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So I have 2 Dates today

lurchadams said:
I highly advise against beating things off with a stick. Could cause permanent damage. Plus, explaining what happened to the E.R. intake person could be kind of embarrassing.
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Don't knock it till you try it
 
lwf said:
If you're serious, you ought to consider volunteering in your spare time. I volunteered at a suicide and domestic violence hotline a while back. I was one of 3 guys among about 20 college age girls and the 2 other guys were gay. I was married at the time and I still had to beat them off with a stick.
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those gay guys can be aggressive sometimes
 
RAMOSS said:
The 'not show picture' is a big red flag for catfishing actually. For that matter, it must be skype.. photos can be downloaded from the internets.
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Well, she sent me her picture today, but she was wearing sunglasses :) Cracked me up... either she's shy or a rich housewife who doesn't want to be recognized.

Or axe murderer... but I prefer the "housewife" fantasy :)
 
Ok, some quick updates on what's happening with me. Now, I'm going to tell you some secrets here so you guys have to promise not to tell anyone! Promise? Good!

Ok, so I had my 2nd date with Sherri. We played tennis last night. Attractiveness is not huge with me but I need so see something attractive in a woman. Terri is sweet, but she's tiring of my sense of humor. Lastly I must have seen her in a different type of light last night or maybe it was that we were playing tennis and I saw her in a tight tennis outfit - Wowsah! No! Her face isn't that attractive, but if she had one or the other, a prettier face or a better body I could overlook one or the other. That combined with her different sense of humor than mine. So I didn't text her last night as I probably should have after a date. She texted me this morning, I thanked her again, told her I had fun, but I gotta cut her loose. Any suggestions on a good way to do that would be appreciated.

Terri - have my second date with her tonight. She's a few years older than me. She's shy, but when you get her talking her opinions start to come out, along with a great deal of profanity which I personally find adorable. We had a little cuddle/kissy face on our first date so I'm hoping tonight after dinner I'll be able to do horrible, obscene, and unspeakable things to her.

Thao - very shy Vietnamese woman. About 10 years younger than me. Still hasn't sent me her picture without sunglasses. We've got a date set up for the 11th. Dinner.

Dawn - the newest. She lives about 3 hours away from me but wants to meet me. I'm working in her area this week so I have a Dinner date with her Thursday. She's about 5 years older than me but cute! Can you say, "Grandma fantasies"? :)

The ladies and I have been texting periodically. It's goin' pretty good so far I think. Updates later.
 
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lurchadams said:
Ok, some quick updates on what's happening with me. Now, I'm going to tell you some secrets here so you guys have to promise not to tell anyone! Promise? Good!

Ok, so I had my 2nd date with Sherri. We played tennis last night. Attractiveness is not huge with me but I need so see something attractive in a woman. Terri is sweet, but she's tiring of my sense of humor. Lastly I must have seen her in a different type of light last night or maybe it was that we were playing tennis and I saw her in a tight tennis outfit - Wowsah! No! Her face isn't that attractive, but if she had one or the other, a prettier face or a better body I could overlook one or the other. That combined with her different sense of humor than mine. So I didn't text her last night as I probably should have after a date. She texted me this morning, I thanked her again, told her I had fun, but I gotta cut her loose. Any suggestions on a good way to do that would be appreciated.

Terri - have my second date with her tonight. She's a few years older than me. She's shy, but when you get her talking her opinions start to come out, along with a great deal of profanity which I personally find adorable. We had a little cuddle/kissy face on our first date so I'm hoping tonight after dinner I'll be able to do horrible, obscene, and unspeakable things to her.

Thao - very shy Vietnamese woman. About 10 years older than me. Still hasn't sent me her picture without sunglasses. We've got a date set up for the 11th. Dinner.

