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So I have 2 Dates today

nota bene said:
No, no, that's what I meant too--if I were a waitress, I wouldn't miss a bill. Ever. I waitressed for exactly one month, and it was one of the most instructive months of my life. ;)
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Yeah, people seem to think waiters and waitresses don't do "real work".
OMG are they ever wrong.
If the service is good, or even sort of good, I tip well, and I ALWAYS ALWAYS tip in CASH.
 
Checkerboard Strangler said:
Yeah, people seem to think waiters and waitresses don't do "real work".
OMG are they ever wrong.
If the service is good, or even sort of good, I tip well, and I ALWAYS ALWAYS tip in CASH.
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Absolutely. And if I know that the waitstaff has to share tips and the service has been great, I leave a tip on the table and slip my server extra.
 
So my friend - the lady with whom I felt I hurt recently? Her name's Audrey, by the way. On my way back this week on the trip on which she decided not to accompany me, I was invited back to her place on my way back last night, we hung out and I spent the night.

This time we stayed up late, we slept together, but we did not fool around. Something about which I'm kind of relieved. It was like old times. She made me dinner, we got high, we had a couple of beers, had to compromise on something to watch because her taste in entertainment is abysmal (don't get me started). And we slept for a few hours.

In the morning I tried cuddle up next to her before I had to leave, she pushed me away and said, "NO"!. I was taken aback for a second but then I started chuckling. I remembered what time of the month it is - Audrey is pretty regular in that area.

Anyway, we're friends again. That part of my life is going well :)
 
lurchadams said:
So my friend - the lady with whom I felt I hurt recently? Her name's Audrey, by the way. On my way back this week on the trip on which she decided not to accompany me, I was invited back to her place on my way back last night, we hung out and I spent the night.

This time we stayed up late, we slept together, but we did not fool around. Something about which I'm kind of relieved. It was like old times. She made me dinner, we got high, we had a couple of beers, had to compromise on something to watch because her taste in entertainment is abysmal (don't get me started). And we slept for a few hours.

In the morning I tried cuddle up next to her before I had to leave, she pushed me away and said, "NO"!. I was taken aback for a second but then I started chuckling. I remembered what time of the month it is - Audrey is pretty regular in that area.

Anyway, we're friends again. That part of my life is going well :)
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Congrats, buddy..Sounds like you played it well and things are back on track...good luck moving forward.
 
So Terri texted me out of the blue last night - wanted to see me. I hadn't seen her for awhile and I did miss her. So came over to her place earlier tonight. Let me first preface this by saying Terri and I had not yet been intimate. We had snuggled and kissed in her bed but nothin' more. But tonight, because of what I'm going through - I'm in a bit of a manic phase, I guess - I started gently "pushing" a little further....

In any event, I guess I have a girlfriend now. I'm glad, I actually really like her, she's a sweetie!

I'm at Audrey's right now telling her about it. Gonna spend the night with her - she's closer to the airport than me. I'm in the air tomorrow at 6am tomorrow for TX. My assistant of over 20 years is retiring this month. I honestly don't know what I'm going to do with out her - she's literally irreplaceable.
 
lurchadams said:
So Terri texted me out of the blue last night - wanted to see me. I hadn't seen her for awhile and I did miss her. So came over to her place earlier tonight. Let me first preface this by saying Terri and I had not yet been intimate. We had snuggled and kissed in her bed but nothin' more. But tonight, because of what I'm going through - I'm in a bit of a manic phase, I guess - I started gently "pushing" a little further....

In any event, I guess I have a girlfriend now. I'm glad, I actually really like her, she's a sweetie!

I'm at Audrey's right now telling her about it. Gonna spend the night with her - she's closer to the airport than me. I'm in the air tomorrow at 6am tomorrow for TX. My assistant of over 20 years is retiring this month. I honestly don't know what I'm going to do with out her - she's literally irreplaceable.
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Congrats Lurch...good to hear you're finding happiness....safe travels to you buddy...
 
I swear if I didn't love women so much, I'd hate them!!! Somehow, now I'm on the outs with both Terri and Audrey. I swear I did not do anything wrong, dammit!
 
lurchadams said:
I swear if I didn't love women so much, I'd hate them!!! Somehow, now I'm on the outs with both Terri and Audrey. I swear I did not do anything wrong, dammit!
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uh oh..You may have entered the dreaded ' I don't like sharing my guy with other women zone.'
 
Logician Man said:
uh oh..You may have entered the dreaded ' I don't like sharing my guy with other women zone.'
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No, Terri sent me a text 2 days ago, and this is a 60 year old woman: "Just because we had sex does not mean we're an item". She said later she's not mad at me and still wants to see me. I think she got scared because I sent her a joke text after our last get together calling her a "naughty little girl" - because she is!

Audrey is mad at me for the way I'm handling the situation with Terri and for stressing her out by inviting her on another trip with me.

