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    Re: Well, I finally faced hate. A personal story.

    Quote Originally Posted by Casado View Post
    I'm probably going to get flamed, but...... Out of curiosity, why do you perceive their not wanting to bowl with you as "hate"? Maybe your sexuality issues goes against their beliefs. If so, what is wrong with that? Just because someone doesn't agree with you does not make it hate. Why are they not allowed to choose who they want to spend time with?
    So if my wife was black and they didn't want me on the team cause they didn't like interracial couples, would you say the same thing?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ikari View Post
    I still find it surprising that people bowl after High School.
    HA I've been bowling off and on since I was 4
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    Re: Well, I finally faced hate. A personal story.

    Update, after speaking with the House GM, and the League Secretary...

    The League Sec wants me to NOT file a formal grievance, as that might make people hate me more....
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    Re: Well, I finally faced hate. A personal story.

    Quote Originally Posted by Renae View Post
    So, I have been on a bowling team, since I didn't know the people "he" went, it's not easy and I didnt' like it but he bowled. They were told I was trans, but I let the league get used to me. Finally I said Renae would be bowling. AFTER I LEFT, the team said they were not going to bowl with me on the team.

    I got the call after I got home.

    I am so, so hurt right now.
    I still contend that I'm not missing anything being unable to interact with people on a social basis. Simulating it with memorized scripts is good enough. Life is so much simpler on a transactional basis. Just find a different bowling team: problem solved.
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    Re: Well, I finally faced hate. A personal story.

    Quote Originally Posted by Renae View Post
    Oh no, From hells hot, I spit my last breath at thee levels here.

    I.E. I've made contact with the House General Manager, I'm gathering the information I need to file a FORMAL USBC grievance and my end game is to get my TEAM banned from the bowling alley and kicked out of the USBC.

    Ignorance and bigotry must be fought. I shall not back down, I shall not run away.
    You should in advance time box this and decide what a reasonable amount of energy is spent on this. Doing otherwise will impede you from living your life.
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    Re: Well, I finally faced hate. A personal story.

    Quote Originally Posted by Renae View Post
    So if my wife was black and they didn't want me on the team cause they didn't like interracial couples, would you say the same thing?
    If your wife were black and so on, I'd say, why get upset and want revenge? Move on.

    Skin color and behavior are 2 entirely different things.

    Again, I ask...... where do you see hatred? And why are they not allowed to choose who to hang out with?

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    Re: Well, I finally faced hate. A personal story.

    Quote Originally Posted by Renae View Post
    Update, after speaking with the House GM, and the League Secretary...

    The League Sec wants me to NOT file a formal grievance, as that might make people hate me more....
    I can see why. You should not bully and threaten others simply because they dont want to play with you.

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    Re: Well, I finally faced hate. A personal story.

    Quote Originally Posted by Renae View Post
    So, I have been on a bowling team, since I didn't know the people "he" went, it's not easy and I didnt' like it but he bowled. They were told I was trans, but I let the league get used to me. Finally I said Renae would be bowling. AFTER I LEFT, the team said they were not going to bowl with me on the team.

    I got the call after I got home.

    I am so, so hurt right now.
    How is that hate? Is there something they said that alludes to hate that you haven't revealed?


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    If you can't get over it, go ahead and report it and get further ostracized, or get the best revenge by forming your own trans-team (the Transformers) and beat their butts.
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    Re: Well, I finally faced hate. A personal story.

    Quote Originally Posted by Renae View Post
    Just bummed atm. I was finally getting me roll down, was ready to do this... meh. Ignorant peeps gotta steal that. Right now I'm in the "how do I exact revenge" phase.
    Take it from me, revenge is never the answer. When you strike back, it justifies their hate. It clears their conscience of wronging you. I know this isn't what you want to hear, but the best thing you can do is smile and move on.

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    Re: Well, I finally faced hate. A personal story.

    Quote Originally Posted by Grim17 View Post
    Take it from me, revenge is never the answer. When you strike back, it justifies their hate. It clears their conscience of wronging you. I know this isn't what you want to hear, but the best thing you can do is smile and move on.

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    While revenge is not the answer, letting bigotry stand unchallenged is not the answer either. While the motivation of 'revenge', using the official process to lodge a complaint is IMO a proper thing (even if hte 'revenge concept' is getting in the way.
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