Dawn - the newest. She lives about 3 hours away from me but wants to meet me. I'm working in her area this week so I have a Dinner date with her Thursday. She's about 5 years older than me but cute! Can you say, "Grandma fantasies"? :)

The ladies and I have been texting periodically. It's goin' pretty good so far I think. Updates later.
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lie
for her sake
explain that you have only just resumed dating after an extended period and there is someone who expects you to be monogamous if you are to take your relationship further
you just knighted yourself while keeping sherri from feeling like she's the third wheel
 
justabubba said:
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lie
for her sake
explain that you have only just resumed dating after an extended period and there is someone who expects you to be monogamous if you are to take your relationship further
you just knighted yourself while keeping sherri from feeling like she's the third wheel
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It's not that I want her to be ok with me dating other women. I assume she knows I do. It's that I don't want to see her any longer.
 
lurchadams said:
It's not that I want her to be ok with me dating other women. I assume she knows I do. It's that I don't want to see her any longer.
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that's why i said LIE to her
this is a white one
you would be telling her that to assuage her feelings. that but for the need for monogamy by the other woman she would still be someone you would want to date
letting her think that would be kinder than telling her she does not measure up
its not like you will ever have to date her or interact with her again
 
lurchadams said:
Ok, some quick updates on what's happening with me. Now, I'm going to tell you some secrets here so you guys have to promise not to tell anyone! Promise? Good!

Ok, so I had my 2nd date with Sherri. We played tennis last night. Attractiveness is not huge with me but I need so see something attractive in a woman. Terri is sweet, but she's tiring of my sense of humor. Lastly I must have seen her in a different type of light last night or maybe it was that we were playing tennis and I saw her in a tight tennis outfit - Wowsah! No! Her face isn't that attractive, but if she had one or the other, a prettier face or a better body I could overlook one or the other. That combined with her different sense of humor than mine. So I didn't text her last night as I probably should have after a date. She texted me this morning, I thanked her again, told her I had fun, but I gotta cut her loose. Any suggestions on a good way to do that would be appreciated.

Terri - have my second date with her tonight. She's a few years older than me. She's shy, but when you get her talking her opinions start to come out, along with a great deal of profanity which I personally find adorable. We had a little cuddle/kissy face on our first date so I'm hoping tonight after dinner I'll be able to do horrible, obscene, and unspeakable things to her.

Thao - very shy Vietnamese woman. About 10 years younger than me. Still hasn't sent me her picture without sunglasses. We've got a date set up for the 11th. Dinner.

Dawn - the newest. She lives about 3 hours away from me but wants to meet me. I'm working in her area this week so I have a Dinner date with her Thursday. She's about 5 years older than me but cute! Can you say, "Grandma fantasies"? :)

The ladies and I have been texting periodically. It's goin' pretty good so far I think. Updates later.
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You are obviously a hard working man.
 
lurchadams said:
It's not that I want her to be ok with me dating other women. I assume she knows I do. It's that I don't want to see her any longer.
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You surrendered TMI too early! After 21 pages, I hope a turtle got some mud somewhere...........
 
justabubba said:
that's why i said LIE to her
this is a white one
you would be telling her that to assuage her feelings. that but for the need for monogamy by the other woman she would still be someone you would want to date
letting her think that would be kinder than telling her she does not measure up
its not like you will ever have to date her or interact with her again
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OHHHHHH! So you're suggesting I tell her I'm getting serious with one of the other ladies! That's a good idea! Let me think about that one.
 
Rexedgar said:
You surrendered TMI too early! After 21 pages, I hope a turtle got some mud somewhere...........
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You are welcome to stop reading my posts anytime. If you do, I'll do my very best to soldier on.
 
lurchadams said:
I actually am. Not as hard working as a plumber but I do get a lot of things done. Thanks.
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Well, you are representing the male species. Our collective honour rests upon you doing a good job of it(it as in it) so make sure you can manage to satisfy all of them.

I believe certain drugs are out there to help....


Good luck and don't take any of this serriously!
 
lurchadams said:
You are welcome to stop reading my posts anytime. If you do, I'll do my very best to soldier on.
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Turtle is doing without, OK!
I’m not dating you, but I sense an over-sensitive psyche. Turns me off! Lighten up, Francis
 
Rexedgar said:
Turtle is doing without, OK!
I’m not dating you, but I sense an over-sensitive psyche. Turns me off! Lighten up, Francis
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Yeah, I'm not quite getting your turtle analogy. Thanks, also for your opinion regarding my psyche. Opinions on how I'm perceived to others are very important to me right now.
 
<alt>doxygen said:
I was going through a "feeling out" phase with 2 women. About 2 weeks in, one of them insisted on spending the night. I stupidly let her (though it was a blast), and the next morning the other one calls me. This was before cell phones. I had to answer, since I didn't want the one who was still in my bed to hear number 2 leaving a message, so I go out in the hall to take the call. I talked very quietly, and the one on the phone became suspicious. It didn't happen right there, but both of them basically dumped me at the same time, with a "you can have her...".

