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Women - What are you feelings about "giving away the milk for free".

CharisRose said:
I tend to focus on all of the details and analyze them and then write long and detailed posts.

Thank you, for this short break down of my long post using the main important points you mentioned.

Roseann:)
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Hey Roseann!
Free up some space---I'm trying to P/M you. :2wave:
 
I'm curious if Sherri knows he's been sleeping with other women. Also, was this the first passionate kiss?


At this point it seems to me there wasn't a lot of couch time and the kiss was the defining moment that broke the mood.

If she knows about the others then it could have hit her that she didn't want to be one on his "sex list". And if she didn't know about the others then she's right. She doesn't know him well enough.
 
Superfly said:
Yeah, I mean honestly, she could have just been on her period. :shrug: Women at that age can still get them, and that's a deal breaker for sure, for many women. That's something that could have happened overnight, even after she asked her kids to stay with someone else. All of a sudden, it's, "Whoops - never mind." And maybe she had that scared look because she didn't know how Lurch would react. Maybe she thought he would react exactly like he did.
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I know it is very rare but my first wife did not go through menopause till she hit something like 58 or 59, I swear to God.
Yes, she was an outlier. But even my wife that I've been married to for the last twenty years didn't go through the change till she hit 49, and it took several years for it to actually happen because
it happened in slow-w-w-w.....m-o-t-i-o-n.
She actually did have one period at 51 years of age, kind of a "what the Hell?" moment. But it happened.
Now at fifty-three, we're pretty sure that's over and done with.

So while menses at 53 is rare, it's not unheard of.
 
SDET said:
Sex being about fear and shame doesn't sound like much fun. Why would anyone want to involved with someone like that?
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If they're also like that.
 
Checkerboard Strangler said:
By the way, I missed the part about you asking her "how long has it been"...suddenly now she's a car in need of a new fan belt.
Dude, never ever ever EVER ask another woman that again.

I mean, you CAN ASK that, but something like that usually gets asked AFTER you're both laying there glowing, and then that question takes on a meaning very different from yours.

Yours...not a good one.
Like I said, I must have missed that, Charis Rose was right, GUARANTEED turn-off.
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That belongs in a handbook.
 
ecofarm said:
That belongs in a handbook.
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I can't even imagine ever asking a woman a question like that unless she is clearly making unmistakable strong indications of being in a state of desire.
And even then, it becomes an entirely different question because it is now almost a part of FOREPLAY.

It becomes "hot and dirty talk". :)

You can let your imagination take it from there.
 
Checkerboard Strangler said:
I can't even imagine ever asking a woman a question like that unless she is clearly making unmistakable strong indications of being in a state of desire.
And even then, it becomes an entirely different question because it is now almost a part of FOREPLAY.

It becomes "hot and dirty talk". :)

You can let your imagination take it from there.
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I don't think it works then. You're right, your wisdom is good. No asking the last time her oil was changed. I've seen the advice before and now I see it clearly.
 
ecofarm said:
I don't think it works then. You're right, your wisdom is good. No asking the last time her oil was changed. I've seen the advice before and now I see it clearly.
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I asked about how long since last time for a different reason. I would like to give a chick's system three days to clean itself. Less than that would be too close to "sloppy seconds".
 
SDET said:
I asked about how long since last time for a different reason. I would like to give a chick's system three days to clean itself. Less than that would be too close to "sloppy seconds".
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I can't imagine the concern but okay. That's different.
 
ecofarm said:
I don't think it works then. You're right, your wisdom is good. No asking the last time her oil was changed. I've seen the advice before and now I see it clearly.
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:lamo - - Thou art not using thy imagination. ;)
 
SDET said:
Interesting. That one is easy to get mixed up. Many of the Brazilians chicks I have known let you get away with call them anything you want. I have been speaking Portuguese for 30 years and that's an interesting subtlety. I have yet to understand their shamelessness (in a good way). I am very careful, have ALWAYS been able to use Brazil as a sexual funhouse and have never been attacked by a criminal other than getting $26 of my small bill money finessed out of my pocket on a bus. There's no need to engage in explicit prostitution. If you know where to go, a nice meal is enough to get full access.
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Yes, sexual mores in Brazil are looser than in the United States, that's for sure, and not a stereotype. Still, it's not the free-for-all people stereotype it to be. It's only by comparison with the puritan United States that Brazilians are more natural around sex. If you've been very luck with Brazilian chicks, it just means you know your way around a woman and you're a charming individual. I've had acquaintances who don't know much about how to entice women and/or are not that attractive, who went there based on the stereotype, and couldn't score once.

Regarding Portuguese, I do have very advance knowledge of the language, so, these subtleties don't escape me. But I didn't mean to sound like I was putting you down; I was just clarifying the point.
 
Amelia said:
Not sure what I said which got a "no need to generalize" as your first line of reply ... but oh well.
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I just took your "glad that I'm not in the dating scene" to imply that men who are are mostly jerks like the original poster. But if I read you wrong (and yes, re-reading your post, it does seem like I guessed too much from your words), my apologies.
 
SDET said:
That's mighty judgmental. Why do you see the need to put someone down when they are struggling? What you are doing is exploiting his misfortune as an opportunity for you to virtue signal. That's sad. He might not like my solutions, but at least I offer a solution instead of put-downs.
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I stand behind what I said about the clueless original poster. Maybe with the barrage of criticism he got, he'll actually be helped, by earning some insight, which would be the first step to improve. He was fast to say that the woman needs psychiatric help. I guess, he's the one who does.
 
