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Disclaimer: I'm in my 50s, youngest child of parents that grew up as Depression-era farm kids, so I'm coming from a relatively old-fashioned perspective. At the same time, I have a 21yo son and a number of close relatives in their teens, and understanding what it is to be a man in modern society is something I try to be open minded about.
Some history first, particularly for the young folks and those who haven't really thought about it in historical terms....
The baseline for my parent's generation was defined between 1930 and 1960. The 30s and 40s were pretty grim times, and called for hard men, hard decisions, and a resolve for struggle and suffering. Many men worked themselves to death before they were 50.
The 50s brought in a new era of prosperity. Hard work and saving was the key and that, and taking care of one's family well, was the defining issue of manhood in that era.
A thing to understand is WW2 opened the door to women working in factories and doing many jobs traditionally male. The 50's seemed to have a reactionary push-back to that, and societal pressure to reinforce stereotypical roles and behaviors again seemed dominant.
One thing you have to understand is this stuff occurs in cycles (like most things). No two cycles are identical but there are similarities.
The 60s resembled the 20s in some ways, as both eras involved loosening of societal strictures and a lot of what had previously been considered immoral behavior, but were more dramatic and more of a paradigm shift, as various women's movements joined under a general banner of feminism, not to mention the anti-war, hippies and so on.
Now to be very blunt... a lot of young male (15-35) behavior is directly attributable to "what does it take to get laid?" In the 50s it typically took a steady job and financial stability and marriage, though under the surface things were not nearly as straight-laced as the public image of the era.
The 60s answer to that question, for young men 18-30, was often to be "down with the struggle" or going with the popular trends and winds of change, to a large degree. Being Mr Manley Mann was no longer essential to getting laid or having man-friends. Being the Football Hero, War Hero or Bread Winner still had its fans but being Mr Sensitive Guy Who Says Down With the System rose to dominance as a winning reproductive strategy.
For a while, at least.
The 70s, which I remember well and compare to "the 60s with a hangover and the buzz wearing off" was more of a mixed bag. A lot of the social message disappeared under a glitzy facade of drugs, disco and Hippy/Boomers saying oh-****-we're-growing-up-NOW-what-do-we-do? The 70s had a party-hearty veneer covering a rather grim and uncertain subtext amid the oil crisis and Soviet expansionism.
A good many of them eventually fell back on a model similar to what their 50s-era parents did, and got corporate jobs and started climbing that ladder. The 80s were very businesslike and relatively strait-laced (in public at least) compared to the previous two decades. A slightly milder version of Mr Manley Mann was back "in", though feminism was certainly still around and still active.
The 90s were kind of defined sexually by Monica Lewinsky, Bill Clinton and oral-isn't-really-sex, along with the Nirvana generation, the rise of Emo and Goth subcultures and a lot of other things I won't go into to save time. In a way it sort of reflected back on the 20s and 60s: society was prospering but at the same time growing more "decadent" and more open to non-traditional behaviors and lifestyles. Manliness in the traditional sense began a slide back down the popularity scale, and more emotional expression in men became accepted and expected.
9/11 was a defining event and brought back manly role models like soldiers and fireman for a time, but the cultural trends reasserted themselves within a few years and continued into trends we see now: young men not becoming independent until their 30s, marrying late if at all, "hookups" and so forth.
Con't...
Some history first, particularly for the young folks and those who haven't really thought about it in historical terms....
The baseline for my parent's generation was defined between 1930 and 1960. The 30s and 40s were pretty grim times, and called for hard men, hard decisions, and a resolve for struggle and suffering. Many men worked themselves to death before they were 50.
The 50s brought in a new era of prosperity. Hard work and saving was the key and that, and taking care of one's family well, was the defining issue of manhood in that era.
A thing to understand is WW2 opened the door to women working in factories and doing many jobs traditionally male. The 50's seemed to have a reactionary push-back to that, and societal pressure to reinforce stereotypical roles and behaviors again seemed dominant.
One thing you have to understand is this stuff occurs in cycles (like most things). No two cycles are identical but there are similarities.
The 60s resembled the 20s in some ways, as both eras involved loosening of societal strictures and a lot of what had previously been considered immoral behavior, but were more dramatic and more of a paradigm shift, as various women's movements joined under a general banner of feminism, not to mention the anti-war, hippies and so on.
Now to be very blunt... a lot of young male (15-35) behavior is directly attributable to "what does it take to get laid?" In the 50s it typically took a steady job and financial stability and marriage, though under the surface things were not nearly as straight-laced as the public image of the era.
The 60s answer to that question, for young men 18-30, was often to be "down with the struggle" or going with the popular trends and winds of change, to a large degree. Being Mr Manley Mann was no longer essential to getting laid or having man-friends. Being the Football Hero, War Hero or Bread Winner still had its fans but being Mr Sensitive Guy Who Says Down With the System rose to dominance as a winning reproductive strategy.
For a while, at least.
The 70s, which I remember well and compare to "the 60s with a hangover and the buzz wearing off" was more of a mixed bag. A lot of the social message disappeared under a glitzy facade of drugs, disco and Hippy/Boomers saying oh-****-we're-growing-up-NOW-what-do-we-do? The 70s had a party-hearty veneer covering a rather grim and uncertain subtext amid the oil crisis and Soviet expansionism.
A good many of them eventually fell back on a model similar to what their 50s-era parents did, and got corporate jobs and started climbing that ladder. The 80s were very businesslike and relatively strait-laced (in public at least) compared to the previous two decades. A slightly milder version of Mr Manley Mann was back "in", though feminism was certainly still around and still active.
The 90s were kind of defined sexually by Monica Lewinsky, Bill Clinton and oral-isn't-really-sex, along with the Nirvana generation, the rise of Emo and Goth subcultures and a lot of other things I won't go into to save time. In a way it sort of reflected back on the 20s and 60s: society was prospering but at the same time growing more "decadent" and more open to non-traditional behaviors and lifestyles. Manliness in the traditional sense began a slide back down the popularity scale, and more emotional expression in men became accepted and expected.
9/11 was a defining event and brought back manly role models like soldiers and fireman for a time, but the cultural trends reasserted themselves within a few years and continued into trends we see now: young men not becoming independent until their 30s, marrying late if at all, "hookups" and so forth.
Con't...