Oh, well, I don't think either of them would have lasted and I'm happy with my wife of 17 years.

Be vewwy careful...
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HAR!!!
Story of my very first serious live-in GF, condensed for brevity (hopefully)...
I'd been sorta kinda "stalking" her for almost a year, said "stalking" consisting of nothing creepier than just going into the drugstore where she worked for any excuse possible to buy whatever, so I could talk to her.
She wore the same stupid pink Snyder Drug Store smock every day but I just had a gut feeling she looked really really good under that smock, and she was just flat out adorable anyway.

I wasn't getting anywhere, or so I THOUGHT, so I started putting myself out there a little more, which was easy being in a band, and actively trying to flirt with more girls. I was having some "success" with this but I wanted a GIRLFRIEND at this point, not just a booty call. I had started getting that out of my system and now I wanted more than that.

All of a sudden I mustered up the courage to just come out with it and make a play for the Snyder's Drugstore girl and tell her I really wanted to go out with her and get to know her better. And holy krap, it worked, much to my surprise.
We went to a concert, she was nervous and didn't say much, so I thought I'd bombed out and didn't get back to her for about a month. Then she shows up at a local watering hole, and there I was, playing the flirty guy thing and landing another girl on the hook and suddenly "SHE" is right there, with "the look".

What's my problem, she wanted to know, I took her out and then just skipped out and never called, why...?
Oh, so you're more interested in that bitch, are you?
Uh ohhhh, I had to act quick because I really really wanted Miss Snyder Drugstore girl badly, and she was looking DAMN good without that pink smock, better than I ever expected.

Nope, shot down, nothing doing, she was gone, and so was my other prospect.
Then finally, three weeks late I mustered up the guts to walk back into Snyder's and spent her lunch break trying to weasel my way back into her good graces.
The gambit worked...well, for about five years anyway.
 
NeverTrumpGOP said:
Actually I don't drink, smoke or do drugs. Women I meet tend to do one of the three and one of those things seems to be really important to them. So while I am all of the things you listed. That's not good enough apparently.
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Do you want someone to be totally honest with you about this stuff?
You might not like it, but if you want someone to be totally honest with you, I will be.

You have a chip on your shoulder which is five miles wide. And I daresay it's obvious to quite a few here.
That is the biggest problem you're having right now.

Everything else pales in comparison to that monster chip on your shoulder.
Women read those a mile away.
 
Checkerboard Strangler said:
HAR!!!
I wasn't getting anywhere, or so I THOUGHT, so I started putting myself out there a little more, which was easy being in a band, and actively trying to flirt with more girls. I was having some "success" with this but I wanted a GIRLFRIEND at this point, not just a booty call. I had started getting that out of my system and now I wanted more than that.

All of a sudden I mustered up the courage to just come out with it and make a play for the Snyder's Drugstore girl and tell her I really wanted to go out with her and get to know her better. And holy krap, it worked, much to my surprise.
We went to a concert, she was nervous and didn't say much, so I thought I'd bombed out and didn't get back to her for about a month. Then she shows up at a local watering hole, and there I was, playing the flirty guy thing and landing another girl on the hook and suddenly "SHE" is right there, with "the look".
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Just curious, why didn't you follow up after the concert after all you had to muster up just to ask her out?
 
Joecool44 said:
Just curious, why didn't you follow up after the concert after all you had to muster up just to ask her out?
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I thought I told the rest of the story...there she was on the dance floor, with "the look" and she stomped off in a huff.
But I followed through the next day by showing up at Snyder's Drugs again, and I followed her back into the lunchroom and "begged forgiveness". I thought she wasn't interested in me on account of being so stiff and quiet the night of our concert date. Turned out she was just shy and didn't know what to say.

I must have talked a good game in the little employee lunchroom because we went on one more date that night, which ended up with things moving very quickly, and pleasantly. I tried to get her to move to California with me after living together for four years but she chickened out at the last minute.

I carried a bit of a torch for her for a couple of years after that, went back to Minnesota one more time to try and convince her, but it didn't work out. And yet when she passed away a year and a half ago one of her best friends told me that apparently I was a pretty important part of her life.
Of course all that's something like thirty-three years after we drifted apart. I'd long since moved on.
But she was a sweet girl, and I really have a lot of fond memories...it's a shame she died so young, just 52 years old.
 
