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The fact that I would never do something like that to someone, and will not allow others to do that to me, is exactly the reason the monogamy pool didn't work out for me, even though I had no trouble with sexual fidelity. It wasn't a desire to **** people that drove me out of the pool. It wasn't even a romantic entanglement, or anything of that nature. It was this possessive, coersive mindset that poisonous our mainstream coupling culture.
I can agree with that. Anti-romance can never justify monogamy. But for many people this isn't true, so men and women become forced into/out of relationships. Men are legally fixed by the trappings of congressional acts from the 20th century, so our role in serial monogamy is less flexible and therefore less complex. Men need to control women, because if they don't, they will very likely suffer financially. I won't do that to women. I think if there were a cost-benefit analysis done on my love life with a focus on financials, I would come out ahead as single over the next few years. But I haven't crunched the numbers, so it's just a guess.
The possessive, coercive mindset that poisons the mainstream has existed for quite some time, and it is not just a cultural tradition. It is part of our laws. I'm fairly sure that's true globally.