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So I have 2 Dates today

CLAX1911 said:
I assumed finding a life partner what's the goal but not everybody's in to that. Glad your experience was positive.
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I was married for 20 years. Maybe settle down again eventually, but having fun "exploring" right now.

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I definitely think it should be laid-back and easy-going. Not like what we have now, where its the sexual version of how money is used to determine economic class. I need to re-read the OP again perhaps but it sounded like it took you quite a while to find 2 people out of a gigantic crowd, which pretty much fits with my experience. I haven't "dated" in years, probably wouldn't be "BF" material anymore anyway, even if I ever was. I feel like the era we're living in is the exact polar opposite of "the Summer of love," in that the idea of free love is treated almost like hate speech, and there is a lot of socioeconomic structural bias toward cis-straight-couples along with the harsh reality of economic hardships forcing more and more women to remain in abusive relationships out of fear of losing their livelihood...

So, yeah, got too much on my mind to be bale to function in that social equation at the current time in my life, lol
 
Abbazorkzog said:
I definitely think it should be laid-back and easy-going. Not like what we have now, where its the sexual version of how money is used to determine economic class. I need to re-read the OP again perhaps but it sounded like it took you quite a while to find 2 people out of a gigantic crowd, which pretty much fits with my experience. I haven't "dated" in years, probably wouldn't be "BF" material anymore anyway, even if I ever was. I feel like the era we're living in is the exact polar opposite of "the Summer of love," in that the idea of free love is treated almost like hate speech, and there is a lot of socioeconomic structural bias toward cis-straight-couples along with the harsh reality of economic hardships forcing more and more women to remain in abusive relationships out of fear of losing their livelihood...

So, yeah, got too much on my mind to be bale to function in that social equation at the current time in my life, lol
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Dude, I'm sorry you feel that way. I'm not sure what you mean about "free love being treated as hate speech" but I guarantee you people are still having sex outside of marriage for free. I'd send pics, but the mods would have me killed :)
 
lurchadams said:
Dude, I'm sorry you feel that way. I'm not sure what you mean about "free love being treated as hate speech" but I guarantee you people are still having sex outside of marriage for free. I'd send pics, but the mods would have me killed :)
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:lol:
 
lurchadams said:
Dude, I'm sorry you feel that way. I'm not sure what you mean about "free love being treated as hate speech" but I guarantee you people are still having sex outside of marriage for free. I'd send pics, but the mods would have me killed :)
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There is the basement....
 
lurchadams said:
Dude, I'm sorry you feel that way. I'm not sure what you mean about "free love being treated as hate speech" but I guarantee you people are still having sex outside of marriage for free. I'd send pics, but the mods would have me killed :)
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Damn.

You can't just not keep us updated. I am involved in all this now.

I have quite enjoyed the read. :) :)
 
Superfly said:
Damn.

You can't just not keep us updated. I am involved in all this now.

I have quite enjoyed the read. :) :)
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Awww.. still just having fun. I did finally have my date with the Asian lady - the one who asked me for a bunch of pics but refused to send me any of hers. She's very sweet but I don't think I'll be seeing her again. She definitely does not appreciate my twisted sense of humor :)

I'm still seeing both Sherri and Terri and we all text every day.
 
lurchadams said:
Awww.. still just having fun. I did finally have my date with the Asian lady - the one who asked me for a bunch of pics but refused to send me any of hers. She's very sweet but I don't think I'll be seeing her again. She definitely does not appreciate my twisted sense of humor :)

I'm still seeing both Sherri and Terri and we all text every day.
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It's extremely important to be "in sync" with the people you date. Looks and all that can only go so far, and then you are stuck sitting on the sofa with a bubble-head who couldn't carry on an intelligent conversation to save his/her life.

When I was dating, there were certain things that I looked for. Intelligence was very important to me, as well as a good sense of humor. Credit is important to me - not in a materialistic bitch kind of way, but if you don't pay your bills, then you have problems in other parts of your life as well, that I'm not interested in finding out about.
 
