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Can a Three Year Old "Know" They Are Transgender?

Dragonfly

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A child's journey to "truegender"

Is it possible for a three year old child to know and/or understand they are transgender?

Without some outside influences (or a lot of), does the average 3 year old know their own gender identity well enough to know their inner person is different than their outer person?

Thoughts?
 
Dragonfly said:
A child's journey to "truegender"

Is it possible for a three year old child to know and/or understand they are transgender?

Without some outside influences (or a lot of), does the average 3 year old know their own gender identity well enough to know their inner person is different than their outer person?

Thoughts?
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No, or at least highly, highly unlikely.
 
Winchester said:
No, or at least highly, highly unlikely.
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My thoughts too, but I'll admit this whole transgender thing is quite confusing.

At three plenty of kids are still sucking on binkies and wearing potty-pants.
 
Dragonfly said:
A child's journey to "truegender"

Is it possible for a three year old child to know and/or understand they are transgender?

Without some outside influences (or a lot of), does the average 3 year old know their own gender identity well enough to know their inner person is different than their outer person?

Thoughts?
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I highly doubt it.
 
Dragonfly said:
My thoughts too, but I'll admit this whole transgender thing is quite confusing.
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Sexuality is complicated.

At three plenty of kids are still sucking on binkies and wearing potty-pants.
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Which is why I think this has more to do with parental influence.
 
I find it highly unlikely.
 
TheGoverness said:
Which is why I think this has more to do with parental influence.
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Parents get their 3yos to believe all kinds of fantastic ****, why not you're really a girl?
 
Dragonfly said:
A child's journey to "truegender"

Is it possible for a three year old child to know and/or understand they are transgender?

Without some outside influences (or a lot of), does the average 3 year old know their own gender identity well enough to know their inner person is different than their outer person?

Thoughts?
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They don't even know what their outer person is to have any concept that their inner person doesn't match it.
 
No.
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No. Any "transgender" kids have abusive parents.

And no, a little boy who plays with dolls isn't transgender.
 
Dragonfly said:
My thoughts too, but I'll admit this whole transgender thing is quite confusing.

At three plenty of kids are still sucking on binkies and wearing potty-pants.
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Maybe it depends on what color binkie they prefer.
 
Dragonfly said:
A child's journey to "truegender"

Is it possible for a three year old child to know and/or understand they are transgender?

Without some outside influences (or a lot of), does the average 3 year old know their own gender identity well enough to know their inner person is different than their outer person?

Thoughts?
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I think it is understandable for a child that age to potentially suspect that they might be.

However, it seems obvious that their determination at 3 years of age is subject to change. You used a specific word: Know, which i feel makes the response rather confidently seated in the 'No' category.
 
Dragonfly said:
A child's journey to "truegender"

Is it possible for a three year old child to know and/or understand they are transgender?

Without some outside influences (or a lot of), does the average 3 year old know their own gender identity well enough to know their inner person is different than their outer person?

Thoughts?
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No. Next question.
 
Dragonfly said:
A child's journey to "truegender"

Is it possible for a three year old child to know and/or understand they are transgender?

Without some outside influences (or a lot of), does the average 3 year old know their own gender identity well enough to know their inner person is different than their outer person?

Thoughts?
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Absolutely not.
 
Absolutely not... there is no way at all a three year old would know what their sexual orientation is or what their gender is...

Horrible parents...
 
His first sentence: "I am a girl."

What utter lying bull****.
 
Dragonfly said:
A child's journey to "truegender"

Is it possible for a three year old child to know and/or understand they are transgender?

Without some outside influences (or a lot of), does the average 3 year old know their own gender identity well enough to know their inner person is different than their outer person?

Thoughts?
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No they can't.
From studies done 85-90% of kids grow out of it when hey get older.
 
Bodhisattva said:
His first sentence: "I am a girl."

What utter lying bull****.
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My boys when they were 3 played that game all kids do.
It has no bearing on them at all.
 
I wonder if part of the problem of claiming that children are transgendered comes from their preferences. While a child may or (more likely) may not be able to determine their own gender/sexual identity, they do know what they like and what they want to do.

So if a girl is very interested in traditionally boyish things (sports, rough play, climbing trees, etc) or a boy is very keen on traditionally girl activities (gymnastics, dance, home and hearth play), is it really transgender, or simply a parent who doesn't understand that children like what they like and that it may have little to no impact on what they will eventually identify themselves as later on in life?
 
I won't say it can't happen, but will note that it is unlikely. However, the proof and truth will not be revealed for several years to come. Even if outside influences (not necessarily intentional ones) are causing this child to think that he is actually a she, if it is not truly the case, then it will not last into or much through adulthood. As long as mom is not contemplating hormones or surgery until the child is 18, or at least shows that they can think responsibly, let the child ride it out.
 
I think a 3 year old certainly can believe that they are not "right" in which sex they are viewed as. David Reimer claimed to know that there was something not right about being made to be a girl for most of his life. He said he didn't feel comfortable as a girl at all. Most people don't themselves remember being 3 and most parents would likely disregard a child who claimed they weren't the right gender at that age.

I'd say most children who say something like "look mommy, I'm a girl" are not trying to express transgenderism. But when a child is truly depressed but then this changes when they are allowed to dress and act and be referred to as the other gender, and maintain this for years, that they are likely transgender. They shouldn't face what this family faced, even if it turns out that in 5-10 years that Trinity starts changing her mind that she really should be Xavier and a he. I doubt this would happen from reading this story. I also think it is wrong for anyone to claim the mother is influencing this child without any evidence of such influence. It doesn't sound as if they are physically switching Trinity over to a girl just yet, even as a teenager, at least not anything that isn't reversible (her family is fighting for her to be given hormone blockers).

I simply don't see any harm from treating her as she wants to be treated, as Trinity rather than Xavier, as a girl rather than a boy.
 
Re: Can a Three Year Old "Know" They Are Transgender?

No way.
Children are just children. They may have arbitrary preferences and interests, and that's beautiful enough in itself. They grow up too soon, just enjoy it as long as it lasts and stop with the projections and burdens.
I view them as 'genderless'.
 
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