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Being a Man

RAMOSS said:
"not going any where' is more than just a term for not enough money. It also indicts a lack of ambition and/skill set to be a responsible person. Some people don't want to play substitute mother for someone
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I agree, but that is objectification. Its okay. I don't think it's unreasonably shallow.
 
CLAX1911 said:
I agree, but that is objectification. Its okay. I don't think it's unreasonably shallow.
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Or, it is concerned about 'is this person reasonable enough to be a good father or not'
 
RAMOSS said:
Or, it is concerned about 'is this person reasonable enough to be a good father or not'
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Thats objectification. If you want a man that is going to be a good father, you are objectifing him for his fatherhood potential.

Again I don't think this is inherently or necessarily wrong.
 
Goshin said:
I'm glad you posted that. Lots of truth there.

30 years ago I didn't even think about the thing with kids. Maybe 20 years ago I consciously started being very cautious about interacting with other people's children unless they were close friends, because of the exponential rise in parental paranoia about pedophiles, combined with the ultra-feminist assertion "all men are potential rapists".

Not me; I just like kids. But I didn't want to be seen that way, and after catching some disturbing looks just for chatting briefly with some cute little kid I grew wary of such interaction. Nobody wants to get "that look", let alone maybe some actual accusation.

Now, I'm a parent and I understand parental paranoia. The idea of your kid being kidnapped or abused is a horror. You tend to think better safe than sorry and for many "safe" means assuming any man that speaks to your kid or pats the kid on the head is secretly a pedo looking for an opportunity. Even though in reality, this is statistically not true.

It's sad; it leeches away some of the richness of life when, as a man, you don't dare speak to or play with a kid unless you know his parents well, and hesitate to go to the aid of a child in distress.
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Yeah I feel the same. I'm very driven by rationally looking things and weighing probabilities and the like. I know beyond doubt that the vast majority of kids are kidnapped by someone who knows them and the probability that your own kids will be kidnapped by a stranger are vanishingly small. There's mountains of statistics proving that.
I know this. And it went out the window when my kids were small.
 
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