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    Re: 13 Things Men Think Are Compliments but Are Actually Just Sexist

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    How long have you hated women, Jesse?
    HAHAHA sexism is so funny!

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    13 Things Men Think Are Compliments but Are Actually Just Sexist

    Quote Originally Posted by jet57 View Post
    On number 1); there are plenty of women who look like they've thrown paint up into the air and stood underneath it. The way you worded it is bad, but to compliment a women on her makeup is a very nice thing to do.

    2) most women don't oder a whiskey or beer, it's always been a kind of guy thing, so showing comradery about it is also a "welcome to the club" compliment.
    1) the "thrown paint" is a stereotype, claiming that a woman is better than a female stereotype is an implied confirmation of that stereotype

    2) again, you're saying that being like a guy is better than being like a girl

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    Re: 13 Things Men Think Are Compliments but Are Actually Just Sexist

    Quote Originally Posted by Jesse Booth View Post
    I misremembered one statement.



    It's almost like makeup exists for the express purpose of highlighting someone's best features and masking their worst, Ecofarm. Don't try to tell me that it isn't used to make your cheekbones more defined & to hide that old acne scar on your cheek.

    The implication isn't that most women look ugly without makeup, it's that most ugly women wear makeup to look better (which is why most pretty women wear makeup, too).



    As opposed to fruity mixed drinks that men are statistically less likely to drink. When people you find attractive like things that you also like, it makes you happy because it generally means you have a better chance of having sex with them. People like sex, and people tend to have sex with people that have mutual interests. Ergo, people who have mutual interests are more likely to have sex with you. It's a simple feedback loop, and a,much more reasonable subconscious influence than misogyny.



    Ecofarm, that's because heterosexual men don't want to have sex with other men. You never say it's awesome when the guy next to you at the bar orders the same brand of whiskey as you, because you don't want to take him home with you so you can rip his shirt off with your teeth & lick chocolate sauce off of his erect nipples. That rainbow of common ground with your work buddy doesn't have a pot of delicious, lingerie-clad gold at the end of it, so you don't jump with joy when you discover it.
    You don't seem to realize that saying, "you're like a man, and not like a stereotypical woman, which is a complement." The literal implication of that is both (1) confirmation that women fit neatly into stereotypes (hence the "you're unique in standing out") and (2) those who conform to those stereotypes are bad.

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    Re: 13 Things Men Think Are Compliments but Are Actually Just Sexist

    Some food for thought:

    Sexism, racism, classism, heterosexism, and ethnocentrism are examples of what Warren calls unjustified “isms of domination” (1990, 2000). Warren argues that these isms of domination share conceptual roots in five features of an oppressive conceptual framework. The first feature is value-hierarchical, Up-Down thinking that attributes greater value to that which is “Up” than to that which is “Down”. In canonical philosophy, value hierarchical thinking (typically) puts men Up and women Down, culture Up and nature Down. By attributing greater value to that which is higher, the Up-Down organization of reality serves to legitimate inequality “when, in fact, prior to the metaphor of Up-Down, one would have said only that there existed diversity” (Elizabeth Dodson Gray 1981: 20)

    The second feature is oppositional (rather than complementary) and mutually exclusive (rather than inclusive) value dualisms, which place greater value (status, prestige) on one disjunct over the other. In canonical Western philosophy, the dualisms of male versus female and culture versus nature have historically done this; they have ascribed greater value to that which is identified with males or culture than to that which is identified with females or nature. According to these value dualisms, it is better to be male or culture-identified than to be female or nature-identified.
    https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/f...environmental/

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    Re: 13 Things Men Think Are Compliments but Are Actually Just Sexist

    Quote Originally Posted by Absentglare View Post
    1) the "thrown paint" is a stereotype, claiming that a woman is better than a female stereotype is an implied confirmation of that stereotype
    A stereotype would exist regardless of confirmation. The stereotypes exist because they are somewhat true in the general sense.

    ) again, you're saying that being like a guy is better than being like a girl
    Not really he sings sharing interests and taste better than not.

    Don't try and take everyone's words and restate them as some deeply seated misogyny that's called the straw man.

    Even if he'd like women that like pina coladas they would share interests with him and other things and he would probably word it the same way.

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    Re: 13 Things Men Think Are Compliments but Are Actually Just Sexist

    Quote Originally Posted by Absentglare View Post
    1) the "thrown paint" is a stereotype, claiming that a woman is better than a female stereotype is an implied confirmation of that stereotype

    2) again, you're saying that being like a guy is better than being like a girl
    "Thrown paint" is bad make up, it happens every day. And a 'bonding experience' is saying that men are better??

    You don't smoke cigars do you. If a woman sat down to smoke one with some guys, they'd feel the same way: glad she's there taking part.
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    Re: 13 Things Men Think Are Compliments but Are Actually Just Sexist

    11. "That was so ballsy of you." Can we please stop referring general badassery by using the most sensitive body part on anyone of any gender?
    I guess "That was so c u n t y of you" would really be out of the question.

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    Re: 13 Things Men Think Are Compliments but Are Actually Just Sexist

    Quote Originally Posted by Absentglare View Post
    You don't seem to realize that saying, "you're like a man, and not like a stereotypical woman, which is a complement." The literal implication of that is both (1) confirmation that women fit neatly into stereotypes (hence the "you're unique in standing out") and (2) those who conform to those stereotypes are bad.
    Stereotypes exist because there are simply differences in how men and women behave on average. From what we drink & our very ability to taste it, to where we watch what, men and women are statistically different. There is nothing wrong with acknowledging the difference in taste between the sexes, nor is there anything wrong with enjoying the fact that your partner's preferences are more in-line with your gender's norms than theirs.
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    Re: 13 Things Men Think Are Compliments but Are Actually Just Sexist

    Quote Originally Posted by Absentglare View Post
    HAHAHA sexism is so funny!
    Of course it is, everything can be funny. Dead babies, racism, bestiality... Nothing is too terrible to joke about.
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    Re: 13 Things Men Think Are Compliments but Are Actually Just Sexist

    It just sounds all so fake.

    I'd be bored after 1 minute in the company of someone who actually speaks like that.
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