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Am I normal? I am a plain Jane but I only want to date the really hot guys

Wan said:
Hello. I have a question for the fine people here on this board: I am a plain Jane (I'd say I am a 5 out of 10. 6 on a best day), but I only hanker after the really hot guys (imagine the 9's and 10's). Do you think this is normal? Do you think I am shallow?

I just want to make it clear that I don't actually have unrealistically high expectations. As in, I do not carry around a list in my head that goes like, "Ok, my guy must be 6 foot 3, blond-haired and blue-eyed, with washboard abs, an impeccable jawline, and a 7-figure income". No. That is not what I am about at all. However, I absolutely do not feel attraction for average-looking guys. They just don't "do it" for me. Maybe some of them have an amazing personality. Maybe they are funny, maybe they are playful, maybe they have a magnetic presence...etc etc. But I have never been attracted to any of them long enough to get over that initial hump to discover any of those things about them. Do you think this is shallowness on my part? I really hope that it's not. I just think that everybody has her "type", and it just so happens that my type are the latter-day Adonis.

To compound the matter is that I am myself a very average-looking woman. I am not trying to be humble, this is a genuine self-appraisal. I am really not much to look at. I'd say I am not ugly either because there had been a few guys who showed interest in me, however they were all pretty average-looking themselves. So needless to say, nothing ever became of it. I am 39 years old and I have never had a boyfriend before. I really think a huge part of this is due to the fact I only have eyes for the super-hot, but these guys, being the hot guys that they are, don't give women like me a second glance.

I am not sure what I am trying to get at here. I guess I am looking for advice. But I am not quite sure what kind of advice I am looking for. Should I "change" myself, and force myself to be attracted to average-looking dudes, or should I be asking people here where I can find the supreme hotties and how to make them fall for well, someone like me?

Any input is greatly appreciated.
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You appear to have high expectations and yet are limited to making a lower than market offer. Just because one may want to buy a 1970 Nova SS 396 in great condition (market value of $30K to $45K) does not mean that they are going to find someone willing to take $15K for it.

Your situation appears to be middle age 5 seeking young hot 8 (to 10). The problem is simply that few (if any) offers of young hot 8 (to 10) seeking middle aged 5 are out there either IRL or online.
 
ttwtt78640 said:
You appear to have high expectations and yet are limited to making a lower than market offer. Just because one may want to buy a 1970 Nova SS 396 in great condition (market value of $30K to $45K) does not mean that they are going to find someone willing to take $15K for it.

Your situation appears to be middle age 5 seeking young hot 8 (to 10). The problem is simply that few (if any) offers of young hot 8 (to 10) seeking middle aged 5 are out there either IRL or online.
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I see the point you are trying to make. However, I must say that human attraction is not as straightforward as the car example that you have just shown. I have seen a pairing where the man is 65 and the woman is 25. I dont know what the woman sees in him, but let's assume its not because he's loaded. Maybe he has a very awesome personality, maybe he can make her laugh, maybe he is passionate...etc etc. My point is, it is theoretically possible for a middle-aged 5 to get a young 8 to 10. It's rare, but it happens.
 
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ecofarm said:
Am I normal? I'm super hot, like 9.6 maybe 9.7, and I will bang anything. You name it! If anyone can help, call 555-4242. Thanks.
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My day to day hotness is in the upper 8's but I can doll up to 9.8 or better depending on lighting.

Call for a quote: Ine-eda-dick.
 
Wan said:
Hello. I have a question for the fine people here on this board: I am a plain Jane (I'd say I am a 5 out of 10. 6 on a best day), but I only hanker after the really hot guys (imagine the 9's and 10's). Do you think this is normal? Do you think I am shallow?

I just want to make it clear that I don't actually have unrealistically high expectations. As in, I do not carry around a list in my head that goes like, "Ok, my guy must be 6 foot 3, blond-haired and blue-eyed, with washboard abs, an impeccable jawline, and a 7-figure income". No. That is not what I am about at all. However, I absolutely do not feel attraction for average-looking guys. They just don't "do it" for me. Maybe some of them have an amazing personality. Maybe they are funny, maybe they are playful, maybe they have a magnetic presence...etc etc. But I have never been attracted to any of them long enough to get over that initial hump to discover any of those things about them. Do you think this is shallowness on my part? I really hope that it's not. I just think that everybody has her "type", and it just so happens that my type are the latter-day Adonis.

To compound the matter is that I am myself a very average-looking woman. I am not trying to be humble, this is a genuine self-appraisal. I am really not much to look at. I'd say I am not ugly either because there had been a few guys who showed interest in me, however they were all pretty average-looking themselves. So needless to say, nothing ever became of it. I am 39 years old and I have never had a boyfriend before. I really think a huge part of this is due to the fact I only have eyes for the super-hot, but these guys, being the hot guys that they are, don't give women like me a second glance.

