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Is dry humping cheating?

Is Dry Humping cheating?

  • Yes it is!

    Votes: 18 90.0%

  • No of course not!

    Votes: 2 10.0%
  • Total voters
    20
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As the title says...is dry humping cheating?

Edit:
Apparently there's a consensus.

Lets pretend there's a "scale of cheating".
On this scale actual intercourse and penetration is a 10.
If you vote yes what would dry humping be on the numerical scale 1-10?
 
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iliveonramen said:
As the title says...is dry humping cheating?
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Any type of intimate relationship with someone else is cheating. . . that means physical contact doesn't have to happen: if you develop an intense emotional relationship with someone when you're involved with someone else you're a dirty little cheating skank and no amount of minimization is going ot change that.
 
Assuming we're discussing the typical monogamous romantic relationship, I'd say so. Whether or not you "put it in" isn't really the question; it's not basketball.

It would also be cheating in my eyes if my partner was carrying on a long-distance romantic relationship with someone they had never even touched. Having sex is not the issue. The issue is a violation of the understood parameters of the relationship. The dishonesty and lack of integrity is what's wrong with cheating.

If anything, I would be even more pissed if my partner thought that doing everything but intercourse meant it wasn't cheating. Not only is that dishonest and lacking in integrity, but it's also sort of an insult to my intelligence and displays an extremely shallow and child-like grasp of relationships.
 
Aunt Spiker said:
Any type of intimate relationship with someone else is cheating. . . that means physical contact doesn't have to happen: if you develop an intense emotional relationship with someone when you're involved with someone else you're a dirty little cheating skank and no amount of minimization is going ot change that.
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I agree with this though, until the line of physical intimacy has been crossed the relationship is not completely consummated. Dry humping is close enough for that definition, so is oral or any other physical act. We're only talking degrees in all these situations but they also have degrees of responses too them.
 
Apparently there's a consensus.

Lets pretend there's a "scale of cheating".
On this scale actual intercourse and penetration is a 10.
If you vote yes what would dry humping be on the numerical scale 1-10?
 
iliveonramen said:
Apparently there's a consensus.

Lets pretend there's a "scale of cheating".
On this scale actual intercourse and penetration is a 10.
If you vote yes what would dry humping be on the numerical scale 1-10?
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What did you do that you're trying to get out of, hmm ? :D

It's the thought that counts - not the physical contact.

It's all bad: it's all volatile to the relationship and a smack in the face of the other faithful individual.
 
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SmokeAndMirrors said:
Assuming we're discussing the typical monogamous romantic relationship, I'd say so. Whether or not you "put it in" isn't really the question; it's not basketball.

It would also be cheating in my eyes if my partner was carrying on a long-distance romantic relationship with someone they had never even touched. Having sex is not the issue. The issue is a violation of the understood parameters of the relationship. The dishonesty and lack of integrity is what's wrong with cheating.

If anything, I would be even more pissed if my partner thought that doing everything but intercourse meant it wasn't cheating. Not only is that dishonest and lacking in integrity, but it's also sort of an insult to my intelligence and displays an extremely shallow and child-like grasp of relationships.
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LMFAO I love you lolol
 
iliveonramen said:
Apparently there's a consensus.

Lets pretend there's a "scale of cheating".
On this scale actual intercourse and penetration is a 10.
If you vote yes what would dry humping be on the numerical scale 1-10?
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Outercourse is a 5. Manual sex would be a 6. Oral jumps up to a 9 and intercourse would be a 10.

The reason being, in the case of the latter two, not only are they cheating but they're also potentially endangering my health by exposing me to whatever an unknown person has, and with intercourse they're potentially putting a permanent wedge in the relationship by risking pregnancy with a different partner. If the cheating and the complication wasn't enough to end the relationship (which it would be, but for the sake of argument...) that definitely would be, because I'm childfree and I won't deal with having a kid brought into my life. Especially not some stranger's kid.

In other words, the first 5 points are for being a dishonest jerk. The second 5 points are for endangering me and risking disrupting my life while you're at it. But let me be clear: 5 is enough to make me dump someone.
 
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Aunt Spiker said:
What did you do that you're trying to get out of, hmm ? :D
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Haha! I can see how you'd draw that conclusion since I didn't ask the question with background. I didn't want to influence opinion by putting it into context.