Abbazorkzog said:
I feel like the era we're living in is the exact polar opposite of "the Summer of love," in that the idea of free love is treated almost like hate speech
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Blame stingy Western women that have been led to believe that they get more by being physically, psychologically, professionally and socially stingy. They place a price on everything, including things as simple as a greeting. They only offer anything positive when they get the better end of a deal. Putting effort into a Western woman makes as much sense as playing a slot machine as a long term investment.
 
SDET said:
Blame stingy Western women that have been led to believe that they get more by being physically, psychologically, professionally and socially stingy. They place a price on everything, including things as simple as a greeting. They only offer anything positive when they get the better end of a deal. Putting effort into a Western woman makes as much sense as playing a slot machine as a long term investment.
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What about Latinas? Are they not Western?
 
Abbazorkzog said:
What about Latinas? Are they not Western?
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When I use the term, no. Do you have a better term to describe women whose native language is English, that also is a unioned with the set of women in Europe? That also leaves open the question: Are Iberian women more like the European feminist-influenced or more like Latinas?
 
Superfly said:
It's extremely important to be "in sync" with the people you date. Looks and all that can only go so far, and then you are stuck sitting on the sofa with a bubble-head who couldn't carry on an intelligent conversation to save his/her life.

When I was dating, there were certain things that I looked for. Intelligence was very important to me, as well as a good sense of humor. Credit is important to me - not in a materialistic bitch kind of way, but if you don't pay your bills, then you have problems in other parts of your life as well, that I'm not interested in finding out about.
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Makes sense. I'm not looking to settle down just yet so I have not yet credit-checked these women :)
 
SDET said:
When I use the term, no. Do you have a better term to describe women whose native language is English, that also is a unioned with the set of women in Europe? That also leaves open the question: Are Iberian women more like the European feminist-influenced or more like Latinas?
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No, I don't think European women and Anglo-American women are comparable from my experience.

Europeans in general seem more open-minded (except from Eastern Bloc-Yugoslav countries) than Americans (including Latin-America).
 
New adventure: I have a former girlfriend with whom I have remained friends. She's the only one of my friends who enjoys M.J. so we still hang out periodically. Frequently we've slept platonically together because she lives an hour away from my house and I don't want a DUI driving home. Well, last night we hung out again, I brought beer and M.J. and she made dinner and we watched the NYE festivities together on T.V. Around 1 we hit the sack. This time went a little differently. She usually prefers to occupy her own space on her side of the bed but last night (or I guess, this morning) she snuggled close with her head on my chest. I like to snuggle, so I sure didn't mind. About 5 minutes after we crashed, her hands started "roaming" and we ended up fooling around. I was pretty happy about it, and so seemed she at the time. We both only got about a couple hours sleep and she woke up about 7 turned back on the TV, and she seemed really excited/agitated. I told her she should go back to sleep, we both had several hours until we had to get up but she kept chattering. Finally something dawned on me - she felt uncomfortable about our hooking up!? So I said, "<her name> are you worried about last night?". She answered really abruptly, "NO! DO YOU?". And I said really softly, "No, hon. We're 2 friends who wanted to play last night so we played, and I thought it was wonderful!". She chuckled, nervously and that's the last we spoke about it.

I emailed her when I got back home today, filled her in on my news of the day as I often do and thanked her for her hospitality. She replied with two sentences about something unrelated.

