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Is calling a girl "cute" offensive or demeaning?

Re: Is calling a girl "cute" offensive or demeaning?

TheGoverness said:
How the **** would anybody find the term "cute" offensive or demeaning to them?
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Some crazy feminists are offended by it. Probably mostly because they're too ugly to be labeled cute. :shrug:
 
Maybe she wants to be told she is beautiful or looks amazing... those compliments are more favorable sounding that just "cute" .... :shrug:

That's my best guess.
 
Fishking said:
I can see how it could be seen as demeaning in a certain way. Cute can be used as a write-off, *someone is upset about something and you don't care that they are* "Aren't you cute?"

It's a very broad word, that has many flavors. Cute has a certain connotation of attractiveness that different (to me at least). You wouldn't call Angelina Jolie cute but something like hot. Cute would be someone who is attractive but gives off a vibe that seems more innocent.

At least, that's how I see it.
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I agree. I think cute is more appropriate for younger people, especially children. It's appropriate to call just about anybody cute, but you can't do the same with a compliment like "sexy."
 
SheWolf said:
Maybe she wants to be told she is beautiful or looks amazing... those compliments are more favorable sounding that just "cute" .... :shrug:

That's my best guess.
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Meh - only a narcissistic drama queen would be pissed off when a guy calls her "cute" because she thinks she's worthy of the word "beautiful".

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SheWolf said:
I agree. I think cute is more appropriate for younger people, especially children. It's appropriate to call just about anybody cute, but you can't do the same with a compliment like "sexy."
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yes being called sexy hot may be more offensive in some cases
 
Josie said:
Meh - only a narcissistic drama queen would be pissed off when a guy calls her "cute" because she thinks she's worthy of the word "beautiful".

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she must have some psychological problems or she just want to be appreciated for her intelligence
 
radcen said:
Is calling a girl "cute" offensive or demeaning?

Saw an article on Facebook a couple weeks ago (sorry, no longer can find the link), and a young 20-ish girl said she hated it when people called her "cute". She said it was demeaning because it starts her off a rung lower on the respect scale and makes her work harder just to reach the same respect level as others. Her story has stuck with me, though, and I find the question intriguing.

She did say she feels the same whether it's from men or women, and she does get it from both, though she wasn't as put off if it were from someone she has known for quite some time. Take from that what you will.

Personally, I would not say it to someone I don't know, but I will make a value judgment* based on looks just because I am a heterosexual guy and like attractive women. One's attractiveness being another's ugly, of course.

*- I do believe that ALL people make initial first impression snap judgments, on everything they encounter in life, including people, and anyone who claims not so is a liar.
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Maybe she would have preferred a more adult word phrase like "cum dumpster"? Then she could have been really offended. If some girl calls me hot or handsome I just take it as a complement...
 
Crovax said:
Maybe she would have preferred a more adult word phrase like "cum dumpster"? Then she could have been really offended. If some girl calls me hot or handsome I just take it as a complement...
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there is a difference between hot and handsome and if you ask me no guy can be offended by any compliment :mrgreen:
 
radcen said:
Is calling a girl "cute" offensive or demeaning?

Saw an article on Facebook a couple weeks ago (sorry, no longer can find the link), and a young 20-ish girl said she hated it when people called her "cute". She said it was demeaning because it starts her off a rung lower on the respect scale and makes her work harder just to reach the same respect level as others. Her story has stuck with me, though, and I find the question intriguing.

She did say she feels the same whether it's from men or women, and she does get it from both, though she wasn't as put off if it were from someone she has known for quite some time. Take from that what you will.

Personally, I would not say it to someone I don't know, but I will make a value judgment* based on looks just because I am a heterosexual guy and like attractive women. One's attractiveness being another's ugly, of course.

*- I do believe that ALL people make initial first impression snap judgments, on everything they encounter in life, including people, and anyone who claims not so is a liar.
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I think context is key here. In a professional context it might not be ideal yet it is not that big of a deal and if the person is trying got say something positive - just take the complement and move on.

It is just a friendly compliment most of the time and not dismissive or objectifying.

Oh on a different context I will say there is another way a woman might not like this. A friend of of mines SO alway went into detail of the extraordinary beauty or how gorgeous his exes were or the women around him Yet to his gf he would tell her she was kind of attractive and she began to think maybe she should move on.

Yet aside from a SO I think it is feminist overkill to make a big deal of a nice complement that probably meant not much.

tone might have played into it --- I the was demeaning and dismissive in a professional situation and then said well you are cute that could be yet if it was a genuine compliment - than just a nice thank you is sufficient and enjoy it for what it is.
 
It depends I guess. For instance, if you had the misfortune of calling a feminist cute, not only will you be deeply disappointed, but you'll also accrue the full scale of her righteous wrath.
 
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