. This is in regards to a friend and his girlfriend that won't let him go to a bachelor party
A) She is extremely jealous of him seeing other girls naked
B) she would kill him if he had a lap dance

This got me thinking...is dry humping cheating? Do men and women have different views on this?
 
SmokeAndMirrors said:
Outercourse is a 5. Manual sex would be a 6. Oral jumps up to a 9 and intercourse would be a 10.

The reason being, in the case of the latter two, not only are they cheating but they're also potentially endangering my health by exposing me to whatever an unknown person has, and they're potentially putting a permanent wedge in the relationship by risking pregnancy with a different partner. If the cheating and the complication wasn't enough to end the relationship (which it would be, but for the sake of argument...) that definitely would be, because I'm childfree and I won't deal with having a kid brought into my life. Especially not someone stranger's kid.

In other words, the first 5 points are for being a dishonest jerk. The second 5 points are for endangering me and risking disrupting my life while you're at it.
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That makes sense. I never thought about it in context of personal safety.
 
iliveonramen said:
Haha! I can see how you'd draw that conclusion since I didn't ask the question with background. I didn't want to influence opinion by putting it into context.

. This is in regards to a friend and his girlfriend that won't let him go to a bachelor party
A) She is extremely jealous of him seeing other girls naked
B) she would kill him if he had a lap dance

This got me thinking...is dry humping cheating? Do men and women have different views on this?
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I gotta say under those circumstances I wouldn't care. But that's just me. Every relationship sets its own rules. According to how I think, getting a lap dance at your bachelor party is fun and games. However, if you didn't TELL me about it then we might have a problem. I can't imagine any guy I've dated not telling me, because I think anyone who knows me would know I wouldn't care.
 
iliveonramen said:
As the title says...is dry humping cheating?

Edit:
Apparently there's a consensus.

Lets pretend there's a "scale of cheating".
On this scale actual intercourse and penetration is a 10.
If you vote yes what would dry humping be on the numerical scale 1-10?
Click to expand...

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iliveonramen said:
Haha! I can see how you'd draw that conclusion since I didn't ask the question with background. I didn't want to influence opinion by putting it into context.

. This is in regards to a friend and his girlfriend that won't let him go to a bachelor party
A) She is extremely jealous of him seeing other girls naked
B) she would kill him if he had a lap dance

This got me thinking...is dry humping cheating? Do men and women have different views on this?
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Is there an emotional relationship between him and the stripper? Then it's not cheating to me - context is everything. IT's all about the heart and soul.

It's sleazy, though, and if I were in that situation I wouldn't go through with a marriage to someone who didn't understand and respect my views - but cheating is emotional and done to fill a void or distance ones self from the partner . . . being a sleaze is just being a sleaze.
 
iliveonramen said:
Apparently there's a consensus.

Lets pretend there's a "scale of cheating".
On this scale actual intercourse and penetration is a 10.
If you vote yes what would dry humping be on the numerical scale 1-10?
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LoL... we all are saying that cheating is cheating emotionally or physically a 10 every time.
The degree of how pissed we might get varies from person to personality.

There are too many other variables you're not factoring in like, are they married, a couple or just dating?
Is one passive, insecure not good in relationships, etc.
Is it in response to another's infidelity and with someone you know and love or loathe?

I don't know what I'd do, until faced with the situation but it wouldn't be good.
Hopefully I could be forgiving once but not repeatedly.

I agree with this scale of impropriety by S&M

"Outercourse is a 5. Manual sex would be a 6. Oral jumps up to a 9 and intercourse would be a 10."
 
Cheating is based on context, desire, and action. Therefore, I say it's cheating.
 
This was what a girl I know emailed

Definitely cheating! Kissing is cheating to me. Holding hands is cheating...talking about feelings is essentially cheating. Anything behind my back isn't cool...until you talk to me and say you want to do something with someone else, it's cheating.
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if you are in a monogomous relationship, you should not be kissing or dry-humping someone other than your partner.

its as bad as cheating. at the very least, it shows a wishy-washy commitment to exlusivity.
 
iliveonramen said:
This was what a girl I know emailed
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Like the Rev and Aunty said, cheating is in the heart. But flirting can actually be healthy as long as it remains platonic. If you can't stand your mate/lover even looking or playing without sincerity, then you'll be miserably insecure.
 
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