I am not sure what I am trying to get at here. I guess I am looking for advice. But I am not quite sure what kind of advice I am looking for. Should I "change" myself, and force myself to be attracted to average-looking dudes, or should I be asking people here where I can find the supreme hotties and how to make them fall for well, someone like me?

Any input is greatly appreciated.
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We have know way of knowing the answer to your question. Unless we know how beautiful or ugly you really are.
 
I got banned for posting reality. Seems 2 me your just a troll. I got tolled this is a political, blah, blah forum. Why is this person still allowed 2 post when i got banned for posting true facts about the gun culture in America. When i said you guys are a few pennies short of a pound i meant your Gun laws. I was not calling posters in my thread stupid.
 
Your chasing a ten because of picture editing. Nobody on the net looks like they actually do in real life.
 
How the hell did the Kardashian's or what ever there name is become famous. How.
 
Wan said:
Hello. I have a question for the fine people here on this board: I am a plain Jane (I'd say I am a 5 out of 10. 6 on a best day), but I only hanker after the really hot guys (imagine the 9's and 10's). Do you think this is normal? Do you think I am shallow?

I just want to make it clear that I don't actually have unrealistically high expectations. As in, I do not carry around a list in my head that goes like, "Ok, my guy must be 6 foot 3, blond-haired and blue-eyed, with washboard abs, an impeccable jawline, and a 7-figure income". No. That is not what I am about at all. However, I absolutely do not feel attraction for average-looking guys. They just don't "do it" for me. Maybe some of them have an amazing personality. Maybe they are funny, maybe they are playful, maybe they have a magnetic presence...etc etc. But I have never been attracted to any of them long enough to get over that initial hump to discover any of those things about them. Do you think this is shallowness on my part? I really hope that it's not. I just think that everybody has her "type", and it just so happens that my type are the latter-day Adonis.

To compound the matter is that I am myself a very average-looking woman. I am not trying to be humble, this is a genuine self-appraisal. I am really not much to look at. I'd say I am not ugly either because there had been a few guys who showed interest in me, however they were all pretty average-looking themselves. So needless to say, nothing ever became of it. I am 39 years old and I have never had a boyfriend before. I really think a huge part of this is due to the fact I only have eyes for the super-hot, but these guys, being the hot guys that they are, don't give women like me a second glance.

I am not sure what I am trying to get at here. I guess I am looking for advice. But I am not quite sure what kind of advice I am looking for. Should I "change" myself, and force myself to be attracted to average-looking dudes, or should I be asking people here where I can find the supreme hotties and how to make them fall for well, someone like me?

Any input is greatly appreciated.
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Whatever you look like, whatever your real life personality, whatever your expectations, one day you meet someone who leaves you spitless, speechless and with a few missed heart beats, all expectations go out the window.
 
coco said:
How the hell did the Kardashian's or what ever there name is become famous. How.
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Silicone ( I am guessing) in the right places?
 
Wan said:
I see the point you are trying to make. However, I must say that human attraction is not as straightforward as the car example that you have just shown. I have seen a pairing where the man is 65 and the woman is 25. I dont know what the woman sees in him, but let's assume its not because he's loaded. Maybe he has a very awesome personality, maybe he can make her laugh, maybe he is passionate...etc etc. My point is, it is theoretically possible for a middle-aged 5 to get a young 8 to 10. It's rare, but it happens.
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OK, but in your case it seems yet to have happened even for the brief period required to consider someone to have been your first "boyfriend". Your problem seems to be compounded by the fact that you are a self-described loner (somewhat of a recluse?). In order to have any chance at having a "hot boyfriend" you must first have some friend that is a "hot" boy. Of course, the more young male friends that you have increases the odds that the "hotter" among them may become, with some serious effort on your part, that all important first "boyfriend".

This may sound a bit deceptive but may be worth a shot. Pay some young hot guy(s) to be your "date", appearing with you in public places where your target audience frequents, and that may get other young hot guys to be more interested in meeting you.
 
Jack Fabulous said:
My day to day hotness is in the upper 8's but I can doll up to 9.8 or better depending on lighting.

Call for a quote: Ine-eda-dick.
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Age and height please, Jack.
 
Wan said:
Hello. I have a question for the fine people here on this board: I am a plain Jane (I'd say I am a 5 out of 10. 6 on a best day), but I only hanker after the really hot guys (imagine the 9's and 10's). Do you think this is normal? Do you think I am shallow?

I just want to make it clear that I don't actually have unrealistically high expectations. As in, I do not carry around a list in my head that goes like, "Ok, my guy must be 6 foot 3, blond-haired and blue-eyed, with washboard abs, an impeccable jawline, and a 7-figure income". No. That is not what I am about at all. However, I absolutely do not feel attraction for average-looking guys. They just don't "do it" for me. Maybe some of them have an amazing personality. Maybe they are funny, maybe they are playful, maybe they have a magnetic presence...etc etc. But I have never been attracted to any of them long enough to get over that initial hump to discover any of those things about them. Do you think this is shallowness on my part? I really hope that it's not. I just think that everybody has her "type", and it just so happens that my type are the latter-day Adonis.

