I Didn't Love My Husband As Much Once We Had Kids | YourTango
Woman reveals becoming a mother-of-two has made her love her spouse 'less' | Daily Mail Online
The first article - Those things she did 'because we were in love' weren't love.
This:
All this is like strange crush behavior that some people experience (not all) when they're googly-eyed gaga together. LOVE is what's there after that whole 'relationship honeymoon' time period is said and done.
Give her a clue - and if she's
openly telling him she actually loves him
less, she's being a cruel bitch and she needs therapy. Because that's a type of emotional and psychological
ABUSE.
Well when you IMAGINE that love is doing everything the other person wants to do - and never imagining you can do what you want, or finding ways to make it HAPPEN, then you're automatically setting yourself up for misery. Because THAT is not love. That's just having a hardcore CRUSH.
And that leads me to wonder: how was their relationship BEFORE children?
All the things she complained about (in fact, all the things both women complained about) I did notice there was no 'we sat down and TALKED about these things - before and after having the baby - to keep us close and communication strong between us.' Seems like she kept her issues to herself, didn't communicate with him, and didn't try to be open with him on an emotional level. She just built up negative feelings and sat on them like a penguin keeping an egg.
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I think what's being forgotten and overlooked in this 'the plight and hardships of women' article (as usual) is what MEN go through.
Marriage and Love is NOT a one-way street. Both people in a changing relationship (in this case: two becomes 3 or two becomes 4) deal with issues and struggles and, sadly, men get the shaft. When she's pregnant and having the baby every single one of his needs and concerns typically get overlooked. Everything is all about her and the baby - and he's cold-shouldered, on the side lines. And men, if they're being 'manly men', tend to not know how to deal with that or voice their issues. And then after the baby's born things are no longer the same and it takes time and effort to get and keep a marriage strong when things change.
I think this blog covers it well:
Why Men Leave
and this one:
Why Men Leave - A Hidden Epidemic