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I have only the most pity and empathy for you, losing my wife would destroy me.Not to make it about me, but it did some of that to me when my wife died. I've never experienced such emotional pain, or for so long, as when my wife died. It took a year and half to start functioning again and years more of dealing with grief and regret. Even as I write, I miss her terribly - and she died 15 years ago.
The only attachment more powerful than pair bonding is that of parent to child. And it is likely the only grief that is more intense.
I remember about 3 months after we got to Clark, maybe 9 months after mom had passed... Dad was off that weekend, and he stopped by the package store on base and got some Tequila. HE put on headphones, and was on the couch and floor, signing moody blues and crying out for mom. It scare the hell out me, and my sister who is 3 years younger came to my room scared. She didn't know what was going on. It was the saddest thing I had ever heard. Mind you, he can't sing sober, so you can imagine how bad that was.