To compound the matter is that I am myself a very average-looking woman. I am not trying to be humble, this is a genuine self-appraisal. I am really not much to look at. I'd say I am not ugly either because there had been a few guys who showed interest in me, however they were all pretty average-looking themselves. So needless to say, nothing ever became of it. I am 39 years old and I have never had a boyfriend before. I really think a huge part of this is due to the fact I only have eyes for the super-hot, but these guys, being the hot guys that they are, don't give women like me a second glance.

I am not sure what I am trying to get at here. I guess I am looking for advice. But I am not quite sure what kind of advice I am looking for. Should I "change" myself, and force myself to be attracted to average-looking dudes, or should I be asking people here where I can find the supreme hotties and how to make them fall for well, someone like me?

Any input is greatly appreciated.
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"Amazing women" come as they are to any place they go. Men are attracted to them not by their looks, but by how the man feels when he's around them. Amazing women know just what to say, they hide nothing, they are confident enough in any situation that they can say what man really desires to hear: and that most often has nothing to do with sex. Men like challenge.
 
Lovebug said:
Whatever you look like, whatever your real life personality, whatever your expectations, one day you meet someone who leaves you spitless, speechless and with a few missed heart beats, all expectations go out the window.
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Then its go time.
 
Wan said:
First of all, let me thank all of you for replying to my thread. And I appreciate your suggestion/s and recommendations.


True, however, on dating sites, people are asked to provide their age. I feel that my age really puts me at a disadvantage here (being 39 that I am). I used to be on a few sites and the people who would contact me were around my age. But I only want to date the young, hot ones.
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Well it doesnt get any easier with age. If you are struggling at 39, wait until your 55.

But think about it for a minute. You are a 5 who wants a 10. If you were a 10 would you want a 5?
 
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Wan said:
Age and height please, Jack.
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I'm 51 and just shy of 6 feet. But unfortunately, I'm also happily married.

Ahhh.... what could have been.
 
Here's a tip from my own personal experience: If you're looking for a serious love interest online, (but this works for regular friends too) don't go to dating apps or any of that junk. Pedophiles and fake people tend to hang around there a lot. Find a creative online game that has a sizable community, with different types of people on it with ages ranging from 5 - 70. If people like you enough, they'll tell you their real names, picture, stuff like that. Also, that way you can get to know someone's personality first - without knowing what they look like. This is a very interesting experience. Personality is much deeper then appearance, as appearance is skin deep. If you do things this way, you won't be able to judge them based on what they look like or how old they are.

And perhaps someone will like you for your personality enough that they won't care what you look like when they see you for the first time and how old you are. (Assuming you are older then 18, though...)
 
^Happy to see that you are still around, Chezanie.
 
Wan said:
No.

Do these things matter?

To answer: I work on a part-time basis. I will be going back to school in September.


Call me prejudiced, but I have always thought people who needed to find love online are losers in some way.
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I don't think there's anything wrong with finding someone online. It's the people that can't find them any other way that might have problems. JMHO...

To the original question : if you haven't gotten the results you want in 2 or 3 decades of trying, maybe there is an issue. Change your standards? Change yourself? Think about it. Something's wrong.

Plus, there are a lot of "meet locals" groups not focused on dating in most areas. I've known people to find friends and lovers in those.
 
Logician Man said:
Long term, successful, meaningful relationships tend to be based on honesty and respect. Since you've repeatedly, and proudly outed yourself as a racist, a homophobic, and a anti-semite...the odds of you actually having any relationship of real value is very likely slim to none. You made your bed, now you get to lie in it alone, desperate, and with no one to blame but yourself. Of course, you could always lie about these things, but eventually the truth generally comes out. Prepare yourself for a self-induced miserable life with some loser that embraces the same morals and values you, yourself hold near and dear.
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Well, the 5 looking for a 10 might come into play before that stuff, but yeah...

I know! Plastic surgery! It's magic. Look at Ivanka - she used to look just like Tiffany. Not that there's anything wrong with Tiffany. Well, daddy doesn't lust on her. . .
 
Wan said:
No.

Do these things matter?

To answer: I work on a part-time basis. I will be going back to school in September.


Call me prejudiced, but I have always thought people who needed to find love online are losers in some way.
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color me a loser then....

met my wife thru e-harmony

would never have met without

i also know 6 other couples who have met and married thru eharmony....

it separates the wheat from the chaff....you get to the real person, not just the "packaging"

but for you, it sounds like you cant get past the packaging....

ever hear the adage, "cant judge a book by the cover"

you are judging men by theirs....yes, chemistry and attraction has to be there, but i think your expectations are a bit high maybe
 
Jack Fabulous said:
I'm 51 and just shy of 6 feet. But unfortunately, I'm also happily married.

Ahhh.... what could have been.
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You WERE happily married. But wan stepped in.
 
This thread made me laugh so hard. Best of luck wan. Have you tried Dear Abby?
 
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