I find your point I bolded excellent (and well written!).
Obviously I'm speaking in great generality (as you are), but I believe as men we often are more outward focusing in terms of physical action. We go out and build things, fix things, conquer places and things, break things we don't like, police others, etc. And I think this extends to sex, as we like to go out and find or capture it! So as men I think we naturally physically act out more than women, leading to your bolded statement. It's not just in sexual matters, but it's a male thing I believe, that also just happens extend to matters of sex. Us men just like to go out and 'do things'! Sex included! For better or worse consequences as well, as you described.
I don't think that's the least bit true. How can you say women want to participate less when, in modern times, that's not true at all, and in our culture's history, we have beaten or killed them whenever they tried?
Anthropology actually shows women to be fairly wayfaring, and quite handy -- it was likely women who invented a slight majority of important early technology, including the first sex toys.
Hell, even if you look at today, who is creating most of the political and psychological theory about sex these days? Women.
But of course, Abrahamic societies like ours have had a real issue with allowing women in public, for a thousand years or so.
Just because women have been historically disallowed from participating in our culture doesn't mean they didn't want to, or have less ability to.
There's a much more interesting possible reason why men are more susceptible specifically to intense paraphilias.
Men are a bit more susceptible to a neurological quirk where electrical signals will jump over the wrong gap, if the two are pressed too close together. Why this is, we're not sure.
But there's some evidence that this is the reason why, for example, it's mostly men who have strong foot fetishes. Pleasure centers in the brain, and genital pleasure centers specifically, are near the area that control the feet.
As to why women avoid the scene, it's not because they don't want to participate. They'd love to. It's just that many of them have seen the same thing Auntie saw: the scene is full of controlling assholes who think "all women are sub on the inside," and have a really messed up idea of what that means. It seems to have adopted sexism and rape culture from mainstream society without even noticing. It's rapey and creepy and women don't want to subject themselves to it, especially since the scene doesn't seem to care if something bad happens to them. Who could blame them?
In my experience, renegade kinksters are much better adjusted.
I agree!
And like most things in life (including sex!), 'timing is everything'! I think a thread like that would be best served by starting it on the beginning of weekend when everyone's loose, rather than on a Sunday night with a stressful Monday A.M. looming.
I'll give some thought to how I want to approach this, and see what I can do.
Awesome. Hopefully some food for thought above, and I look forward to it. :
That's the whole point of thread -- point vs. point.
