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A friend sent me a link to this article in The Times and wanted to discuss it. Here it is and below it, my reply.
Does anyone here really believe that every man is a potential rapist given enough alcohol and the opportunity?
Men, let's talk about rape
And here's what I wrote to my friend...
I just read the article again over my elevenses. It annoys me more at second reading. There are so many lazy assumptions, non sequiturs and logical fallacies that it's hard to know where to start. So, from the top I guess is easiest.
I don't dismiss everything in the article. I agree that the debate about rape prevention, education of men around the issue, and the imperative to deal with the circumstances and causes of rape should fall most heavily on men. It's generally, although not exclusively, a male pattern of offending, however I don't see the point of saying "it's your problem, deal with it" and ducking out of the conversation. I can participate in a debate about Islamist terrorism despite not being Muslim. I can involve myself in conversations about homophobia whilst not being heterosexual. What might be the point, benefit or motivation for wanting out of the dialogue?
As far as I can see, the only reason for asking the men in your life the question is if you buy into that narrative that any man could be a rapist, given enough alcohol. I'm pretty sure I don't. I remember back in the day being supportive of feminist friends who would make that statement, because I agree that in the mind of women who might find themselves in situations of potential danger, that is the safest thing to think: not that every man is a potential rapist, but that any man could be one of those who do, however small the percentage likelihood is that he will be.
So, well done Ms Moran for raising the issue although, contrary to the implication, it is one that does get raised quite often. And boo, hiss to you Ms Moran for using poor logic, false assumptions and dishonest arguments in justifying your appalling bad manners towards the men in your life.
Does anyone here really believe that every man is a potential rapist given enough alcohol and the opportunity?
Men, let's talk about rape
And here's what I wrote to my friend...
I just read the article again over my elevenses. It annoys me more at second reading. There are so many lazy assumptions, non sequiturs and logical fallacies that it's hard to know where to start. So, from the top I guess is easiest.
- "Anyone curious about human nature would find it impossible not to." I really don't think it demonstrates curiosity but a proclivity to jump to conclusions based on half-arsed assumptions. She proceeds with those assumptions without ever providing data or logic to support them.
- "with every high-profile rape case, we are told the same thing, over and over again: rape just isn’t that surprising. This is how men and women drinking often ends. It’s not … a freakish event. It’s not … a sub-human act." Are we really? We are told that "over and over again"? I really don't recall anyone trying to convince me that there's anything normative about rapey behaviour. Do you? Who? Where might we go to find someone making that argument?
- "So here’s the thing I can’t square: no men I know seem capable of rape. Not my husband, my brothers, my father or my friends. And yet rape is, time after time, presented as something any man could do – if the evening were wild enough, and the woman confused/confusing enough. A possible end to any night." I think she's been reading some odd articles and books. Arguing that rape is something "any man could do" sounds like the kind of rhetoric that might come from the more extreme end of radical feminist thought rather than a common assumption of unreconstructed patriarchal society; something Andrea Dworkin might have written rather than a GQ columnist.
- "the fact that one in five women is the victim of sexual assault" I've read statistics like that before and while I don't doubt them, I think conflating 'sexual assault' with 'rape' is a bit dishonest, since her article is specifically and stridently about rape. According to official stats there are about 15,000 rapes committed per year in the UK. That would equate to around 1 million women who might be raped in the course of a 70-year lifespan. That's about 3% of the female population. That's a much less shocking figure, which I think is why Ms Moran didn't use it, but instead chose a completely irrelevant but much more dramatic figure.
I don't dismiss everything in the article. I agree that the debate about rape prevention, education of men around the issue, and the imperative to deal with the circumstances and causes of rape should fall most heavily on men. It's generally, although not exclusively, a male pattern of offending, however I don't see the point of saying "it's your problem, deal with it" and ducking out of the conversation. I can participate in a debate about Islamist terrorism despite not being Muslim. I can involve myself in conversations about homophobia whilst not being heterosexual. What might be the point, benefit or motivation for wanting out of the dialogue?
As far as I can see, the only reason for asking the men in your life the question is if you buy into that narrative that any man could be a rapist, given enough alcohol. I'm pretty sure I don't. I remember back in the day being supportive of feminist friends who would make that statement, because I agree that in the mind of women who might find themselves in situations of potential danger, that is the safest thing to think: not that every man is a potential rapist, but that any man could be one of those who do, however small the percentage likelihood is that he will be.
So, well done Ms Moran for raising the issue although, contrary to the implication, it is one that does get raised quite often. And boo, hiss to you Ms Moran for using poor logic, false assumptions and dishonest arguments in justifying your appalling bad manners towards the men in your life.
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