I just can't do anything right.
 
lurchadams said:
No, Terri sent me a text 2 days ago, and this is a 60 year old woman: "Just because we had sex does not mean we're an item". She said later she's not mad at me and still wants to see me. I think she got scared because I sent her a joke text after our last get together calling her a "naughty little girl" - because she is!

Audrey is mad at me for the way I'm handling the situation with Terri and for stressing her out by inviting her on another trip with me.

I just can't do anything right.
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Might be time to not share so much with Audrey ?
 
Logician Man said:
Might be time to not share so much with Audrey ?
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Yeah. I was thinking that as well. Good point!

It's a shame, though 'cause there was a time when we could share with each other anything.
 
lurchadams said:
Yeah. I was thinking that as well. Good point!

It's a shame, though 'cause there was a time when we could share with each other anything.
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Better seek Superfly's input for these developments. These are uncharted waters for a guy who's been with same gal sine we were 12 years old.
 
Logician Man said:
Better seek Superfly's input for these developments. These are uncharted waters for a guy who's been with same gal sine we were 12 years old.
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No. She's no help! She doesn't understand women either!
 
Logician Man said:
Congrats, buddy..Sounds like you played it well and things are back on track...good luck moving forward.
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Well, not so much. We had a pretty hellacious fight yesterday morning she called me, "self absorbed", I called her, "crazy" - it was not a good time. So we're done for now :( I gotta tell you this is the third time she's dumped me and can't take a fourth. It's affecting me emotionally right now and I have responsibilities - my kids, my job.

I just can't go through this with her again.
 
lurchadams said:
Well, not so much. We had a pretty hellacious fight yesterday morning she called me, "self absorbed", I called her, "crazy" - it was not a good time. So we're done for now :( I gotta tell you this is the third time she's dumped me and can't take a fourth. It's affecting me emotionally right now and I have responsibilities - my kids, my job.

I just can't go through this with her again.
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Definately time to go your separate ways, IMO, Lurch. If things are meant to be differently, time will tell. You're right, keep those priorities straight, lest you end up empty handed altogether. Certainly don't want that to be the end story. Sounds like you two just aren't compatible in the areas that really matter. My experience is that if friendship isn't possible, things aren't going to go well for any length of time, and it will almost always end up in a bad place for both...lose/lose is never a good thing. Look for greener pastures and good luck. There are a lot of fine women out there. Just gotta be patient and selective.
 
Logician Man said:
Definately time to go your separate ways, IMO, Lurch. If things are meant to be differently, time will tell. You're right, keep those priorities straight, lest you end up empty handed altogether. Certainly don't want that to be the end story. Sounds like you two just aren't compatible in the areas that really matter. My experience is that if friendship isn't possible, things aren't going to go well for any length of time, and it will almost always end up in a bad place for both...lose/lose is never a good thing. Look for greener pastures and good luck. There are a lot of fine women out there. Just gotta be patient and selective.
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I appreciate that, Bud. But here's another ****ing problem I have. Audrey suffers from depression. She had an extremely messed up childhood she gives me nightmarish bits and pieces of once in awhile. Anyhow I had this epiphany recently - starting with her parents, everyone in Audrey's life who she's trusted had let her down. I think what she's doing with me is "getting me before I get her" - so before I let her down she's going to project some of the horrible **** she's experienced onto me and dump me. Like she said to me, that I'm a liar and she can't believe a word I say and that I'm "self absorbed", whatever the **** that means. I have NEVER lied to her - as a matter of fact, besides me Audrey is the one person in this universe that knows as much about me and my life as I do - the total story of my life - my childhood, who I've cheated with on my ex-wife - a bad thing that happened to me as a kid that only me and one other person knows about. So for her to call me a "liar" tells me she's definitely projecting someone else who has hurt her onto me.

Her depression is killing her now. I'm terrified she's self-destructing. She refuses to get professional help. I'm extremely frightened and scared for her She won't help herself - I don't know what to do, but I can't go down with her. Again - my kids, my job!
 
lurchadams said:
I appreciate that, Bud. But here's another ****ing problem I have. Audrey suffers from depression. She had an extremely messed up childhood she gives me nightmarish bits and pieces of once in awhile. Anyhow I had this epiphany recently - starting with her parents, everyone in Audrey's life who she's trusted had let her down. I think what she's doing with me is "getting me before I get her" - so before I let her down she's going to project some of the horrible **** she's experienced onto me and dump me. Like she said to me, that I'm a liar and she can't believe a word I say and that I'm "self absorbed", whatever the **** that means. I have NEVER lied to her - as a matter of fact, besides me Audrey is the one person in this universe that knows as much about me and my life as I do - the total story of my life - my childhood, who I've cheated with on my ex-wife - a bad thing that happened to me as a kid that only me and one other person knows about. So for her to call me a "liar" tells me she's definitely projecting someone else who has hurt her onto me.

Her depression is killing her now. I'm terrified she's self-destructing. She refuses to get professional help. I'm terrified for her, and I'm extremely frightened and scared. She won't help herself - I don't know what to do, but I can't go down with her. Again - my kids, my job!

