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Re: "Decent men have affairs all the time. I’m going to tell you why." - A woman's point of view
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Keep in mind that poly is about the relationship, not sex. While most such relationships will have sex as part of them not all do. I have a husband and two wives, and my husband and I are not sexually attracted to each other. Open relationships or swinging is about sex. Mind you, you can find people doing both. It's just important to keep in mind the difference between them. Oh and to be ethical about it as well. If you are going behind back and keeping secrets then that is neither poly nor open relationships. That's cheating.I didn't read the linked article to the end (it was too long) but I just want to add my two cents: I think it can be difficult to stay faithful to one person till the end of one's life. I mean, ours is a very large world, it's full of people, and sometimes, you are simply going to be attracted to some of them. Just because one is married it does not mean he stops being attracted to an attractive member of the opposite sex. In fact, I am starting to see why some folks are into polyamory. At first I was very put off by this concept but now I can at least understand why some people would want that.
Of course, I am not trying to find an excuse for people to cheat on their spouses. Of course it's stupid to risk losing a meaningful, beautiful marriage just for some fun in the bedroom. But if the wife constantly turns down sex, and the husband sees a woman he finds hot, and this woman also understands, loves and wants him...yeah. The temptation is going to be there.
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