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So, today has been pretty interesting. Got back a little while ago from dinner with one of my good high school friends. He decided to come out to me today (he's gay). He’s a quiet dude: reserved, doesn’t have many friends. But when you get to know him, he’s quite fun to be around, when he’s comfortable and can be himself. He was supportive of me and my GF when we both decided to finally kick the closet door wide open. Now, I’ve sorta had my suspicions, but I honestly didn’t know for sure. He hit me up today because he wanted to hang out with me later on (to which I happily agreed), and so we decided to get some dinner together. We were just gonna meet after I got off work. But when I was on break, he messaged me and asked me if he could swing by real quick and talk real quick about something. He showed up, and at first I was just kinda trying to be all casual and joke with him a bit. But his face was serious, so I stopped that real quick, and I got kind of concerned. It was practically hanging off the edge of his tongue, but he backed out. Said he’d just tell me whatever he had to tell me when I got off later. I didn’t want to pry so I just said ok. I was pretty worried, because I thought he might’ve gotten himself into some **** or something. Now, it’s not like he was afraid of what I’d say, obviously. It was really more about him finally coming to terms with who he is. So after work was over and I had gotten ready, I messaged him and he swung by and picked me up. He had parked into an empty parking lot, and we kind of sat there for a bit. The conflict was still visible on his face, which made me even more concerned than I already was. I just grabbed his hands and reassured him that whatever he needed to tell me, I would be there for him. That's what friends are for, right? And so he just went ahead and said it, and I instantly had the biggest smile pop up on my face.
I was screaming of joy; I cried too. And I practically squeezed him to death. I was so ****ing proud of him (and I still am). We were in that parking lot for a long while, and we just talked about it. I know some people might find that kind of insulting, to have a friend you’ve known for years finally reveal something like that to you, because it may seem like “Oh, this person didn’t think enough about me to tell me for so long”, but some people take a long time to come to terms with their sexuality. It’s like a back-and-forth battle, and it really sucks, especially if you grow up in an environment where that’s not really accepted. And once you come out of the closet; there is not just one time and then be done with it. You really never stop coming out of the closet in a sense. Because when you meet new people, you have to kind of feel them out, and kind of gauge whether or not they’d be comfortable with you being open about being gay/bisexual/etc. But my friend just needed to come to terms with himself on his own, and I really appreciated the fact that I was the first one he’s told so far. I’m happy I get to be there for someone with this, and even just writing about it now is making me teary-eyed. He was contemplating doing this for so long, and today the scale finally tipped to the other side.
Now, I’ve advised him not to tell his parents about it for the foreseeable future, because his parents are pretty homophobic, and they already don’t like the fact that we hang out sometimes to begin with. I was a bit too impulsive when I came out to my parents, and I ended up going through one of the worst periods of my life because of it. Sure in the end I’ve gotten my parents to accept it (mainly my mother, my father was never really all up in arms about it really), though I still have family who do not accept me for it. But not every situation is the same and I’m afraid they might try to kick him out or something if he does try to come out to them. But I didn’t want him to worry about that right now, as that will come later. So we went to dinner and had a good ****ing time.
But I want to pass it off to some of y’all: Do any of you have experiences where a good friend of yours came out to you? And if they did, how did you react?
I was screaming of joy; I cried too. And I practically squeezed him to death. I was so ****ing proud of him (and I still am). We were in that parking lot for a long while, and we just talked about it. I know some people might find that kind of insulting, to have a friend you’ve known for years finally reveal something like that to you, because it may seem like “Oh, this person didn’t think enough about me to tell me for so long”, but some people take a long time to come to terms with their sexuality. It’s like a back-and-forth battle, and it really sucks, especially if you grow up in an environment where that’s not really accepted. And once you come out of the closet; there is not just one time and then be done with it. You really never stop coming out of the closet in a sense. Because when you meet new people, you have to kind of feel them out, and kind of gauge whether or not they’d be comfortable with you being open about being gay/bisexual/etc. But my friend just needed to come to terms with himself on his own, and I really appreciated the fact that I was the first one he’s told so far. I’m happy I get to be there for someone with this, and even just writing about it now is making me teary-eyed. He was contemplating doing this for so long, and today the scale finally tipped to the other side.
Now, I’ve advised him not to tell his parents about it for the foreseeable future, because his parents are pretty homophobic, and they already don’t like the fact that we hang out sometimes to begin with. I was a bit too impulsive when I came out to my parents, and I ended up going through one of the worst periods of my life because of it. Sure in the end I’ve gotten my parents to accept it (mainly my mother, my father was never really all up in arms about it really), though I still have family who do not accept me for it. But not every situation is the same and I’m afraid they might try to kick him out or something if he does try to come out to them. But I didn’t want him to worry about that right now, as that will come later. So we went to dinner and had a good ****ing time.
But I want to pass it off to some of y’all: Do any of you have experiences where a good friend of yours came out to you? And if they did, how did you react?
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