You don't think that trying to ruin the man's reputation with his fans is on par with all those things you mentioned?
Absolutely not.
Do you really not understand how blackmail works? You threaten someone with exposure, in exchange for money or some other tangible gain.
Grace never threatened Ansari. She never demanded money. She did not tell him "if you do not do X for me, I will tell everyone." There is no indication that she is lying or defaming him. Ansari admitted he misinterpreted her reactions. And yes, she has a right to tell her side of the story, even if we disagree with how she characterized the night's events.
And again, you changed your tune. Don't pretend otherwise.
1. Grace says Aziz rushed through dinner, and wanted to get her back to his place ASAP. Hello?! Has Grace never heard of a booty call? He was being polite to offer dinner, but Grace should have known what going back to his apartment meant. No diamond ring waiting back there. No horse and carriage either.
What the what?
They texted back and forth for a week in advance. It was a typical date (not a booty call). Taking a woman to dinner is not a down payment for sex. A woman entering your apartment does not obligate her to have sex. Oral sex does not obligate her to reciprocate. She wasn't expecting a marriage proposal, and she also wasn't expecting him to keep shoving her fingers in his mouth and then into her crotch.
2. You call 30 minutes of blowjobs & oral sex 'getting a bit physical'? Grace says she was mumbling her objections to having actual intercourse. How is it Aziz' fault that he didn't know what she was saying? It's not.
Again, I'm characterizing him as being aggressive, not necessarily assault. None of us know how she actually responded to him, none of us know whether he ignored her, there are a lot of details we simply do not know. It is not clear whether her actions were screamingly obvious (and he was too horny to notice), or if she wasn't obvious enough about what she wanted, or a combination thereof.
None of that is reason enough to blab to the world about what happened. Aziz did the right thing by calling Grace an Uber, and apologizing afterwards. Grace DIDN'T do the right thing, which would be to realize her own naivety for thinking a movie star was going to make her his gf at the drop of a hat, & accept Aziz' apology with the new knowledge of a life lesson learned.
Erm... Yeah, he's not a "movie star." He's not earning $10 million a movie. He's a minor TV star.
Nor is it clear why that matters. Should celebrities get a pass on alleged assault? Is there some sort of Celebrity Code which says that all male celebs are required to bang fans, and never get into a relationship with the
hoi polloi? What nonsense.
There was nothing wrong with her expecting something a tiny bit more meaningful than a quick hump. And yes, that includes after he invited her back to his place. Just because a woman agrees to come to your apartment doesn't mean she only wants sex.
Oh, and he didn't apologize right off the bat. He texted her the next night saying (literally) "Hey - it was fun meeting you last night. I just dropped my roll of film today. Fingers crossed for some solid shots!" She then texted back out how the night was awful for her,
then he texted back saying he was sorry and he misread things.