GreatNews2night said:
If you've been very luck with Brazilian chicks, it just means you know your way around a woman and you're a charming individual.
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:lamo

He'll tell ya, no.
 
GreatNews2night said:
Yes, sexual mores in Brazil are looser than in the United States, that's for sure, and not a stereotype. Still, it's not the free-for-all people stereotype it to be. It's only by comparison with the puritan United States that Brazilians are more natural around sex. If you've been very luck with Brazilian chicks, it just means you know your way around a woman and you're a charming individual. I've had acquaintances who don't know much about how to entice women and/or are not that attractive, who went there based on the stereotype, and couldn't score once.

Regarding Portuguese, I do have very advance knowledge of the language, so, these subtleties don't escape me. But I didn't mean to sound like I was putting you down; I was just clarifying the point.
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There's this town called Eunapolis near Porto Seguro, Bahia. Any American dude that can't get action there had better become a monk. Just attend a "baile" and women will swarm like flies on poop.
 
SDET said:
There's this town called Eunapolis near Porto Seguro, Bahia. Any American dude that can't get action there had better become a monk. Just attend a "baile" and women will swarm like flies on poop.
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It is true that the Porto Seguro region is particularly good for pick-ups. By the way, the entire state of Bahia seems to be the freest in terms of sexual mores. I remember when I spent a Carnaval in Salvador in my late teens, and oh boy, I got non-stop action, with women aggressively and spontaneously flirting with me. It was a lot wilder than college Spring Break in the US.
 
It's 2019, and I've known you for 3 months, so either **** me or you're a hopeless basket case of repression! Come on, you know you want me!!

^ this is what he sounds like.
 
lurchadams said:
I'm 58 years old. I had a date Saturday night with a 53 year-old woman I've been communicating with for several months. Saturday was our third date - I took her to see, "Bohemian Rhapsody" at a movie theater that serves you drinks and dinner during the movie. It was pretty cool. But I just went off on a tangent.

So we get back to her place. She tells me her 2 kids that live with her are staying at a hotel overnight and would I like to come in. So I assumed at that point - her telling me her kids were gone - inviting me in - the fact it was our third date - I assumed she was inviting me in to spend the night.

So we're on her couch, we're talking for a bit, then I start to kiss her. She pulls back. I ask her how long it's been since she's been with someone. She tells me a very long time. I tell her not to worry, I'll take care of everything, then I gently take her hands and try to get her started towards her bedroom. She pulls back again and says, "No, I'm NOT READY!". I ask her, gently why she thinks that is. She tells me she "doesn't know me well enough". This woman and I have been talking for months. She knows my family - where I went to school. She knows who my friends are. We're facebook friends. In my opinion this woman knows me better than most women do when they first decide they want to have sex with a guy.

So the "not knowing me well enough" excuse was bull****.

I don't understand why this chick is even on a dating site if she has such a puritanical and unhealthy outlook on sex. She needs to get off the dating site and get into therapy for her anxiety about human intimacy in my opinion or her cycle of being disappointed and disappointing men is going to continue.

So my question is to the ladies:

It's been possibly years since you've been intimate with a guy. You're sitting on a couch with a guy you're obviously interested in. He wants to sleep with you. What in the world was this girl thinking? Why the **** is she even on a dating site?

Thanks.
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Sounds to me like you dropped the ball. Just what did you do to get her in the mood, doesn't sound like you did anything.

Sounds like you said I got a dick, so **** me. LOL
 
truthatallcost said:
It's 2019, and I've known you for 3 months, so either **** me or you're a hopeless basket case of repression! Come on, you know you want me!!

^ this is what he sounds like.
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Love your quote brother.



 
Just for the record...
I met my Karen in 1984. Her sister was marrying my brother, we met at the wedding.

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The chemistry was immediate and intense, we both knew it, too.
We went out on a couple of dates afterward. I was a goner the moment I laid eyes on her and it was now sheer ecstasy and torture at the same time, going out on the dance floor with her and taking her in my arms.

Third date, we get back to where she's staying, and things get hot and heavy and she suddenly says, "Jeffery, STOP."
Her parents were in the next room, but I was ready to take her to a hotel or motel or anywhere, and she almost went for the idea but then she blurted out the big reason:

She had signed up and enlisted in the Navy before even coming out to the wedding.
She didn't want to get involved with a guy and then take off for boot camp and A school and all the rest and just do the long distance thing, there was just no way she saw it working.

She wrote me a few letters afterward but it was clear that she was too mixed up and too apprehensive of all the pitfalls and couldn't go through with anything. I licked my wounds and gave up but she never left my mind.
Later, we were both married to other people but because she was the sister-in-law, she would show up from time to time at certain family get togethers with her husband in tow and my brother and his wife (her sister)...and of course I would show up with my wife. It didn't take long for my wife to notice what I thought I was hiding rather well, which I wasn't, apparently.

Finally, in 1996, my marriage and hers both having been on the rocks for years prior, we rediscovered each other.
But she had moved to Arkansas to be near her parents, and I was in Los Angeles, a victim of the 1994 Northridge Quake.
It would STILL be almost another year and a half before she finally came out to see me in L.A.

So, Lurch...you want to talk about being patient? We went almost TWELVE years and one bad marriage each before anything happened save for some hot making out on the dance floor years ago.

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