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A make can identify as a female. But there would be nothing female about her/him. We have to stipulate context otherwise we will get lost in the ambiguity. I dint think it's a wrong to say a trans woman is male.
I agree context is very important here. Before we humans knew all we do now, sex and gender were pretty much interchangeable. We now know different and are learning more as we go. Because of that previous interchangeability, the terms male and female applied to both and still do. So "male" is not a label that goes only with sex or only with gender. Same with "female". At this point noting one as being biologically male or female will link the label with the sex, but not necessarily the gender. While it is not wrong to say that a trans woman is male, it is also not wrong to say she is female.
I'm not talking about how animals identify themselves, I'm talking about how we identify them. Further they can hump all they want but a jack donkey will never give birth to a foal and a jenny will never produce sperm.
Humans have developed a higher level of consciousness so we have identities. Identities can be separate from sex. I'm not against that.
Again I agree with you. The only problem right now is that we have a label set (male/female) that still applies to both sex and gender. Until the language evolves to separate out labels, such as sex and gender are doing now, this kind of confusion will continue, as well as arguments being made upon that ambiguity. I will take a stab and say the male/female will probably fall with sexual, while man/woman will fall with gender.
If you were to ask me if I would date a trans man, the answer is no. I prefer males for romantic partners. A trans man will never be male. That doesn't make me "transphobic" or any other variation of that word. I accept trans people I will give them the same courtesies I'd give anyone else. But on a romantic level a woman cannot be a man.
But, in going to leave it open, because you never know. I could meet a trans man that changes my mind. As of yet I haven't.
Always for the best. My one wife has always said she might enjoy being with a woman in bed, but she has yet to find the one to tempt her there. I would have doubted I would ever consider a trans woman, but I met one that struck all my "sensors" as female. I won't say that I wouldn't balk when it comes down to the wire, as far as a physical relationship goes. But right now the thought of her doesn't bother me as does the idea of being with any of the gay men who are among my friends. So who knows.