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    Re: Would you STOP being friends with someone if they revealed

    Quote Originally Posted by Dragonfly View Post
    Thanks for the explanation.

    I'm sorry to say that I think you're making a ginormous mistake.
    Religion can really screw people up in bad ways. This is sad.
    I understand how someone could come to your conclusion, but -respectfully- I think it comes from mis-ordered priorities. My desire to get along with / maintain a good relationship with everyone I love and have a life free of conflict and emotional difficulty has to bow before Christ. Valuing something higher than Him would be... idolatry.

    This also frees me in incredible ways to reach out to people. You deliberately (and, understandably) struck out the options of someone who was sexually abusive in your OP; but starting from the position of trying to follow Christ has allowed me to maintain and even reach out to people who are broken with that sin; I don't have to excuse their actions or find their deeds acceptable to build a relationship with them. In some cases, I've even been able to help (both perpetrators and victims).

    Jesus was a friend of Sinners. But He also brooked no abuse of faith by those in a position to do so.

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    Re: Would you STOP being friends with someone if they revealed

    Quote Originally Posted by cpwill View Post
    Well, to make it intensely personal, my little-sister-by-choice (we were basically raised together as children, though we weren't related), who is also a lifelong friend of mine decided (and yes, it was an observable decision) she was a lesbian in college, and has since gotten married to another woman.

    I love her deeply. But she will not be part of my children growing up, because she also claims to be a Christian (if she claimed the title of Secularism, this would not be an issue). I can lend my credibility as a Christian and a parent to the notion that we can and should have relationships with those whose lifestyles we don't agree with (we, too, are sinners); I cannot lend that witness to an abuse of the faith. I would be saying with my actions that this was acceptable for Christians, and that I must not do.

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    Hmm thats an interesting answer.

    So you feel she "decided/chose" to be gay/bi?
    How do YOU observe such a thing about HER?
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    Re: Would you STOP being friends with someone if they revealed

    Quote Originally Posted by Dragonfly View Post
    Slightly different take on the "would you be friends with a transgender" thread.

    Suppose one of your friends, somebody you'd been pretty good friends with for at least 5 years or more, "came out" to you.

    Maybe they came out as gay, and you had no idea they were gay.
    Maybe they came out as transgender, and you had had no idea because their transition happened before you knew them at all.

    Whatever it is, it's something that takes you completely by surprise.
    Up until they told you, you were just assuming something else was the case.

    Again, this is a person you've know for years, and been good friends with for quite some time.

    Also, this is purely a gender/sexual identity/sexual attraction question.
    This is not having a friend tell you they've raped multiple women/children/animals kinda thing.


    Five minutes before they say: " ___________." , you've been good friends with them for years.

    "You may not know this about me, but I'm gay." Would you end the friendship?
    "You may not know this about me, but 15 years ago I transitioned from ______ to __________. My birth name was ______." Would you end the friendship?
    Probably, say what you want. I don't care, I can do that if I want to.

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    Re: Would you STOP being friends with someone if they revealed

    If a guy friend comes out as gay, we're cool as long as he knows I'm straight.

    If a girl friend comes out as gay, I'd be disappointed that I'll never get to bang her.

    Either way, I wouldn't dump him/her just for being gay.

    If he/she came out as trans, that would betray one of the terms of our friendship - namely, whether our friendship is man-man or man-woman.

    I avoid friendships with trannies because they're weird.
    People are able to screw up their own lives without the government doing it for them.

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    Re: Would you STOP being friends with someone if they revealed

    As long as he doesn't do it during the Super Bowl it's okay.

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