workable AFTER making it impossible to have more children. For me any mistress would be disposable. My permanent relationship is with my wife. I would consider a mistress 18-21 with the understanding that at age 25, she no longer meets my qualifications. In Northern Brazil, they turn a blind eye an 18-20 year old that wants gifts from a patron in exchange for intimacy. By the time she gets well into her 20s, she is expected to settle down.

It is apparently the case in Colombia as well. On our last vacation, my wife and I met a guy in his 60s, traveling with an 18 year old neighbor who was barely dressed. She got to travel in the lap of luxury and he got to enjoy a tight little 18 year old companion.
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Do you realize that you prey on young women in compromising situations?
 
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