Checkerboard Strangler said:
I thought I told the rest of the story...there she was on the dance floor, with "the look" and she stomped off in a huff.
But I followed through the next day by showing up at Snyder's Drugs again, and I followed her back into the lunchroom and "begged forgiveness". I thought she wasn't interested in me on account of being so stiff and quiet the night of our concert date. Turned out she was just shy and didn't know what to say.

I must have talked a good game in the little employee lunchroom because we went on one more date that night, which ended up with things moving very quickly, and pleasantly. I tried to get her to move to California with me after living together for four years but she chickened out at the last minute.

I carried a bit of a torch for her for a couple of years after that, went back to Minnesota one more time to try and convince her, but it didn't work out. And yet when she passed away a year and a half ago one of her best friends told me that apparently I was a pretty important part of her life.
Of course all that's something like thirty-three years after we drifted apart. I'd long since moved on.
But she was a sweet girl, and I really have a lot of fond memories...it's a shame she died so young, just 52 years old.
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Thanks for sharing that. It's kind of a nice story but sad that she passed away at a young age. You must have made some impression on her if she still thought about you after all those years.
 
Joecool44 said:
Thanks for sharing that. It's kind of a nice story but sad that she passed away at a young age. You must have made some impression on her if she still thought about you after all those years.
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I'm really lucky. One way I am really lucky is, no matter what has transpired between me and all the women I've had serious relationships with, in the end they seem to have looked favorably on me for the most part.
Not entirely good, I'm no saint, but apparently I seem to have been forgiven.

I'm sure that there are probably a few women that don't have the highest opinion of me, I'm sure I was just as much of a jerk sometimes as any other guy, but I am humbled by the fact that when it came to serious stuff, I guess I left them with more positives than negatives.
She isn't the only "old flame" to kick the bucket either. My first wife passed away two years ago. She was never able to take hold of her inner demons, and she passed away under rather horrifying circumstances. Amazingly she made it to almost seventy...she was ten years older than me.

But as possessed as she was, in the early years of our relationship she did some rather wonderful things for me, just like the Snyder's Drug Store gal, who also was quite wonderful in her own way.

And I heard from an old flame from my high school days last year. She's doing okay. The internet is a funny thing, and she seems to still have a mostly favorable opinion of me as well. She was also a bit of an odd bird but again, I have fond memories.

Hard to believe that all these women (there are more) don't hate my guts. I'm grateful that they don't and they all taught me something along the way, and I am grateful for that, too.

And of course I am the luckiest because of the woman I am married to today, my second, the keeper...the girl I wish I'd married in the first place. There's just no one on Earth as special as her.
Maybe if I am really lucky, in the end she too will look upon me favorably.
There's no way I'll ever find someone as special as she is, so we're going to make it all the way to the end together.

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lurchadams said:
So I joined a dating site called "Plenty of Fish" a month ago. It's been a strange experience. It's been 2 years since my divorce and I figured it was time to get back out there. For about a month I've been chatting back and forth with a few women. It's weird that women from really far away reach out because they've got to know I'm not going to drive to Canada or Cenrtal Oregon to meet them. Over the past month I've gotten the courage up to ask a couple of women out, but their response has been either, "No, we've got to chat more first", or, "Send me more pictures".

Up until last week I started thinking the female population was just married or attached women, bored and wanting to flirt. Anyway, last week two women have agreed to meet me today. I'm taking a nice lady to lunch, and tonight another lady wants just to hang out at her place - wants to cook dinner for us.

So things are looking up in the neverending soap opera that is my life.
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So out of your dates thus far have you found any keepers? Would you see your experience with online dating was positive?
 
CLAX1911 said:
So out of your dates thus far have you found any keepers? Would you see your experience with online dating was positive?
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"Keepers"? Well, yes there are two women I met online I am seeing casually. I'm having fun. So yes, it's positive.

Thanks for asking.
 
lurchadams said:
"Keepers"? Well, yes there are two women I met online I am seeing casually. I'm having fun. So yes, it's positive.

Thanks for asking.
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I assumed finding a life partner what's the goal but not everybody's in to that. Glad your experience was positive.
 
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