Ok, But I can understand why Spacey went there, we are to a large degree a product of our youth, we get ourselves set and then we dont always track with the changes in standards that come after, this is human nature. I made the same argument with Paula Deen, that we should try to understand the world she came from, and that changing from that is hard, and besides she will be dead soon enough, do we really need to freak out that she is not completely tracking with the new standards?
I say no..
I guess I'd just say it depends. I could excuse racism from my grandmother as she was dying in the early 70s even though I was raised completely differently by her son, but my uncle's racism for his entire life before he died in 2015 was just him being a hateful bigot/racist, and I wanted and had nothing to do with him. With Paula Deen, I was mostly sympathetic, really. What we can reasonably expect from others is a good faith effort, and failing in that like she did isn't worthy of a career death sentence IMO. There are obviously exceptions, but I've failed pretty miserably at times in my own life and I can't in good faith hold others to a standard I wouldn't want to be judged on myself.
I also say that Spacey is said to have $75 million, he is a Whale so far as lawyers are concerned, so I tend to discount everything said against him given that he has no record of being guilty of such accusations that are now being made against him. Now that the statues of limitations are gone wealthy people are going to be constantly held up on very stale accusations of sexual assault, because there is pretty much no way to defend oneself against the charge....if juries want to believe the victim story then they will, and that is all it take to be found guilty in our crap justice system.
We agree in part here too. I think a lot of it depends on how recent and how bad the conduct. I'm happy to see Weinstein destroyed because it seems clear based on the testimony of lots of women he was just a sexual predator who believed power made him untouchable, and it worked for decades. No sympathy.
But I really cringe when I see stories like the one in the NPR thread involving decades old accusations. There's a real chance that person for whatever reason decided - you know, this is wrong and I shouldn't do it - and hasn't. Well, hell, what more can we expect of someone? In 12 step programs, one of them it to make amends to those we have harmed - admit the mistake and apologize to them - which is IMO ideal, but I don't know if that's a reasonable expectation.
What do we want, for example, from this attention on sexual harassment in the workplace? If it's to change behavior, that's not served by dredging up 20 year old accusations and jettisoning careers. The lesson is, "Yeah, you changed 20 years ago, but **** you anyway." That's just revenge. If the expectation is an acknowledgment and sincere apology - OK, that's probably reasonable. But in NPR's case, if the man has a spotless record during his period there, great. Reward that IMO. He heard the message, and got it. Treat women with respect at all times! Assuming that's true, of course....
I also say Pence is right, it is a good idea to always have a witness, as this will discourage bad behavior.
I worked for a Senator that you'd know and he had a similar policy, and I understand it. I was a tax professional in his firm, and got tasked to be chauffeur for him for two days because the only other option was a female secretary, and he wouldn't be seen alone like that with a female.
In some cases, that's a boneheaded policy, but not always. Just for example, if he's unable to meet with a professional (lawyer, lobbyist, staffer) alone if she's female, but freely does so with male colleagues, that standard across the government makes women second class because they can't do their job as effectively as their male counterparts. It's also a sign of disrespect to those women who he cannot trust not to make up allegations against him. So within bounds, I don't have a problem with Pence's policy. The Senator, for example, had female lawyers on staff and met with them routinely on business matters, and his female assistant, right hand woman, secretary, gatekeeper traveled with him routinely.