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Hello. I have a question for the fine people here on this board: I am a plain Jane (I'd say I am a 5 out of 10. 6 on a best day), but I only hanker after the really hot guys (imagine the 9's and 10's). Do you think this is normal? Do you think I am shallow?
I just want to make it clear that I don't actually have unrealistically high expectations. As in, I do not carry around a list in my head that goes like, "Ok, my guy must be 6 foot 3, blond-haired and blue-eyed, with washboard abs, an impeccable jawline, and a 7-figure income". No. That is not what I am about at all. However, I absolutely do not feel attraction for average-looking guys. They just don't "do it" for me. Maybe some of them have an amazing personality. Maybe they are funny, maybe they are playful, maybe they have a magnetic presence...etc etc. But I have never been attracted to any of them long enough to get over that initial hump to discover any of those things about them. Do you think this is shallowness on my part? I really hope that it's not. I just think that everybody has her "type", and it just so happens that my type are the latter-day Adonis.
To compound the matter is that I am myself a very average-looking woman. I am not trying to be humble, this is a genuine self-appraisal. I am really not much to look at. I'd say I am not ugly either because there had been a few guys who showed interest in me, however they were all pretty average-looking themselves. So needless to say, nothing ever became of it. I am 39 years old and I have never had a boyfriend before. I really think a huge part of this is due to the fact I only have eyes for the super-hot, but these guys, being the hot guys that they are, don't give women like me a second glance.
I am not sure what I am trying to get at here. I guess I am looking for advice. But I am not quite sure what kind of advice I am looking for. Should I "change" myself, and force myself to be attracted to average-looking dudes, or should I be asking people here where I can find the supreme hotties and how to make them fall for well, someone like me?
Any input is greatly appreciated.
Yes it's normal but yes it's also shallow. Shallow is normal.
You will likely be a spinster. The most attractive men have the most attractive women down to the very bottom to choose from. I'm pretty sure they would pair off with the most attractive women.
You never know you might get lucky. But I would suggest you start lowering your standards unless you're perfectly happy being alone. Guys have a lot to offer even if they're not the hottest thing on the planet.