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Do you expect men to usually pick up the tab?

I think men should the majority of the time.
 
Turin said:
Do you expect men to usually pick up the tab?

I think men should the majority of the time.
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I usually offer but most of the time the women pays for it. I'm not going to fight over it if she wants to pay.
 
Turin said:
Do you expect men to usually pick up the tab?

I think men should the majority of the time.
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First date, for sure. I'm okay with alternating after that unless he insists on paying every time.
 
Turin said:
Do you expect men to usually pick up the tab?

I think men should the majority of the time.
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The man should pay the tab and the woman should show her gratitude.
 
Bucky said:
I usually offer but most of the time the women pays for it. I'm not going to fight over it if she wants to pay.
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Wow...
 
Can I ask what the exceptions are in your mind?

Anyway, I would say they should.
 
Josie said:
Wow...
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Should I demand that I pay for it? I'll maybe make a second attempt to take care of the tab but if a woman insists to pay for the tab, why should I be forceful?
 
Bucky said:
Should I demand that I pay for it? I'll maybe make a second attempt to take care of the tab but if a woman insists to pay for the tab, why should I be forceful?
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Lachean said:
Why is it wow? Considering the opposite, a woman saying the same thing, is the norm? Just curious.
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I'm fairly old school. I wouldn't think much of a man who never paid for our dates.
 
Josie said:
I'm fairly old school. I wouldn't think much of a man who never paid for our dates.
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Oh, we pay for it alright! God only knows how we pay for it.:lamo
 
Josie said:
I'm fairly old school. I wouldn't think much of a man who never paid for our dates.
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Most women I know feel it would be insulting if I paid for their tab. I live in a fairly liberal city so things are backwards here.
 
Bucky said:
Most women I know feel it would be insulting if I paid for their tab. I live in a fairly liberal city so things are backwards here.
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Yeah, those women suck. Find better women.
 
If a mana wants to be the man he should pay the majority of the time unless long term and occasionally the woman treats.
 
The young lady that I took in for a while has no problem paying for half the dates. It's so there is no sense of needing to be 'obligated' for any reason... the whole maniuplation of 'Look how much I did for you, you owe me (sexually) business. On the other hand, she doesn't want to be a bum's 'sugar momma' either .
 
I'd say maybe it depends on who picked the place and how you wound up there..

I don't think it much matters as long as your not trying to get her to pay for them..
 
Turin said:
Do you expect men to usually pick up the tab?

I think men should the majority of the time.
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First this belongs in relationships, not sex and sexuality, IMHO.

That said, for me it would depend a lot on who asked whom out. If she asked me out, then it I said her obligation. If I ask d her, my obligation. Now if we just decided to stop off somewhere or go somewhere because it was the meal time, i.e. no one really asked the other out, that should be dutch. That is not to say that one cannot offer to pay for the other's especially if they know the other is in a tight money situation.

Now once regularly dating, for me and my now spouses, it just came down to a bit of bargaining. If one offered to pay before the others, they usually got it. Sometimes we ask, "Who has this one?" Usually the asker is willing to pay, but it is also balancing the budget a bit since we all maintain separate accounts. Also I ask my one wife often because she knows which account can better handle the expense. And yes we still date even though married.
 
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Josie said:
I'm fairly old school. I wouldn't think much of a man who never paid for our dates.
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While that is you, look at the situation he described. The woman insisted on paying.
 
I think that whoever offered the invitation should pay. Most of the time, that's going to be the man.
 
Turin said:
Do you expect men to usually pick up the tab?

I think men should the majority of the time.
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Where I come from, the inviter is always on the hook for the tab and not the invitee, particularly in casual, social get togethers, unless otherwise pre-arranged.

When a relationship is more permanent, a more balanced approach to sharing costs is favoured. One party, unless the wealth/income situation is incredibly imbalanced, should never be considered responsible for the tab all the time, and in the 21st century gender is not a defining factor in any of this.
 
Josie said:
First date, for sure. I'm okay with alternating after that unless he insists on paying every time.
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When I was dating, I insisted on picking up the tab: it's a gift to her. When she is good company I want to say thank you for a lovely evening. I open her door, I hold the umbrella, I allow her to go first to whatever venue seating, I let her choose the wine. I like going out of my way to nice and provide a comfortable secure friendship / whatever the future brings.
 
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