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Coming Out.

Question...

" Do any of you have experiences where a good friend of yours came out to you? And if they did, how did you react? "

I would slowly,very slowly end our friendship.
 
PTF said:
Question...

" Do any of you have experiences where a good friend of yours came out to you? And if they did, how did you react? "

I would slowly,very slowly end our friendship.
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I would say anyone you ended the friendship with would be lucky.
 
Hawkeye10 said:
I am here, talk to me buddy......

This is about Judy, who I spent a fair amount of time with (We lived together at Hedrick House, a Co-Op at Michigan State, I chose to live there because my did had and I was trying to please him) and who I spent 4 months trying to hook and she knew damn well I was trying and then she gives me "Oh, I'm a Dyke (this was 1985), I was afraid to tell you..."

**** you was pretty much my response.

If you dont like it, tough.
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Wait, you spend 4 months hitting on a chick who's not into you, presumably making her very uncomfortable in any given situation, but you're the victim because you feel she owed you an explanation for her continual rejection of you? Wow.
 
SDET said:
One of my co-workers came out when I worked at Harvard Medical School. Everyone was expected to go and not going would have caused a sour work environment for those who didn't. I bet that just thrills you. All will be made to care.
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I had the same thing when I was invited to an engagement party by a coworker. ****ing heterosexuals forcing their lifestyle on me. I don't care what they do in private, but they need to keep it there.
 
Hawkeye10 said:
I am here, talk to me buddy......

This is about Judy, who I spent a fair amount of time with (We lived together at Hedrick House, a Co-Op at Michigan State, I chose to live there because my did had and I was trying to please him) and who I spent 4 months trying to hook and she knew damn well I was trying and then she gives me "Oh, I'm a Dyke (this was 1985), I was afraid to tell you..."

**** you was pretty much my response.

If you dont like it, tough.
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You're a victim of others coming out. Well, I guess that covers it; you're a victim of everything.
 
Yes, many years ago (and I won't tell you how ancient I am), a co worker came out to me. He trusted me...still does...and said he had to get something off his chest. Now please know, this was back in the day when it was taboo to say such things to other people, and he was so worried that others would guess and harass him. None of that ever happened.
We had some good talks since then, reflect how things have changed over the years.
You also must know that another fella told me he was going into the priesthood. We are still friends too.
 
Lutherf said:
I never had anybody "come out" to me though I've had plenty make note that they're gay.

OK, here's something for you. Roughly 40 years ago my parents split up and Mom moved in with a woman. 30 years ago, or so, Mom and her partner split up and Mom moved in with another woman. Mom has never "come out" to me, probably because she has no idea how I'd handle it. I didn't handle it particularly well 40 years ago but I never blamed her for anything. It was just more than a little difficult for me to explain to friends that Mom is gay. Heck, even today it's not easy for me to wrap my head around. Mom has always been a GREAT mother and she's always been supportive. She's a great sounding board for nearly every issue but homosexuality is, generally speaking, not a subject we discuss.

Your post makes me wonder if, perhaps, I should be the one to break the ice on the subject with her. My instincts tell me that she'll open up if and when she feels the need so, out of respect for her, I don't go there. Bottom line, she knows that I don't harbor any ill will toward anyone due to their sexuality and, maybe, that's enough for both of us.
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If you ever approach her, let us know how it turns out. May be she is waiting for you to take the first step. Just let her know that you love her, no matter what.
 
Hawkeye10 said:
I am here, talk to me buddy......

This is about Judy, who I spent a fair amount of time with (We lived together at Hedrick House, a Co-Op at Michigan State, I chose to live there because my did had and I was trying to please him) and who I spent 4 months trying to hook and she knew damn well I was trying and then she gives me "Oh, I'm a Dyke (this was 1985), I was afraid to tell you..."

**** you was pretty much my response.

If you dont like it, tough.
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Sorry if this comes across as harsh, but that doesn't sound like coming out, but more so a desperate way for her to tell you to leave her alone already.
 
PTF said:
Question...

" Do any of you have experiences where a good friend of yours came out to you? And if they did, how did you react? "

I would slowly,very slowly end our friendship.
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Why? If you are friends, you shouldn't be judging. I don't know about you, but being a friend means a lot to me. May be you are talking about casual acquaintance and not friendship?
 
PTF said:
Question...

" Do any of you have experiences where a good friend of yours came out to you? And if they did, how did you react? "

I would slowly,very slowly end our friendship.
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This is such a sad statement. We still have a long way to go.
 
Yes, I do have that experience. Being that I was among the very first she came out to even before her family, my reaction was to feel honored she trusted me enough to tell me. We’re still good friends and her 5 year old son is my little buddy I get to play Nerf guns with without being judged for still playing with toys.
 
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Sabre said:
If you are referring to the OP then I agree in that I have seen the exact same story posted in other forums a long time before this one.
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Are you suggesting the OP is a lie? Just a cut-n-paste job that TheGoverness plagiarized?
 
Yes, a good friend did. And just the relief and smile on her face, that she finally did, was worth everything to me!

That good friend was my mother.
 
Lutherf said:
I never had anybody "come out" to me though I've had plenty make note that they're gay.

OK, here's something for you. Roughly 40 years ago my parents split up and Mom moved in with a woman. 30 years ago, or so, Mom and her partner split up and Mom moved in with another woman. Mom has never "come out" to me, probably because she has no idea how I'd handle it. I didn't handle it particularly well 40 years ago but I never blamed her for anything. It was just more than a little difficult for me to explain to friends that Mom is gay. Heck, even today it's not easy for me to wrap my head around. Mom has always been a GREAT mother and she's always been supportive. She's a great sounding board for nearly every issue but homosexuality is, generally speaking, not a subject we discuss.

Your post makes me wonder if, perhaps, I should be the one to break the ice on the subject with her. My instincts tell me that she'll open up if and when she feels the need so, out of respect for her, I don't go there. Bottom line, she knows that I don't harbor any ill will toward anyone due to their sexuality and, maybe, that's enough for both of us.
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I posted before I read your post. Just knowing that you are aware and are ok, she's still your mom and you love her, would perhaps take a huge weight off of her. I'm just guessing based on my own experience. :)
 
PTF said:
Question...

" Do any of you have experiences where a good friend of yours came out to you? And if they did, how did you react? "

I would slowly,very slowly end our friendship.
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Then you are not much of a friend to begin with.

Edit: I took out my snarky remark. Not called for.
 
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Cisero said:
This is such a sad statement. We still have a long way to go.
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to be fair, not everyone is going to accept it. "We" don't have a long way to go. Some individuals do.
 
PTF said:
Question...

" Do any of you have experiences where a good friend of yours came out to you? And if they did, how did you react? "

I would slowly,very slowly end our friendship.
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Genuinely curious why you feel you would need do that? What’s your thinking there?
 
X Factor said:
Yes, I do have that experience. Being that I was among the very first she came out to even before her family, my reaction was to feel honored she trusted me enough to tell me. We’re still good friends and her 5 year old son is my little buddy I get to play Nerf guns with without being judged for still playing with toys.
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Nerf guns are pretty fun. :lol:
 
Dragonfly said:
Only if it's girl-on-girl confetti.

Because we all KNOW that's perfectly fine with "straight men".
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Some of the best straight men out there were Dan Rowan, Dean Martin, and Bud Abbot.
 
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