Anyway - WASP problems, Am I right?
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Well.buddy...That is a totally different animal altogether. My mom was the same way, and my dad paid the same price you're paying now. Of course, the diff is mom and dad had 4 kids together, and divorce was a big no-no back in that era when I was a kid. Bottom line,IMO...you have to put yourself, andmore importantly, your kids first....but you know that. I honestly wouldn't want to deal with all of that,especially since it's not of your doing. But I would let her know I'm there for her when really needed. I know if she did something silly, you'd feel guilty as hell. That's normal. But one can't control what he can't control. You've really got a tiger by the tail. process of elimination as you state. Kids,self, job....Audrey. I wish you both luck.
 
Alright, new adventure.

Christina - this woman I've been chatting with since September finally "stepped up her game" this last week and finally wants to meet me!

A little background. Christina revealed to me about a month after we started chatting online that she lives in a rehab center in a major city about an hour south of me - Tacoma. She told me around the same time that she's in a wheelchair and shortly after that, in November she was diagnosed with M.S. :(

So, "stepping up her game": Last week she started sending me R-rated pics of her covered cleavage, and close up face shots with her all made up. She's also been talking a great deal about, "kissing - when was the last time I had a great kiss", etc. She tells me she gives great, "shoulder massages" and would I like one?

So after I drop my kids off at their mom's tomorrow I'm heading down to Tacoma to meet Christina in person for the first time. :)

One thing that really turns me on about Christina is that she's crazy smart. She figures things out really quickly - she is NOT the person anyone would get away lying to.

So we're meeting tomorrow at a hospital cafeteria and then she says she wants me to take her to a weed store so that I can help her pick out a strain for her pain and sleep management.

I was thinking of having someone take our pic tomorrow night of the two of us when we meet and posting it here with my "after date report".

That's probably TMI though. I don't want to bore you guys with pictures. I'm sorry I even brought it up :)
 
lurchadams said:
Alright, new adventure.

Christina - this woman I've been chatting with since September finally "stepped up her game" this last week and finally wants to meet me!

A little background. Christina revealed to me about a month after we started chatting online that she lives in a rehab center in a major city about an hour south of me - Tacoma. She told me around the same time that she's in a wheelchair and shortly after that, in November she was diagnosed with M.S. :(

So, "stepping up her game": Last week she started sending me R-rated pics of her covered cleavage, and close up face shots with her all made up. She's also been talking a great deal about, "kissing - when was the last time I had a great kiss", etc. She tells me she gives great, "shoulder massages" and would I like one?

So after I drop my kids off at their mom's tomorrow I'm heading down to Tacoma to meet Christina in person for the first time. :)

One thing that really turns me on about Christina is that she's crazy smart. She figures things out really quickly - she is NOT the person anyone would get away lying to.

So we're meeting tomorrow at a hospital cafeteria and then she says she wants me to take her to a weed store so that I can help her pick out a strain for her pain and sleep management.

I was thinking of having someone take our pic tomorrow night of the two of us when we meet and posting it here with my "after date report".

That's probably TMI though. I don't want to bore you guys with pictures. I'm sorry I even brought it up :)
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---M.S. is different for every person who has it.
Here is what it is not...it is not a "spinal cord injury", it is a spinal cord disease. But again, every single person who has MS has it differently, like each snowflake is individual and unique.

My wife has been in a wheelchair for twenty years with MS.
Her MS was different twenty years ago and it is different now.
If Christina is in the Remitting Relapsing phase of MS and is getting aggressive treatment, she might stay in the chair or she might not. There is no telling.
If she is Primary Progressive, then the MS may have settled in.
Courses of treatment are mostly aimed at R-R patients.

You will want to be "patient".
 
Checkerboard Strangler said:
---M.S. is different for every person who has it.
Here is what it is not...it is not a "spinal cord injury", it is a spinal cord disease. But again, every single person who has MS has it differently, like each snowflake is individual and unique.

My wife has been in a wheelchair for twenty years with MS.
Her MS was different twenty years ago and it is different now.
If Christina is in the Remitting Relapsing phase of MS and is getting aggressive treatment, she might stay in the chair or she might not. There is no telling.
If she is Primary Progressive, then the MS may have settled in.
Courses of treatment are mostly aimed at R-R patients.

You will want to be "patient".
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Wow, I had no idea, C.B.S! What a sweet, loving supportive husband you are!

I don't know what stage Christina's in, I'm sure she'll talk about it tomorrow.

As far as being "patient", no worries. Christina wouldn't let me get away with moving too fast. She's very strong willed. I like that!
 
lurchadams said:
Alright, new adventure.

Christina - this woman I've been chatting with since September finally "stepped up her game" this last week and finally wants to meet me!
... :)
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Glad to see you back! I noted you settled some scores.

Cheers to you and Christina rocking that first date!
 
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