Anyway... I guess I'm a little concerned she regrets our fooling around! I guess I'll wait until it blows over. I hope it will. I really like her.
 
lurchadams said:
New adventure: I have a former girlfriend with whom I have remained friends. She's the only one of my friends who enjoys M.J. so we still hang out periodically. Frequently we've slept platonically together because she lives an hour away from my house and I don't want a DUI driving home. Well, last night we hung out again, I brought beer and M.J. and she made dinner and we watched the NYE festivities together on T.V. Around 1 we hit the sack. This time went a little differently. She usually prefers to occupy her own space on her side of the bed but last night (or I guess, this morning) she snuggled close with her head on my chest. I like to snuggle, so I sure didn't mind. About 5 minutes after we crashed, her hands started "roaming" and we ended up fooling around. I was pretty happy about it, and so seemed she at the time. We both only got about a couple hours sleep and she woke up about 7 turned back on the TV, and she seemed really excited/agitated. I told her she should go back to sleep, we both had several hours until we had to get up but she kept chattering. Finally something dawned on me - she felt uncomfortable about our hooking up!? So I said, "<her name> are you worried about last night?". She answered really abruptly, "NO! DO YOU?". And I said really softly, "No, hon. We're 2 friends who wanted to play last night so we played, and I thought it was wonderful!". She chuckled, nervously and that's the last we spoke about it.

I emailed her when I got back home today, filled her in on my news of the day as I often do and thanked her for her hospitality. She replied with two sentences about something unrelated.

Anyway... I guess I'm a little concerned she regrets our fooling around! I guess I'll wait until it blows over. I hope it will. I really like her.
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Um - no, dude. I think maybe she was looking for more and you "friend-zoned" her.
 
Superfly said:
Um - no, dude. I think maybe she was looking for more and you "friend-zoned" her.
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This.

Women don't bang mere friends. That's a guy thing.
 
Superfly said:
Um - no, dude. I think maybe she was looking for more and you "friend-zoned" her.
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But she dumped me two years ago. She said I was too normal and that she'd rather be on her own. We found our way back to each other as friends and she's been fine with that, or so I thought. If I told her I loved her and wanted her to by my "one and only" right now, that would be a lie.

Women, Superfly, Amright? :2razz:
 
MovingPictures said:
This.

Women don't bang mere friends. That's a guy thing.
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Not true! In my 20's I had a sport f-buddy. She actually told me she wasn't up for anything more and we were both fine with that!
 
lurchadams said:
But she dumped me two years ago. She said I was too normal and that she'd rather be on her own. We found our way back to each other as friends and she's been fine with that, or so I thought. If I told her I loved her and wanted her to by my "one and only" right now, that would be a lie.

Women, Superfly, Amright? :2razz:
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Sounds more like "Men." *huge sigh*

No, honey. She might have dumped you, but things change. People change. Sounds to me like she regrets dumping you and maybe wanted to have another chance. I don't know, man. I'm spitballing here, knowing nothing really about her *or* you. But you don't want to lead her on. That's the worst thing you can do.

You are in a tough spot, my friend.
 
Superfly said:
Sounds more like "Men." *huge sigh*

No, honey. She might have dumped you, but things change. People change. Sounds to me like she regrets dumping you and maybe wanted to have another chance. I don't know, man. I'm spitballing here, knowing nothing really about her *or* you. But you don't want to lead her on. That's the worst thing you can do.

You are in a tough spot, my friend.
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To your bolded: Then why not just tell me that???
 
lurchadams said:
To your bolded: Then why not just tell me that???
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Because she doesn't want the responsibility of locking herself into she thinks she wants.
 
Superfly said:
Sounds more like "Men." *huge sigh*

No, honey. She might have dumped you, but things change. People change. Sounds to me like she regrets dumping you and maybe wanted to have another chance. I don't know, man. I'm spitballing here, knowing nothing really about her *or* you. But you don't want to lead her on. That's the worst thing you can do.

You are in a tough spot, my friend.
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She should be honest then and tell him what she wants.

Wanna be humping buddies? Speak-up.
 
MovingPictures said:
Because she doesn't want the responsibility of locking herself into she thinks she wants.
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Yeah, not following you, brother. She hooks up with other guys, which doesn't bother me and we both tell each other about our dating "adventures". I consider myself a pretty good judge of someone's intentions and until this morning I've never got anything else from her other than positive vibes about we just being friends.

I love women. A lot. I guess I will just never ever completely understand them.
 
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